Something I'm not sure that bothers me...

[BlueNGold]

Re: Something I'm not sure that bothers me...

I'm 21 as well...I had the exact same mentality as you...But this sort of came out of no where. The dad abuses the daughter...Her name is Paige. The court cannot find enough evidence to put him away. So would I be her father? IDK I can't take the place of the real father, but she is going to end up growing up without a father unless he gets custody...The thing is he doesn't want the kid. His parents are millionares and they want their grandchild and they are kind of using him to get the baby.
I remember dropping Paige off with her...The baby had zero blemishes. When I picked her up she had big marks and blemishes, and dry spots all over her her.
She called me last night because she had to take her to urgent care, because she would not go in water and I guess Paige went completely insane. I guess she usually loves baths, but I'm under the impression something happened.

Baggage? Definitely.

Would I be the father? It depends how far in the relationship I'd get in. She has a beautiful child, and I was planning on adopting. Saying if I wanna be the father is kind of quick.

IDK man....if abuse is the case I'd find it pretty hard to leave until that ish gets sorted out.

[MassNole]

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You're young, she doesn't sound worth the time. My wife's best friend has the habit of taking in the strays as my wife says, it only leads to frustration and loneliness. She's 21, been with 47 men (that she'll admit to), and has a kid with a tumultuous custody situation. Bail now.

[ex carrabba fan]

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Do you smash regularly?

If not how many times have you?

I really wouldn't get myself involved with all of that stuff, but like others have said it's your life.

That's a bit too much for me to handle since I'm still relatively young. Baby, abusive father, former druggie, and 47 partners? How could she really keep track, if anything I'm thinking she's smashed more than 47. That seems like a high number, that's more than most of my "active" guy friends who basically put sex as their goal in life.

[Vince]

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hellz to the mother ****ing no..

hit it and go man.

[l3ulvl]

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Yea 47 is a lot. I remember when I was 19 and thought it was weird that my 18 y/o gf had been with 8 guys before me. Now I realize 8 is nothing, but 47? crazy!

[kehlis]

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I find it strange that she knows the exact number at this point.

If she is actually counting as she goes along, that really can't be a good sign...

[Speedy]

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People do change, especially when the person gets tired of the sin that he/she is in. I would do a little research, possibly talk to her friends or possible sites (facebook/myspace) that she visits to see. If nothing else, talking will always tell you.

[VDusen04]

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A lot of women have a kid or kids. The chances of you finding a single woman with no kids is slim nowadays. My wife had a son in his 20s when I met her.

I wouldn't necessarily say the chances of finding a single woman with no kids is slim per se. I guess the older you are, the higher the likelihood but as a 26 year old, the majority of single ladies I've come across are still childless. Most of the women with kids at my age are married at this point. So I guess when I touch my 30's and ladies begin divorcing, that's when the kids will begin to come into play more often.

But regarding the exact topic, I've had a history of struggling with a girls' history. As I developed my own history, it has become easier to understand another person's history. However, I still think there's a line, and in my book, 47 is well past my line. However, that's just me.

I will say, I would not become a father to the child just because you feel like you need to help the situation. I do not believe that will not pan out well.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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Well I should say, depending where you live, finding a woman with no kids is slim. Because when I grew up in Chicago, 72% of senior girls graduating in the chicago public school system had at least one kid.

And hell by the time girls hit 21 in Chicago anyway, I would say 1 out of 5 chicks had a child by 21.

Now I doubt his chick actually had full sex with 47.....because I know a lot of women consider oral only as sex too. Because I know when I was in high school, a good number of girls did oral but that was as far as they went and never went all the way.

[Husker_OS]

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47??! I wouldn't go near that. When finding out a girl's number and the history behind it, I use a system. If it was more than 3 prior to college, no dice. In college, add 3-4 guys per year for an average girl. By the time she graduates, anywhere from 12-14 is normal. Less than 10 is ideal. Less than 5 is rare. More than 15, no dice. I'm dating a girl at the moment and her number is 4. On the one hand, it's awesome since she's 21. On the other, it sucks because it may be a little difficult to get some.

[NDAlum]

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It's not about her it's about you.

She could have zero partners but be a huge tease/terrible girlfriend or she could have been with 1,000 guys and just ran into the wrong guy over and over.

You are in the situation. Access it and move on from there.

[Buckeye]

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47?
Kid?
Drugs?

80%? More like 99%

Personally I would not go near her based on all the red flags.

I second this

[ScoobySnax]

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[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Strictly for health reasons, I'd probably keep moving. 47 different guys and not 1 STD? If that's true, she needs to buy some lottery tickets ASAP....the force is with her.


People can and do change. They eventually get tired of living in a rut and want more out of life.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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If it was more than 3 prior to college, no dice

WOW.......You just cut off 80% of all teenage girls. Maybe Chicago girls are just horny....because I knew girls that was with more then 3 guys before they even hit high school.