GIRLFRIEND QUESTION / TAKING A BREAK?

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Move on with your life but don't tie yourself down to one hoohaa. If she comes back in a month thats great, but if not you shouldn't care anyway. Plus, its only been 6 months so its easier to move on now than wait for her for god knows how long and then feel miserable when she never comes back.

[OliDegu2008]

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Wow, this thread has gotten a little more response than I thought.

Just an update I suppose.

Since we started our break, we have talked every day since.
She went from wanting a month to wanting maybe a couple of weeks and talking every other day, so....It is what it is, I suppose.
I think we will be alright, I appreciate all the comments, even the ones that say there is no chance in hell. Though I know none of you, even the cynical comments have helped. Thanks all.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Wow, this thread has gotten a little more response than I thought.

Just an update I suppose.

Since we started our break, we have talked every day since.
She went from wanting a month to wanting maybe a couple of weeks and talking every other day, so....It is what it is, I suppose.
I think we will be alright, I appreciate all the comments, even the ones that say there is no chance in hell. Though I know none of you, even the cynical comments have helped. Thanks all.

Good deal man. good luck.

[DocHolliday]

Re: GIRLFRIEND QUESTION / TAKING A BREAK?

Wow, this thread has gotten a little more response than I thought.

Just an update I suppose.

Since we started our break, we have talked every day since.
She went from wanting a month to wanting maybe a couple of weeks and talking every other day, so....It is what it is, I suppose.
I think we will be alright, I appreciate all the comments, even the ones that say there is no chance in hell. Though I know none of you, even the cynical comments have helped. Thanks all.

I think this means she smashed the other dude the first night of the break, and he didn't call her the next day. So she is coming back to you already.

Make sure to strap on tonto.

[jnofx]

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I think this means she smashed the other dude the first night of the break, and he didn't call her the next day. So she is coming back to you already.

Make sure to strap on tonto.

The truth hurts...

[Gotmadskillzson]

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Yeah basically she got smashed by a player and he just wanted to hit it and keep it moving, where as she wanted more. But he wasnt buying it so she coming back to you.

Its funny really..........I want a break....a month. No just 2 or 3 weeks....I swear if she ends up pregnant within the next year, you better do a dna test......seriously.

[DickDalewood]

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Wait, you're on a break... but still talking almost every day? Oh Jesus...

So, basically, she wants to be able to keep you around, because clearly she can't handle being alone, but doesn't want to deal with any of the commitment. Dude... c'mon. She's just toying with you now.

[Hova57]

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Dude seriously you are her d*ck in a glass. Sit back think about what you are saying. she went from a month to a couple of weeks. Next you are going to need an appointment to see her. WTF don't do this to yourself don't let her disrespect you like this. she's calling you everyday to keep your interest, but she still needs time no . Tell her to kick rocks and enjoy your new year

That saying "it is what it is" has no place in a relationship. A relationship is what you make it. What you can accept and not accept. What you can sacrifice and what you can not sacrifice.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Dude seriously you are her d*ck in a glass. Sit back think about what you are saying. she went from a month to a couple of weeks. Next you are going to need an appointment to see her. WTF don't do this to yourself don't let her disrespect you like this. she's calling you everyday to keep your interest, but she still needs time no . Tell her to kick rocks and enjoy your new year

That saying "it is what it is" has no place in a relationship. A relationship is what you make it. What you can accept and not accept. What you can sacrifice and what you can not sacrifice.

Maybe she's worth the sacrifice?

[Hova57]

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Maybe she's worth the sacrifice?

not knowing anything about her. i just hate mind games

[bgeno]

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My ex wanted a "break" a couple years ago after we had dated for two years.

I wasn't willing to do just a break, so I manned up and broke the whole thing off. Breaks are pointless IMO. You're either in the relationship or you're not. There's no half-way. I knew we were having big problems in the relationship and wasn't about to pretend that things were going to get better with a "break" since we were already only seeing each other every three weeks (long distance sucks... I'll never do it again).

Anyway, she started dating another dude within a month. They had become friends while she and I were dating. I honestly believe her when she says she didn't cheat on me with him, but that doesn't hide or excuse the fact that she was still interested in this punk and wanted that "break" to pursue him.

I heard they dated for like a year or something. I still hate her for what she did to me (first loves hurt, and she was such a bitch to me), and I can't talk to her or see her face. I have no idea what she's up to now.

(On a positive note, I learned SO MUCH from that relationship.)




My roommate in college that same year had his girl want to take a "break" as well.

As it turns out, she was cheating on my roommate for the past few weeks and, from what my friends and I could figure out, was just guilty and couldn't cheat on him any more. So, she convinced him to agree that they needed a break so it wasn't all her doing and she could feel even less guilty about what she did.

I have no idea if she's still with that dude, but my roommate moved on pretty quick... hahaha



So, from my two experiences with "breaks," I can agree with most of what the guys in here say. It's just a nice way of saying "I'm interested in someone else and want to try him out, but I still want to have you as a fall back in case it doesn't work out."

[jake44np]

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Maby just maybe you guys are all wrong and she just doesnt know what she wants right now?? Maybe she is not out scoring with some other dude. Maybe the girl is a nice catholic girl and just doesnt want to date anyone.
If you are head or heels for her make her want you back. Show her why she fell for you in the first place. If there is another guy and you just cant let her go, win her back.
Its not always as easy as saying f*** her and leaving and trying to meet another girl.
I was in the same situation about 15 years ago.
My girl left for college across the country and decided she didnt want to be tied down while she was there. I just couldnt take it, we had been together for about 3 years and at the time was the love of my life. I went and seen her as much as I could and treated better then ever and by the end of her freshman year she decided to transfer back home.
We ended up dating for about 3 more years before she got really fat and I broke up with her!!! lol But my point is if you are not ready for it to be over win her back and dont just go get with random girls. She may find out and they you will never get her back.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Ultimately it comes down to how much they both want the relationship to work. There could be any number of things that can happen in somebody's life where they need to take a step back from a relationship to get their own "ish" together first.

I wouldn't give her any time past what y'all have agreed upon though. I told my gf near the end of our "break" that I'm done and can't be just friends anymore. Quit answering texts and phone calls. Guess what? Around 2AM that night she arrived at my doorstep crying (she got in the car and drove 2 hrs)

We've been happily ever after since.

There was ever any other "dude" in the picture. Just life transitions....

[jeremym480]

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Maby just maybe you guys are all wrong and she just doesnt know what she wants right now?? Maybe she is not out scoring with some other dude. Maybe the girl is a nice catholic girl and just doesnt want to date anyone.
If you are head or heels for her make her want you back. Show her why she fell for you in the first place. If there is another guy and you just cant let her go, win her back.
Its not always as easy as saying f*** her and leaving and trying to meet another girl.
I was in the same situation about 15 years ago.
My girl left for college across the country and decided she didnt want to be tied down while she was there. I just couldnt take it, we had been together for about 3 years and at the time was the love of my life. I went and seen her as much as I could and treated better then ever and by the end of her freshman year she decided to transfer back home.
We ended up dating for about 3 more years before she got really fat and I broke up with her!!! lol But my point is if you are not ready for it to be over win her back and dont just go get with random girls. She may find out and they you will never get her back.

So, your telling the guy to put up with her for 5-6 years until she get's fat? :o

My advice if you want to win her back you are going to have to go with the "he who cares the least" method. So, if you really like this girl then give her the space she wants. However, DO NOT make yourself readily available for her, anytime SHE wants you to be. Now you've got to have some strong willpower but, if you want her to want you back and if you want to keep your self respect then you have to do this.

If you don't then you end up looking like her little ***** and she WILL lose all respect for you. The best thing you can do is spend some time with your friends and try to forget about her. Don't call her and don't answer her calls for about a week. When you finally do talk to her and she ask you what's up tell her your simply giving her the space that she coveted. But, remember to be cool about everything and don't be to big of a dick and you should come out on top (literally).

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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So, your telling the guy to put up with her for 5-6 years until she get's fat? :o

My advice if you want to win her back you are going to have to go with the "he who cares the least" method. So, if you really like this girl then give her the space she wants. However, DO NOT make yourself readily available for her, anytime SHE wants you to be. Now you've got to have some strong willpower but, if you want her to want you back and if you want to keep your self respect then you have to do this.

If you don't then you end up looking like her little ***** and she WILL lose all respect for you. The best thing you can do is spend some time with your friends and try to forget about her. Don't call her and don't answer her calls for about a week. When you finally do talk to her and she ask you what's up tell her your simply giving her the space that she coveted. But, remember to be cool about everything and don't be to big of a dick and you should come out on top (literally).

Agreed. Talking to her every other day is not a good idea. Doesn't give her any reason to ever come back from the break. Don't know if I'd go a week between communications...I'd limit it to a text every few days IF she initiates contact. No phone though--to easy to tell if you're still miserable. Your voice would give it away.