Prenuptial agreements

[Scottdau]

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They can laugh all they want. The reason that they laugh is because weak willed guys allow them to balk at a prenup and get married without one. I dont want to appear egotistical but the odds are in my favor. I'm a single black man with a good job, no criminal history and no kids in perhaps the city with the most professional single women per capita in the country (Washington DC). Because of that simple fact, I never have an issue meeting new women. A single black man with a good job could look like the elephant man and still meet women.

If I propose to a woman and she balks at a prenup thats completely fair to both people..then thats not the women for me and I'll meet someone else.

I hear what you are saying, but this really made me cry. I really it mean. You would walk away from a woman you love because of a prenup. I hear what you are saying about you being a black man with a good job and maybe that has something to do with it ( I am trying to go into race). I respect you Alhobert you are good guy, but if you are willing to through away the love you shared with some woman, because see wouldn't sign a prenup, then you are right don't get married. It is not for you, just keep dating.

[Scottdau]

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You are talking out of both sides of your mouth. You cant say "I'm not saying its not OK yo get a prenup" and then say "Its a bad start for a marriage". LOL. Which one is it. Is it OK or is it a bad idea?

That is the problem saying it is OK, but I am saying it is not good for the marriage. You really don't understand that. I am saying if you want a prenup go for it, but it is not a good start for the marriage. It is OK, but it is wrong in my eyes.

[aholbert32]

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I hear what you are saying, but this really made me cry. I really it mean. You would walk away from a woman you love because of a prenup. I hear what you are saying about you being a black man with a good job and maybe that has something to do with it ( I am trying to go into race). I respect you Alhobert you are good guy, but if you are willing to through away the love you shared with some woman, because see wouldn't sign a prenup, then you are right don't get married. It is not for you, just keep dating.

If a woman isnt logical enough to see that a prenup is beneficial for both people then she isnt the right one for me and thats why I bring it up early in a relationship.

[Scottdau]

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OK I think I know what you are asking. So I will try it again if you both agree on a prenup fine good for it. I still say it is not a good start for a marriage, but it happens. My dad and mom had one, but they were on their second marriage and in their 50's. So in that case I say it is good, but it is for selfish reasons and that reason is me. My dad has money and so does my mom. If something happens to them I get it all. MY brother died 10 years ago. So in this case I was OK with a prenup. Though I did say it was wrong and not a good start for the marriage. So go figure.

[DC]

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Scott I say this in all respect. You are full of it man.

[Scottdau]

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If a woman isnt logical enough to see that a prenup is beneficial for both people then she isnt the right one for me and thats why I bring it up early in a relationship.

That is why I feel better. You scared me when you said when you propose and she said no to a prenup you would split.

[TheLetterZ]

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I hear what you are saying, but this really made me cry. I really it mean. You would walk away from a woman you love because of a prenup. I hear what you are saying about you being a black man with a good job and maybe that has something to do with it ( I am trying to go into race). I respect you Alhobert you are good guy, but if you are willing to through away the love you shared with some woman, because see wouldn't sign a prenup, then you are right don't get married. It is not for you, just keep dating.

Why is it a bad reason to walk away? You don't think there's ever a good reason to leave someone you love?

What if you really want kids and she doesn't? You'd marry her anyway, knowing that?

If people have very strong mutually exclusive opinions about something that is important to them, they shouldn't be together, even if they love each other.

[Scottdau]

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Scott I say this in all respect. You are full of it man.

No problem. I will say it is bad for a marriage and not a good start, but I still say it is OK for one. Especially if you have worth. Just becasue I say it is OK for one doe not make it right. I think this where you guys are getting confused. I still believe they are not what a marriage should be built on, but I understand them.

[Scottdau]

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Why is it a bad reason to walk away? You don't think there's ever a good reason to leave someone you love?

What if you really want kids and she doesn't? You'd marry her anyway, knowing that?

If people have very strong mutually exclusive opinions about something that is important to them, they shouldn't be together, even if they love each other.

Because she wont sign a prenup. That is what I am talking about. Sure there are reasons, but a prenup. I mean come on.

[TheLetterZ]

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Because she wont sign a prenup. That is what I am talking about. Sure there are reasons, but a prenup. I mean come on.

It's not a question of what it is, but of how important it is to the individual person. Everyone has their own set of things that is important to him or her.

And why are you putting all of the responsibility on the man here? If the woman really loved the man, she wouldn't say no to marriage because of a prenup.

[Scottdau]

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It's not a question of what it is, but of how important it is to the individual person. Everyone has their own set of things that is important to him or her.

And why are you putting all of the responsibility on the man here? If the woman really loved the man, she wouldn't say no to marriage because of a prenup.

I don't know man, I disagree. How do you expect someone to feel. Lets say the woman you love said that to you. How would you feel? I love you but I don't know if this is going to last, so can you sign this? I guess we just see it different.

[DC]

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[mgoblue]

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I hear what you are saying, but this really made me cry. I really it mean. You would walk away from a woman you love because of a prenup. I hear what you are saying about you being a black man with a good job and maybe that has something to do with it ( I am trying to go into race). I respect you Alhobert you are good guy, but if you are willing to through away the love you shared with some woman, because see wouldn't sign a prenup, then you are right don't get married. It is not for you, just keep dating.

She's walking away from you because she won't get a prenup...there are two people involved in this. Why should she do that if she's gonna be with me for life? In your world prenups should never actually be invoked, so why be scared to get one? If it's something I wanted, and isn't truly unreasonable, shouldn't she compromise? Not pitch a fit and yell that I don't love her?

I'd be concerned if it was a dealbreaker for my possible fiance, because then I'd wonder if she was just out for my money...It'd make me at least re-think things because she was flipping out over "nothing"...I'd hate to marry her and then a year later she wants a divorce and gets my house, car, and money that I earned....

I guess I just plan for the worst case scenario. I'm very logical in my mindset and have to be ready for every situation. Having a flashlight and candles in my condo just in case power goes out, even though I've never had to use them, etc...

[mgoblue]

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Because she wont sign a prenup. That is what I am talking about. Sure there are reasons, but a prenup. I mean come on.

If she's willing to walk away because she won't sign a prenup is she really someone you should marry? Someone who walks away at the first sign of something serious?

[mgoblue]

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That is why I feel better. You scared me when you said when you propose and she said no to a prenup you would split.

What if you were in this situation? Woman you're dating wants a prenup? Do you split because she's obviously outrageous in what she wants? If so, how do you "truly love her" like you believe, and yet bail so easily?