Dealing with rejection

**Scottdau** · 04-19-2009, 04:25 AM

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It is a part of life. If you can learn that at 20 you will have an easier time dealing with it when you are 37.

DC · 04-19-2009, 10:12 AM

Re: Dealing with rejection

Originally posted by Blzer

There was a girl that I hung out with a lot last year (I spoke about her on here). She has a boyfriend, but I feel like I may be "next in line" with her, though I don't like it to appear that way. This year I'm actually fishing, and there's another one that I'm doing the slow progression with. The thing about it is that I want to make sure that they like me and that they like me for who I am, because I would much rather be friends in the end than have awkward moments all of the time because I decided to make that one stupid move. It's happened before and I've learned from it.

We'll see where things go from here.

Why waste time on a girl with a dude?

**ex carrabba fan** · 04-19-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally posted by DCAllAmerican

Why waste time on a girl with a dude?

I was surprised I hadn't seen you until now

The first few posts had me feelin bad. Especially Dakkon. I mean you invested years into this girl? For what? Uggh, I'm not mad at you but just mad that we let girls do that, let them friendzone us, and we aren't even suspecting a thing. That is some real sad stuff

Hopefully that will be the first and last time that happens to you or to anyone.

**ProfessaPackMan** · 04-19-2009, 01:28 PM

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He needs to post those Mack Lessons on here again.

DC · 04-19-2009, 01:50 PM

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Dakkon I think you just wasted too much time with the girl. Time not going in for the kill is what I am saying.

**Husker_OS** · 04-19-2009, 07:46 PM

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Rejection is a part of life. Everyone gets rejected at some point. Going to a college of roughly 26,000 students with roughly 14,500 of them being female, I've learned and practice two things.

1. Its a numbers game. The more girls you go up to and flirt with and get their number, the better chance you'll get a 1st, 2nd, 3rd date with a girl.

2. Confidence is one thing that nearly every girl is attracted to. Next time you're at a party or a bar, go up to the hottest girl at the party and strike up a conversation with her. Chances are, she'll talk to you and so long as you don't make it sound like you're on a mission to get laid(even though you are)she'll probably talk your ear off and you'll get her number and possible even a date out of it.

If you watch How I Met Your Mother, Barney has a great pick-up line that never fails. Pick out a group of girls at a bar/party. Get a friend and go up to them and do this..

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It works, trust me.

**bgeno** · 04-19-2009, 10:35 PM

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Originally posted by Husker_OS

Rejection is a part of life. Everyone gets rejected at some point. Going to a college of roughly 26,000 students with roughly 14,500 of them being female, I've learned and practice two things.

1. Its a numbers game. The more girls you go up to and flirt with and get their number, the better chance you'll get a 1st, 2nd, 3rd date with a girl.

2. Confidence is one thing that nearly every girl is attracted to. Next time you're at a party or a bar, go up to the hottest girl at the party and strike up a conversation with her. Chances are, she'll talk to you and so long as you don't make it sound like you're on a mission to get laid(even though you are)she'll probably talk your ear off and you'll get her number and possible even a date out of it.

If you watch How I Met Your Mother, Barney has a great pick-up line that never fails. Pick out a group of girls at a bar/party. Get a friend and go up to them and do this..

<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/gkYcaVel5bo&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/gkYcaVel5bo&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>

It works, trust me.

I'm... actually going to try that. It can't hurt, right?

**hardcor2** · 04-20-2009, 02:12 AM

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I got a question and figured this was as good a place as any to ask.

Saturday night I was at a party and one of my friend's friend was apparently flirting with me a lot. I was pretty drunk and i guess i didn't notice that she was practically throwing herself at me til after she left and everyone gave me crap about not doing anything. I've hung out with her a few times before and she's always really nice and chats me up but I never really thought much of it til now. I like her but I don't want to mess up the friendship we do have.

One of my other friends said everyone noticed how much she was flirting with me but they weren't sure if she was truly interested in me or just drunk and flirty. How should I handle this without screwing it up?

**Cebby** · 04-20-2009, 08:07 AM

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Originally posted by hardcor#2

One of my other friends said everyone noticed how much she was flirting with me but they weren't sure if she was truly interested in me or just drunk and flirty.

The two aren't mutually exclusive.

How should I handle this without screwing it up?

If you're actually friends with her, I'd imagine you did the right thing.

**jct32** · 04-20-2009, 09:59 PM

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Alright, so I'm pretty sure that I will be posting in this thread soon looking for advice.

**hardcor2** · 04-20-2009, 10:05 PM

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Originally posted by Cebby

The two aren't mutually exclusive.

If you're actually friends with her, I'd imagine you did the right thing.

I know they're not mutually exclusive but no one was really sure if she was flirting because she really liked me or if she was flirting only because she was drunk and not into me. That's my problem. If she actually likes me like that then I would make a move, but if not then I'm perfectly fine just remaining friends. Even our mutual friend she came with, who happens to be like her best friend in possibly the entire universe, doesn't really know.

**Herbsinator** · 04-20-2009, 10:35 PM

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Originally posted by hardcor#2

I know they're not mutually exclusive but no one was really sure if she was flirting because she really liked me or if she was flirting only because she was drunk and not into me. That's my problem. If she actually likes me like that then I would make a move, but if not then I'm perfectly fine just remaining friends. Even our mutual friend she came with, who happens to be like her best friend in possibly the entire universe, doesn't really know.

You should have just taken the chance when you guys were both drunk...that way if she actually wasn't into you, you could just play it off like you were drunk and not thinking clearly. However, if she was into you---> Sexy time.

**matt8204** · 04-21-2009, 10:58 AM

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I guess you have to treat rejection the way a hitter in baseball treats a poor at-bat. You're not going to succeed everytime. In fact, you may fail more often than not. Many times, it's not your fault. But you have to forget about the last at-bat and take your hacks next time.

**USF11** · 04-21-2009, 11:38 AM

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Originally posted by ProjectRipCity

Hey, I (20) recently went on this date with this girl (19)

Until last night I was really confident in myself, but now I'm really butt hurt. Lets just say me and her are complete opposites. I love sports, she hates sports. She believes in her religion, I believe in nothing. Different music styles ect.

She had this uncanny ability to make me feel extremely bored and nervous. I actually started watching the Laker game on the plasmas inside the resturant. But other than that I could of not of been less cool. I would say I'm a little better looking than average, but my question is...Was it my confidence? Or would she atleast keep me around if I was tremendously great looking? Not that I care cuz we are polar opposites...Again guys...We have all been butt hurt. Well atleast most of us have.

Does anyone else have a story so I dont feel like such crap? lol

Your gonna meet people you don't click with. Just let it go, better then wasting time trying to change someone.

**callmetaternuts** · 04-21-2009, 02:59 PM

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If you arent happy, or are with someone that you dont "mesh" with, there's no harm in calling it a day and letting that one go. There are a ton of cliches that you can find, or you can just use logic. Would you rather wake up everyday and be excited at either the prospect of meeting someone that makes you happy (or if you are with her, staying with her), or do you want to wake up and dread the fact that you are unhappy with someone......

Dealing with rejection

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