Wife left me for another man

[Artman22]

Re: Wife left me for another man

All it is is SIN! That is why I think people are shocked when Christians take back a cheating spouse. It can happen to anyone. My prayers are still with you and your family bro. Stay strong in Christ and keep asking for peace and wisdom.

Actually Scott it's more then sin. It's a broken bond and promise. To me this is something big. I'm Christian as well, but I wouldn't accept this. Forgiveness is important and necessary, but in do time it will come. These wounds take time to heal. Having family and friends is very important for these difficult times. When you love someone it's very hard to let go, but you have to value yourself as well. It's really sad to hear all this. The battle is in the mind and that's why a person should keep himself occupied to distract the mind. Also He doesn't have to be nice to her. He's hurt and people are not in his shoes to understand. I'm not saying to be mean to her either, but I think he's doing the right thing by ignoring her for the moment. It's the fastest way to heal. I hope and pray everything gets better.

[muggins]

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I just received a phone call that the other man, who is a teacher, had an affair with a cheerleader a few years ago. People are trying to get through to my wife to tell her what he is. Of course, I'm thinking she ain't no prize considering she's willing to live with this guy and have my kids there. It's hard to explain how this makes me feel. It's as if she has had a lobotomy. The woman I knew for over 18 years is no longer alive.

Dude, file for divorce now and seek sole custody. Your kids shouldn't spend time with this woman.

[jeremym480]

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Gary it's time to put your personal feelings for her aside. Like others have said, the person you married is long gone and it doesn't appear to be coming back. From here on out you have to look at this as a business decision. Lawyer Up immediately. Shoot for full custody with child support and make that witch pay.

[ezekiel55]

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Gary, I havent seen you post anything about proceeding with legal action...Its time to wake up and listen to the people here at OS and follow through with it.

It seems this woman is capable of commiting horrible acts without batting an eyelash...whats to say she wont go to court and lie to a judge and make false accusations against you...LISTEN TO US, and go get a divorce attorney and file!

I understand you were together for a long time, and you hope that she comes back to you and asks for forgiveness...the problem is, no matter what happens, that same woman is never walking back through that door again.

[SPTO]

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I just received a phone call that the other man, who is a teacher, had an affair with a cheerleader a few years ago. People are trying to get through to my wife to tell her what he is. Of course, I'm thinking she ain't no prize considering she's willing to live with this guy and have my kids there. It's hard to explain how this makes me feel. It's as if she has had a lobotomy. The woman I knew for over 18 years is no longer alive.

Well if that isn't some proof to help you show that your wife isn't fit to keep the kids then I don't know what is. The more you hear things about this guy you should take tabs and like someone said keep a journal about it so that you have actual proof.

If your wife is that blind to this guy's character then there's nothing that can be done to save the marriage and I sure as hell wouldn't want the kids living in that environment.

[muggins]

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One thing you have to remember here is gossip travels around town at the speed of light. Take the news that he slept with a cheerleader with a grain of salt. It is likely untrue.

The real truth here is this woman is willing to leave you and your kids in your house with you to pay all the bills and go be with this dude after 18 years. She doesn't care enough about the kids. Get a good lawyer immediately.

[jonpt]

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I'm really sorry to hear of the tough time that you're going through right now. I know how difficult it can be cause I went through the same thing in '06. My wife (ex-wife now) that I thought I knew for 16 years (married for 10) had an affair. It was the worst time of my life. I couldn't understand and still don't know how someone you trust so much can seemingly change overnight. I felt like I was in a very committed loving relationship and now I was being treated like a dog overnight. To make a long story short, I had to hire a P.I. and found out what was happening through her cellphone records. Unlike you, I had no children so I knew it was over. Her affair had been going on for almost 2 years and I had no clue until about the last 2 months of our marriage....felt like such an idiot. Felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest and stomped on. I am so thankful for my family and a couple of true friends I had to help me through some rough months. I just posted my story to let you know that others understand what you're going through. I had some of the same things that you are going through. I lost about 20 pounds in 4 months cause I couldn't eat and couldn't get a good night of sleep for about 5 months cause of the anger I would wake up with.

Anyway, the best advice I can give would be to never be by yourself for now. It helps to have friends and family that can help take your mind off things when you're children are not with you. And as with all things prayer and time help to heal the emotional pain that you're going through. May sound a little cliche' but it's true. Sorry for the pain that you're going through now and will keep you in my prayers.

[P2K]

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I like how this wench gave him a list of things to improve on. Like none of this is her fault. Women never want to accept responsibility for their actions and will say or do anything to justify their cause. Sad, sad creatures. And to make it worse, she is trying to brainwash your children.

And why is she calling and texting you?

Anyway, like others have said, it's lawyer time. Good luck, alright?

[GSW]

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I like how this wench gave him a list of things to improve on. Like none of this is her fault. Women never want to accept responsibility for their actions and will say or do anything to justify their cause. Sad, sad creatures. And to make it worse, she is trying to brainwash your children.

And why is she calling and texting you?

Anyway, like others have said, it's lawyer time. Good luck, alright?

boom.

BTW, to the OP Sorry for your situation bro...i dont know you and you dont know me...but it will all work out in due time.

[TheShizNo1]

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I can't wait to come back to this thread and see how you've been granted sole custody and have moved and now are enjoying life with your daughters. Like I SERIOSULYcan't wait.

[cubsfan203]

Re: Wife left me for another man

Like everyone else has said, get a lawyer ASAP. From some of the things you said, I wouldn't be surprised if she comes crawling back begging for another chance. Neither you or your kids need that, so take the initiative and pay however much you have to for a great lawyer so you can at least go on with your life having your kids with you.

Good luck man, hope everything works out for you.

[Marino]

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I agree with people are saying here man. Get yourself a lawyer, go try to get full custody of your children. This girl seems like a bitch, I mean she gave you a list of things you need to improve, **** that.

Keep your head up man, you will make it through this. My prayers go out to you.

[KingV2k3]

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When you hire the lawyer ask them if they'd reccomend getting a private investigator invloved.

You should collect as much data as possible to prove to the courts that your (soon to be) ex and her knuclehead buddy are not fit to be around your kids without SERIOUS, enforceable guidelines.

And get counciling.

None of this sh*t is going to resolve without getting waaaay worse.

You're in for a marathon of B.S. at the rate this is going.

Peace!

[Watson]

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I like how this wench gave him a list of things to improve on. Like none of this is her fault. Women never want to accept responsibility for their actions and will say or do anything to justify their cause. Sad, sad creatures. And to make it worse, she is trying to brainwash your children.

Agreed.

[Heelfan71]

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. Women never want to accept responsibility for their actions and will say or do anything to justify their cause. Sad, sad creatures.

yep. Women can do no wrong. It's always someone else's fault. Women can just wake up pissed off over nothing. Then they will look for a reason to justify their feelings. And it's usally the man. And if the man has done no wrong, she will just bring some **** up from the past. BITCHES I tell ya !



I would not be in contact with your wife unless it is necessary. Just ignore her. If she calls, don't answer. Don't answer her texts. I am wondering if your oldest child is old enough to decide which parent to live with? I forgot what age they have to be..