Something I'm not sure that bothers me...

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Do this many people actually discuss numbers like this in a relationship? I have never had a girl ask me how many chicks I've slept with and I better not - they won't get an answer if they ask.

The past is the past, I don't care what girls did in their past as long as they don't have an STD and are loyal. I obviously don't want to date a village bicycle but I will never ask a girl about her numbers. By and large it's pretty easy to tell if she is/was a slut just by spending time with her.

The last girl I dated told me she was a virgin until she was 21 and has never had a one-night stand, of course this was basically baiting me revealing the same information (which I didn't). This didn't result in a very positive reaction from my now ex.

Honestly, I don't see how it could not at some point be discussed if you're in a relationship. I don't think it's that big a deal, but if you're being honest and open about everything....

I wouldn't need/want details, but I'd like to have some kind of idea of what I'm getting into.

[legendkiller5]

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I wouldn't need/want details, but I'd like to have some kind of idea of what I'm getting into.

Literally.

[Piderman]

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Shes been with 40 something guys and only 1 kid?...1 in 10 condoms break...just sayin

[bkrich83]

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Your early to mid 20's are when you are supposed to be having the time of your life. Enjoy those years while you can, as life catches up with you shortly there after.

All I will say, is that's an awful lot of drama and baggage for a single 21 year old male to take on voluntarily. If you're truly ok with that, cool, but heed my words. Enjoy your early 20's, it's a period of your life you'll never get back.

[bkrich83]

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Shes been with 40 something guys and only 1 kid?...1 in 10 condoms break...just sayin

LOL. Funny coming from you.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Shes been with 40 something guys and only 1 kid?...1 in 10 condoms break...just sayin

Taken from wikipedia:
As a method of birth control, male condoms have the advantage of being inexpensive, easy to use, having few side effects, and of offering protection against sexually transmitted diseases. With proper knowledge and application technique—and use at every act of intercourse—women whose partners use male condoms experience a 2% per-year pregnancy rate.

So that's more like 1 out of 50...not 1 out of 10.

So 1 kid is just about right based on those numbers.

[Piderman]

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Taken from wikipedia:
As a method of birth control, male condoms have the advantage of being inexpensive, easy to use, having few side effects, and of offering protection against sexually transmitted diseases. With proper knowledge and application technique—and use at every act of intercourse—women whose partners use male condoms experience a 2% per-year pregnancy rate.

So that's more like 1 out of 50...not 1 out of 10.

Well, one could say Wikipedia is a bad source do to the ease of editing it to say whatever you want....but then again I am not so sure my grade 8 teacher was the best at sex education.

[bkrich83]

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Taken from wikipedia:
As a method of birth control, male condoms have the advantage of being inexpensive, easy to use, having few side effects, and of offering protection against sexually transmitted diseases. With proper knowledge and application technique—and use at every act of intercourse—women whose partners use male condoms experience a 2% per-year pregnancy rate.

So that's more like 1 out of 50...not 1 out of 10.

So 1 kid is just about right based on those numbers.

Last I read the failure rate was between 1 and 2 percent. So you're looking at between 1 or 2 for every 100.

Even if Condom fails, it doesn't guarantee pregnancy depending on where she is in her monthly cylce. (did I really just say that on a sports game website. )

[Scottdau]

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If you are rescuer than you are probably going to stay with her. But I hope she is getting help for her past. Sounds like a **** up thing that happen and can be a big factor in your relationship if you decide to marry her. I am rescuer, so once I knew what happen to her I would stay with her and help her through it, but it would not be the best thing for me. But that is me. I agree with what BK said too, but in the end you have to make this decision not us. And if you really care/like this lady then it will be even harder. I never got involved with girls with kids when I was in 20's, I did not want the baggage it brought with it. Especially if the real dad is still in the picture.

[Scottdau]

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Last I read the failure rate was between 1 and 2 percent. So you're looking at between 1 or 2 for every 100.

Even if Condom fails, it doesn't guarantee pregnancy depending on where she is in her monthly cylce. (did I really just say that on a sports game website. )

Yes you did Dr. BK.

[bkrich83]

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Yes you did Dr. BK.

I guess I actually retained some info from Human Sexuality my freshmen year in college.

[Scottdau]

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I guess I actually retained some info from Human Sexuality my freshmen year in college.

OH yeah I remember that class very well.

[ryan36]

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If you're a "rescuer" you're gonna move on to someone else who needs to be "rescued"...
I'd date a girl with a kid, but if you ever decide to move on later, the child may form more of an attachment with you than you realize...
So I guess what I'm saying is you may end up at a higher commitment level than you want, faster than you want- sometimes that means you want out faster than you'll think.

Her past shouldn't be a concern, except that if she hangs on to it, and doesn't forgive herself for it, that could make things very very tough. And what do you think the chances are she'll go back into it in a time of stress?

It is a lot of baggage, and I don't recommend it, but I don't know how you feel about her? I'd try to gauge things about how she's living her life as far as employment, stability, etc...

Or you can "hit it and quit it," but I never recommend that. BK is right though, your early 20s you'll never get back...and it's a great time for you to focus on yourself and get a career, future, etc... I drifted through and kick my *** for it every day

[ProjectRipCity]

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Curious about a few things if you don't mind...

How long have you been seeing her? What put you on to her? When did you find out her past, before or after you started dating her?

3 weeks. She is bright and socially educated unlike most girls. I found out 4 days before we started dating...It's a short relationship in fact I would not call it one just yet.

A village bicycle....LMAO!!

Go to hell...Seriously a lot of things I would love to say and do to you but this is a family forum

[Piderman]

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Go to hell...Seriously a lot of things I would love to say to you but this is a family forum

This isn't a family forum, it's a PG-13 forum, big diff you know?