Just recieved the worst possible news...

[Mo]

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I'm assuming this happened recently, so why were you with your Ex in the first place?

[jeremym480]

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I just found out tonight. But I do plan on taking a DNA test to be sure its mine. I just feel bad for the child at this point. Shes going to make it a dirty messy situation.

Good luck man. For you sake I hope:

Spoiler

[SPTO]

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Time to call Maury!

(Yes I know I was beaten to the punch. So sue me.)

Seriously take the DNA test and if it ends up being your child then I don't care how bitter she is i'd move heaven and earth to at least have some contact with my child.

[slickdtc]

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Can people please get over themselves? The child is part you, part her. Unless you're clearly unfit, keeping a child away from one of its parents should be a crime. Why can't people just be civil for the sake of the child? No, they only want to think about their own damn selves... it's such a shame.

Planned or not, this is a huge responsibility for you now. When you get this news, you know it's time that you become a man if you haven't already. You're responsible for a whole other life now and that's something that should be taken extremely seriously.

Good luck to you and your future child. I wish you all the best.

[Adam Dayton]

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vt2i0ts-uck

[MC Fatigue]

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Do what you feel is right.

Anyone telling you to step up and be the dad is wrong. Anyone telling you to just stay out of its life is wrong.

Do what works for you in your life; and what you're ready to deal with in the future. Some people grow up with both parents, some grow up with one, some grow up with none. All can be perfectly productive, well balanced people in the end.

However - making sure you at least pull your end of the financial responsibility is important; assuming the kid isn't put up for adoption and it is actually yours, or that it's not you know what'd.

[z Revis]

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*goes to buy a pack of condoms*

Did you really need this thread to motivate yourself to get a pack of condoms? I think it's pretty well known to use condoms to avoid getting a chick pregnant. lol.

[DocHolliday]

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I'm glad I never had anything like this happen to me. Just sounds terrible. I feel bad for the kid.

[Heelfan71]

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so why does she want to keep the child away from you? Does she have a good reason or is she just mad you are not together?

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Man, that must be rough. I know I was scared sh*%less when my gf thought she might be pregnant a few years ago. Back then, I was barely making ends meet for me.

Hoping it's not yours, but if it is you need to do the right thing.

Having 2 supportive parents (even if they aren't together) is much better than just one.

Anyone that says otherwise is just fooling themselves.

[UNC_Pete]

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This just happened to someone I know recently. They have since moved in with each other, are engaged, and seem on the outside to be happy with their 6 mo old daughter.

Life works in weird ways..So you never know what can happen..

[PVarck31]

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Do what you feel is right.

Anyone telling you to step up and be the dad is wrong.

WHaaaaaa?? You gotta be kidding dude.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

Re: Just recieved the worst possible news...

Do what you feel is right.

Anyone telling you to step up and be the dad is wrong. Anyone telling you to just stay out of its life is wrong.

Do what works for you in your life; and what you're ready to deal with in the future. Some people grow up with both parents, some grow up with one, some grow up with none. All can be perfectly productive, well balanced people in the end.

However - making sure you at least pull your end of the financial responsibility is important; assuming the kid isn't put up for adoption and it is actually yours, or that it's not you know what'd.

You give up the "me first" attitude when you bring a kid into this world. They (should) become your first priority--planned or unplanned.

[sb24]

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This is NOT the worst possible news at all. It really pains me to read something like this.

However i do understand if that is the worst possible woman for this to happen with or something like that but not that your going to be a father. Again i understand how she will make this terrible, but nothing about the kid is terrible. Just keep that in mind.

[slickdtc]

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WHaaaaaa?? You gotta be kidding dude.

Nah, I can see what he's saying. If you aren't ready to be that man, then maybe it's best to step aside. I think you should still be in their life, but maybe not as the father/dad figure. It's a delicate situation...