Has there ever been a time you were slow to catch a hint regarding a female?

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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The most frustrating thing is watching 2 shy people try to get together. Both like each other, but neither wants to make a move.

Me and my first ex. didn't get together (and probably never would have) til we were both tipsy watching a college football game. Sometimes, alcohol is the key ingredient.

[Pokes]

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I remember going into a grocery store to get a pack of red bull and one of the girls there asked me if I lived around here and if I shopped here often. And I was like yeah I just moved here and then I asked her where she was from and she said the apartments just down the road and gave me the number. To which I just said nice, took me red bull and left.

No red hair = fail.

[matt8204]

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I don't know if this is a miss signal or not (guess I'm still clueless, lol) but this one girl I knew would always ask me what I was doing on the weekend whenever I ran into her. I also remember her making some positive comments on my physique and asking me the age I wanted to be married by. Yeah, I guess she did like me...

[Bornindamecca]

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Or just change Po Pimp to No Pimp.

I would have called, homework or no homework.

Guess who has a new nickname? bwah ha


I've generally been horrible at picking up signals until these last couple of years. When I was younger, girls had to literally "come on" to me for me to realize there was any interest at all. There were two times where a girl came over to my house for me to do her portrait. As I was doing the portrait, it took some extra flirting on her end for me to go "OH! She didn't come here for me to sketch her!" Then out loud. "Mind doing some nudes?"

Over time, I've learned to realize how women show interest. I still play it too safe, and choose to pull women into two or three more encounters than I need before taking it to the next level.

[Po Pimp]

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I don't know if this is a miss signal or not (guess I'm still clueless, lol) but this one girl I knew would always ask me what I was doing on the weekend whenever I ran into her. I also remember her making some positive comments on my physique and asking me the age I wanted to be married by. Yeah, I guess she did like me...

It's really only a loss if she was cute.

[matt8204]

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It's really only a loss if she was cute.

Yeah, she's pretty good-looking actually. I don't know why I didn't make a move. But I hear that she's in this weird on-again, off-again relationship now. I don't want to get in the middle of that. Plenty of other fish...

[techhokies]

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I've realized that if I'm debating the move in my mind that I should just do it because that's enough of a signal. Overthinking can kill you!

The day I figured that out changed my whole dating life. The first time I stopped over thinking and just went for it, I got rejected but then I figured out that I just saved a couple weeks of useless flirting.

[KingV2k3]

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It happened to me today and I'm soooo pissed at myself that I'm actually going to post the story, in the hope that some of you younger guys learn something useful from it...and to get it off my chest...

I was late getting on my flight to JFK from a short trip to see relatives in Tampa this morning...traveling on JetBlue...

I get on the plane and see that my seat (first row aisle) is occuped by someone who obviously doesn't belong there. I proceed to make a joke about it to the ridiculously beatutiful flight attendant (a knockout stewardess is true rarity these days, but she looked like she could have been homegirls with the R+B singer Estelle, had a bit of a British accent, trendy short haircut, Halle Berry body, legs for days in heels that were built for the bedroom, etc.) who laughed, took my arm and began sorting out the seating mess...

I realized that I could make things easier by just taking the seat on the asile directly across from the one I was assigned and she once again, gave me a warmer than usual look and thanked me for being a 'good sport'...

As the plane got ready for takeoff, I was checking her out, checking me out checking her out, etc...the jump seat she was in was six feet from me on a 45 degree angle...

After a while, she got to work and because I was really tired (early flight after a late night), nodded off...

When it was time for beverage service, she came straight up to me and took my order first.

I asked for "a cup of coffee with cream, no sugar".

THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART!

She purred: "Are you suuuuure you don't want any sugar"?

AT WHICH POINT I BLEW IT (Part One) by replying "No thank you"

THE PROPER RESPONSE IS:

"I'd love some, not neccesarily in my coffee, but yes please, gorgeous".

It's corny and James Bond dialog-y, but trust me, that's exactly what hott women over thirty expect. It's a test, straight up.

She gave me the green light to flirt with her and I wiffed.

Now I'm all pissed at myself, and trying to figure out how to pull this thing back on track when, again, I BLOW IT (Part Deux):

She eventually brings me the coffee and says "well here you are, Mr. Cream, No Sugar" and smiles...

THE PROPER RESPONSE:

"Don't get me wrong, I'd love some sugar, just not in my coffee"

MY ASSININE RESPONSE:

"Thanks"

She rolled her eyes like I was suddenly clueless and pathetic (maybe because I was) and a major dissapointment...I went from cool guy (when boarding), to eye sex guy (when we were taking off) to this guy who apparently wasn't interested...

The flirting stopped and although she continued to be sweet and friendly, the vibe was gone...

THE LESSON:

When an adult female (especially an attractive one that has game run on her all day) gives you ANY indication that she's interested (from the 3 second held glance, to stuff like the above) you better get your game on and it better be All Star caliber, or you sir, are DOA.

The last thing she wants to feel like is the girl who 'put it out there' and got this little in return...

I know this stuff like the back of my hand, but I think I'm getting old, because today my game didn't slip, it stayed in the locker room.

When you're playing in the 'grown folks league', mistakes like this are game-overs and game this good doesn't grow on trees...

She was uber hott and adorable and I blew it, due to fatigue, sobriety, shock, awe, and a temporary loss of my usual composure and confidence...

Ugh, ugh and super ugh...I f-ed that up, like I haven't since I don't even know when...

Ugh...

What was I thinking?

Ugh...

DON'T LET THIS EVER HAPPEN TO YOU!

It's bad enough to blow it, but making a girl this exceptional question her actions is unforgiveable...

I take this same trip every 10 weeks or so, with any luck I'll get a do over / make up call...

Ugh...

[VDusen04]

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Been there, done that. Couple times in high school, couple times in college.

I was the classic nice guy and didn't wanna make a move unless it was all green lights. Unfortunately, most girls arent going to be THAT obvious.

Well that about sums me up. My biggest miss was when the most beautiful girl I'd ever met WAS being that obvious. After she asked what I was doing that night and dropped me her phone number earlier that day at work, I went out with her and a group of her friends and she interrogated me about my life the whole evening - trying to see if I measured up - and she responded positively to everything I had to say. After a guy friend of hers spent a large portion of the night trying to make his move, she made a point to pull me aside and assure me she wasn't nor every would be interested in dating that guy.

Later that night, we all went back to her house, and I was playing some cheesy old-school computer game and I didn't quite understand exactly how to play, so she came over and placed her hand on mine and slowly guided the mouse across the screen.

The hints seriously began to stockpile. Later that week, she showed up at my graduation party despite knowing not a single person present, and they all loved her (everyone was giving me a thumbs up and nodding agreeably whenever she looked away). On her way out, she suggested we catch a movie.

It went on like that for days and I kept checking myself, saying, "You know what, if I didn't know any better, I'd think she was. . .nahhhhh. Way too hot." I was just that dense. Eventually she caught on to my signs that I didn't mean to send, and she settled for friendship. Then she went to UM, majored in engineering, moved across the country and did just fine without me.

[19]

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Junoir year of high school, just turned 17, walking around with 4 friends in our local po-dunk downtown area in central Illinois. A group of females walk past us, then I hear, "Hey Aaron!" Which is none of our names, yet we turn around anyways. Girl motions to me and says, "Hi Aaron." I correct her, saying my name is Carson. She says, "Oh sorry, it's been awhile." She goes on the say how she remembered me from a stable she rode horses at last summer, now I have NEVER been on a horse, never had a desire to be on a horse, frankly not a big fan of large animals that can kick you in the head if they so please. Anyways, me being at that time in high school, EXTREMELY BAKED say, "Sorry, you got the wrong person," and proceed to turn around and continue on my merry way. No sooner did I take 2 steps, my buddy cracks me in the back of head and says, "You're a *******, she knows you're name isn't Aaron. She was trying to pick us up." Long story short, I was a laughing stock for a good 2 weeks after that and the story still makes me cringe. Let's just say lesson learned.

[Lintyfresh85]

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I was never really good at hints in High School. One I didn't miss though was at the end of my senior year.

Me and my buddy were working late on the school yearbook and this girl who was in our class came over to the trailer to hang out. She had the reputation of being easy so it was no shock when she asked my buddy and i to come over to her house to hang out in her hot tub alone. Obviously she was looking for some three way loving... but I wasn't having any of that. I thankfully passed, and as someone said earlier in this thread, I didn't end up with 'party pimples'.

One that was even more obvious, but I missed it was senior year of college. I had just broken up with my girlfriend and we were having a house party. I was talking with this chick on the couch and we were huddled close together because there were others on the couch. Well she said she was going to go back to her place. As she was getting up, she grabbed my crotch to 'balance' herself from falling. She smiled, lingered at the door (watching me the whole time) waiting for me and when I finally didn't respond, she left. My buddies rushed up to from across the room and told me what an idiot I was for missing the sign. I got up to go after her, but by the time I got outside, she was long gone. We were never really close after that.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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Well that about sums me up. My biggest miss was when the most beautiful girl I'd ever met WAS being that obvious. After she asked what I was doing that night and dropped me her phone number earlier that day at work, I went out with her and a group of her friends and she interrogated me about my life the whole evening - trying to see if I measured up - and she responded positively to everything I had to say. After a guy friend of hers spent a large portion of the night trying to make his move, she made a point to pull me aside and assure me she wasn't nor every would be interested in dating that guy.

Later that night, we all went back to her house, and I was playing some cheesy old-school computer game and I didn't quite understand exactly how to play, so she came over and placed her hand on mine and slowly guided the mouse across the screen.

The hints seriously began to stockpile. Later that week, she showed up at my graduation party despite knowing not a single person present, and they all loved her (everyone was giving me a thumbs up and nodding agreeably whenever she looked away). On her way out, she suggested we catch a movie.

It went on like that for days and I kept checking myself, saying, "You know what, if I didn't know any better, I'd think she was. . .nahhhhh. Way too hot." I was just that dense. Eventually she caught on to my signs that I didn't mean to send, and she settled for friendship. Then she went to UM, majored in engineering, moved across the country and did just fine without me.

Good lord..........I think we have a winner here. How can you spend that much time with somebody and not get the hint. Just wow.....<!-- / message -->

[matt8204]

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Good lord..........I think we have a winner here. How can you spend that much time with somebody and not get the hint. Just wow.....<!-- / message -->

Well, if you're lacking in confidence, you may think there's just no way a girl that hot could be into me (as he said in his post). He could have thought she was just being a c!@ktease.

[Marino]

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I am pretty oblivious when it comes to this stuff. It has burned me often.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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No if you go out with a person that many times, no way are you lacking in confidence. You would be too shy and turn her down if she asked you out or to go anywhere with her. He went out with her for DAYS.

So he didnt suffer from lack of confidence, he was just, like he said it, DENSE. But hey you know if he is still friends with her it wasnt a total lost. Good friends are hard to find.