Officially Divorced/Ex Already Remarried

[ODogg]

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Man I'm insecure by nature in the area of women so reading this thread scares the crap out of me more than any horror movie ever could. Wow.

[USF11]

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I agree 100% with women becoming emotionally attached to some other guy quicker then the reverse.

Men have a harder time filling there time with other women.

[Heelfan71]

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women tend to get it all out talking to their girl friends, so they seem to get over it quicker. Where men usually keep everything inside and it takes longer to get over it.

[Scottdau]

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I agree with that Heel.

[Nivek]

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My new lady is a woman I chose. My brother said exactly the same thing as you, USF11. My ex more or less chose me, and he says it's important for me to do the choosing this time. My gf was flattered and excited that I showed interest, and it helped that I took charge on our first date. No matter what women say, they want a man who has confidence and takes charge sometimes. I've never seen a guy have success being a doormat. Not once. Women are more vicious than men in this regard; they will absolutely not hesitate to break your heart and stomp on you when you're down. I believe they all have this in them once they feel you've slighted them in some way.

Bingo!!! You've got it, there's no point in listening to other opinions because (like myself) you've experienced it first hand. I'm not naming names, but there are some people in this thread that either have the perfect marriage or are absolutely ***** whooped. Real men lead their women, end of discussion. The only happy doormat's are dude's with masochistic tendencies.

[Scottdau]

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Real men lead there women? OK. Oh well you keep thinking that, I will keep thinking that marriage is a equal partnership. But I will say one thing in my marriage and it is far from perfect. I am one in control. I make the finals decisions and I also have a wife that submits to those decision, but I don't take advantage of that submission. I treat her with respect and I don't try to control her or take charge of her. She is not my property. If she has an issue with the way I did something, then I take that issues in to consideration. When you marry someone it doesn't matter if you settle or they settle, it is too late for that. You need to honor your commitment. Now in Gary's place he had no choice in the matter. So I happy he found this good woman.


lol that last thing about door mats was too funny. I guess it is a age thing. I am sure when you get in your 40's, you will have a different out look Niv. Peace!

[USF11]

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Scott while me and Nivek might be speakin in absolutes ..... We are 95%+ right on here.

[Scottdau]

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Scott while me and Nivek might be speakin in absolutes ..... We are 95%+ right on here.

LMAO, yeah sure you are! We will see if you guys are still right when you get around 40.

[longshadow11]

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Scott, while I respect your opinion and experience, I'm 42 and believe many more women are like we've been saying than people think. Hell, women don't know they're like this; my ex told our daughter a year ago she would've thought a woman doing what she's done was crazy. Hormones and entitlement, women's lib and stupidass Hollywood romantic comedies all have served to castrate men.

[TheShizNo1]

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Like I said, he's never had his heart really broke, or has one helluva marriage. Neither which is bad.

[Scottdau]

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Oh well Gary, we will just agree to disagree. I believe any body can do bad things, even good people once in awhile do bad things. So while I agree about some thing that was said here. I disagree with some of the things about how the man need to take control, so they don't get walked all over. The bottom line is in my opinion men and women can both do some nasty things. I have seen it both ways. Any way, I am done with talking about this Niv, UF and you just have some different views than I do, but that is OK too. I wont talk about this any more. So I wish the best for you and for your kids. This is so messed up crap you guys are going through. But like I said before. This happen to my friend. His wife left him for some snake and had a kid with him and came back to be with my friend, but left again and has now been with the other guys for 7 years. And the kicker is I have been over to eat at this guys house, because my wife is still friends with the lady. So I have met this snake and the snake is not that bad of a guy. Comes to find out we have a lot in common sports wise. My friend has remarried and is doing great, so you will too. I wish you the best.

[Scottdau]

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Like I said, he's never had his heart really broke, or has one helluva marriage. Neither which is bad.

My marriage is solid, but that is because we based it off Commitment not feelings. Feelings come and go, commitment is a life time. Plus we also realize we have a lot to lose. And our kids would go through a lot. So we work on our marriage daily. I will say one thing; I never got my heart broke by a woman, but I never dated these kind of women you guys have, or I have been lucky. In all my years of counseling the guys and girls were just as much to blame as the other. If I was to take a guess I would say in my time of counseling the guy was to blame more often than not. But that is only what I experienced.

[TheShizNo1]

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This happen to my friend. His wife left him for some snake and had a kid with him and came back to be with my friend, but left again and has now been with the other guys for 7 years.

I think I remember someone making a thread about this, that was you?

And the kicker is I have been over to eat at this guys house, because my wife is still friends with the lady.

Has to be against some man law lol

My marriage is solid, but that is because we based it off Commitment not feelings. Feelings come and go, commitment is a life time.

This isn't moreso directed at you b/c I've heard this before. I just don't understand it. Why stay w/ someone you feel nothing for? I just' don't understand it.

I will say one thing; I never got my heart broke by a woman, but I never dated these kind of women you guys have, or I have been lucky

and I think that's the thing to. The posters who are saying how nasty women can be, we've had out hearts ripped out and spat on while the female was probably fine. Count your blessings and knock on wood for never knowing that heart and mental state. Happy you got a good marriage and hope it continues on!

[Scottdau]

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I think I remember someone making a thread about this, that was you?



Has to be against some man law lol






This isn't moreso directed at you b/c I've heard this before. I just don't understand it. Why stay w/ someone you feel nothing for? I just' don't understand it.



and I think that's the thing to. The posters who are saying how nasty women can be, we've had out hearts ripped out and spat on while the female was probably fine. Count your blessings and knock on wood for never knowing that heart and mental state. Happy you got a good marriage and hope it continues on!

Because feeling can lie you. If I base it off how I feel about my wife. Then when I am not feeling so great about her, I will think it is time to split. I don't base my love on how I feel about my wife. There are a lot of things she does that pisses me off, but because we made a commitment I deal with those thing. That is what it means about not basing love on feeling. See once you get married and bring kids in to this world, you have to do all you can to keep your marriage solid. The part that has always been a head scratcher to me, was when people said they don't love each other anymore. I say OK, but what does love have to do with your commitment. Once you get married you need realize you made a commitment. Unless the spouse cheated, I think you can get over almost any other problems couples have.

[Nivek]

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LMAO, yeah sure you are! We will see if you guys are still right when you get around 40.

Age has nothing to do with it.

Like everything else in this world, you either lead or be led. I (like everyone else has stated before) have found out from experience, that you have to be a man and lead in order for a relationship to work. There can only be one captain of the ship, and it doesn't even matter where the ship is going. As long as there's a captain, all hands will be on deck.