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  • USF11
    C*rr*ntly *n L*f* T*lt
    • Jun 2003
    • 4245

    #31
    Re: Is this evil??

    Originally posted by JBH3
    I'm not taking you out of context. You obviously didn't read what ODogg said, and then you're going to give him advice???

    He stated he "felt this strange sense of how I wished it would fail too" in regards to his so-called friend remarrying. So WTF were you saying...?
    Ok, I get u. I understand ODogg, I dont agree with him, but I understand him.

    All I meant by my post is that is normal to harbor feeling of resentment toward other people from time to time.

    And I am also sure that if the person in Question was really a true friend to ODogg he would understand his feelings.
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    • ODogg
      Hall Of Fame
      • Feb 2003
      • 37953

      #32
      Re: Is this evil??

      All, just to clarify, this is not a close friend. And I don't honestly wish his marriage would fail. I just wish that I didn't have to hear about perfect it is all the time and how he somewhat rubs my face in it. In fact I get that alot from my married friends. It's just annoying and as USF11 said I think it's normal, that's why I posted here, just to see if others have had the occasional "jeesh STFU we get it, you got cute kids who do (fill in the blank)".

      Also, no one needs to worry i'm freaking out over here. I just have an active mind and like to get feedback from people on here about things, yes even sometimes what some folks may call more personal things. I get the fact that for many of you the stuff I post you would never post in here but that's just who I am.

      And to get back to the original point, about my friends second marriage failing and me wishing it so, I should clarify, I meant my subconscious mind, that little evil voice you sometimes hear, will put this thought forward but my logical mind is like, that is ridiculous, I would never wish that on him or anyone. It's not really much different IMO of how you think "God I hate (fill-in-the-athlete-you-hate) and I wish he would get his knee blown out and be out of football" in moments of emotion but you really don't want that person to have that happen to them.

      I think the bottom line is that I have to post in here to all of you to continue my facade of appearing human to those who I see in my daily life
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      • JohnnytheSkin
        All Star
        • Jul 2003
        • 5914

        #33
        Re: Is this evil??

        Originally posted by ODogg
        And I don't honestly wish his marriage would fail. I just wish that I didn't have to hear about perfect it is all the time and how he somewhat rubs my face in it. In fact I get that alot from my married friends.
        See...that's the problem. YOU believe he rubs your face in it, when in reality it's probably something he's proud of.

        God knows I talk about my son a lot, as does my wife, about how he's doing this and that in school, did this during sports, had a 41 note streak in 'Rock Band', etc. Heck, I even brought up how proud I was that he made it to the toilet when he was throwing up early Sunday morning while I was chatting it up at softball practice later that day.

        [turns out the five second rule does NOT apply for food dropped on the floor at a sporting event]

        If someone is proud of their child, loves their wife, and thinks life is going well for them...why wouldn't they discuss it.

        You might be happy about your job and talk about that, someone else might be proud of their lawn and new home project, but your friend is obviously happiest discussing his or her family. There's nothing wrong with that.
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        • ubernoob
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          • Jul 2004
          • 15522

          #34
          Re: Is this evil??

          Originally posted by JohnnytheSkin
          God knows I talk about my son a lot, as does my wife, about how he's doing this and that in school, did this during sports, had a 41 note streak in 'Rock Band', etc. Heck, I even brought up how proud I was that he made it to the toilet when he was throwing up early Sunday morning while I was chatting it up at softball practice later that day.
          He needs practice.
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          • ODogg
            Hall Of Fame
            • Feb 2003
            • 37953

            #35
            Re: Is this evil??

            I think it's a case of it's fine to be proud of your wife, your kids, your job or whatever, but if you have an unemployed friend do you constantly talk to him about how much cash you're piling back each week at your high paying job?
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            • JohnnytheSkin
              All Star
              • Jul 2003
              • 5914

              #36
              Re: Is this evil??

              Originally posted by ODogg
              I think it's a case of it's fine to be proud of your wife, your kids, your job or whatever, but if you have an unemployed friend do you constantly talk to him about how much cash you're piling back each week at your high paying job?
              No, but if my unemployed friend wasn't actively seeking a job and just moped about how unhappy he is I probably wouldn't be hanging around him all that much in the first place.

              Why would I want to handcuff the topics I could talk about with a friend, when said "friend" would only resent everything I say? Case in point, my best man recently filed for divorce, and while we were talking about his problem he asked about my marriage and he still found a way to be happy about our recent anniversary. Did it feel weird talking to my friend about it during his painful time? Yeah, but real friends can take joy in others happiness and not be continually dour.

              I mean this in the nicest way ODogg, and it's been echoed again in this thread, but you need help. You can't keep having these negative, depressing, and at times hostile thoughts. While some might like reading the "train wreck" posts, OS isn't the place to get what you need.

              Originally posted by ubernoob
              He needs practice.
              He's only five, LOL.
              Last edited by JohnnytheSkin; 05-26-2009, 10:51 PM.
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              • ubernoob
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                • Jul 2004
                • 15522

                #37
                Re: Is this evil??

                When I was 5, I beat dragonforce on expert.

                Either that, or I was pooping my pants still.


                BTW ODogg, if you ever wanna chat I'd be interested in piquing your brain for a few
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                • pfunk880
                  MVP
                  • Jul 2004
                  • 4452

                  #38
                  Re: Is this evil??

                  Originally posted by ubernoob
                  He needs practice.
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                  • ExtremeGamer
                    Extra Life 11/3/18
                    • Jul 2002
                    • 35299

                    #39
                    Re: Is this evil??

                    Two things I gotta touch on that have bothered me from post 1 of this thread.

                    One, ODogg, I don't even read all your posts and I swear several times I've read about how good your job is and that you make six figures. So you do the same on here, probably don't even realize it. We are all proud of things in our life that are going good, and like to brag about it. That's human nature because you're happy about something. So you may want to step back and realize you probably do it to your friends as well.

                    Two, and this is the one I may have major problems with, I was hoping someone else would ask, but no one did. You said in your head you were hoping they would fall apart when talking about the married couple. You went on to say you are sick of hearing about friend's kids. Since you are wishing a married couple to collapse, what are you thinking about the kids? Failure? Or worse? Just struck me from the very first post in your tone, I have a feeling I know what you are thinking, and it pretty much scares me that anyone can have those feelings. So tell me I'm wrong I guess.

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                    • DaveDQ
                      13
                      • Sep 2003
                      • 7664

                      #40
                      Re: Is this evil??

                      Odogg, I think you have a discernment of something and you are expressing it in an extreme. What Larry David was doing in that episode was showing how a friend was acting in extreme but very well knew that George was making a mistake.

                      Because of our ego, we continually do things to imply positive themes in our lives. Your friend went from being madly in love to finding out his love was cheating on him, and in no time, found another lover. It's not that you want him to fail, it's that you want the stupidity of it all to be exposed, because your feelings are, "How can you already start talking about how in love you are when you just got burnt by someone you claim you were madly in love with?"

                      I wouldn't say it's jealousy. I'd say it's one of those things where you may need to not anticipate the fall of your friends, but balance it in knowing that they are feeding their ego when they go on and on about their life, knowing that they are not as well off as they claim.

                      Our egos sometimes get the best of us and we find ourselves in penis measuring contests. When someone is continually going on about how wonderful things are, it becomes annoying and we may feel we want to see them fail. But, in reality we just want them to be more reasonable and genuine.
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                      • FlyingFinn
                        MVP
                        • Jul 2002
                        • 3956

                        #41
                        Re: Is this evil??

                        Do you ever stop to think that maybe this person isn't really all that happy? Sometimes people say things that aren't true to A)try to lie to themselves enough so they believe it or B) to try and make someone feel worse then they do so they feel better.

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                        • JBH3
                          Marvel's Finest
                          • Jan 2007
                          • 13506

                          #42
                          Re: Is this evil??

                          Originally posted by ODogg
                          All, just to clarify, this is not a close friend. And I don't honestly wish his marriage would fail. I just wish that I didn't have to hear about perfect it is all the time and how he somewhat rubs my face in it. In fact I get that alot from my married friends. It's just annoying and as USF11 said I think it's normal, that's why I posted here, just to see if others have had the occasional "jeesh STFU we get it, you got cute kids who do (fill in the blank)".
                          Well given that you and USF11 are the only ones seeing eye to eye is it really that normal? Or are you two just peas in a pod?

                          You honestly sound like a jealous-type, and regardless of how you want to retract your first post to save face we all know what it is you're really haboring - jealousy and spite for someone you consider a friend.

                          Since it bothers you so much that these so-called friends of yours talk/brag about what they're proud of, tell them, NOT US.
                          It seems like you come on here to vent so that you don't have to face a person, and that's a major downfall from all of these social networking/message boards etc.

                          Next time Kevin or whoever is speaking proudly of their happiness don't run to OS to vent, tell him "dude...it really bothers me that you talk about your success all the time."

                          Maybe you can then actually get it all out on the table, and this person will see that you're not a genuine friend, they'll no longer want to be your friend, and it'll be one less person you get jealous over.

                          It's a win, win,....win.
                          Originally posted by Edmund Burke
                          All that is needed for the triumph of evil, is for good men to do nothing.

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                          • JohnnytheSkin
                            All Star
                            • Jul 2003
                            • 5914

                            #43
                            Re: Is this evil??

                            Originally posted by USF11
                            I have said it before and I will say it again. No matter how old any of us get we are all children. So of us just clutter our life with work, school, children, marriages to cover up this fact.
                            Yeah...speak for yourself on that one.

                            These umbrella statements have got to go. "We all" and "everyone feels this way" are just excuses to insulate yourself from the harsh realities of your own life.

                            When I was a kid I got jealous of my friends getting new Transformers or NES games and would get upset. Now, if someone gets a new car, TV, finds love, or gets a new job, I don't wish them ill. It's "hey, good job", maybe I can save for that, find that, etc.

                            Going home and whining about it does as much good as it did when I was ten...which is to say absolutely nothing.
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                            • USF11
                              C*rr*ntly *n L*f* T*lt
                              • Jun 2003
                              • 4245

                              #44
                              Re: Is this evil??

                              Originally posted by JohnnytheSkin
                              Yeah...speak for yourself on that one.

                              These umbrella statements have got to go. "We all" and "everyone feels this way" are just excuses to insulate yourself from the harsh realities of your own life.

                              When I was a kid I got jealous of my friends getting new Transformers or NES games and would get upset. Now, if someone gets a new car, TV, finds love, or gets a new job, I don't wish them ill. It's "hey, good job", maybe I can save for that, find that, etc.

                              Going home and whining about it does as much good as it did when I was ten...which is to say absolutely nothing.
                              Ahh, I whole heartedly disagree.
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                              • JBH3
                                Marvel's Finest
                                • Jan 2007
                                • 13506

                                #45
                                Re: Is this evil??

                                Originally posted by JohnnytheSkin
                                Yeah...speak for yourself on that one.

                                These umbrella statements have got to go. "We all" and "everyone feels this way" are just excuses to insulate yourself from the harsh realities of your own life.

                                When I was a kid I got jealous of my friends getting new Transformers or NES games and would get upset. Now, if someone gets a new car, TV, finds love, or gets a new job, I don't wish them ill. It's "hey, good job", maybe I can save for that, find that, etc.

                                Going home and whining about it does as much good as it did when I was ten...which is to say absolutely nothing.
                                Ahh, I whole heartedly A-gree.
                                Originally posted by Edmund Burke
                                All that is needed for the triumph of evil, is for good men to do nothing.

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