Relationship Guidance

[Beantown]

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Haha you guys lifted my spirits with these posts I must say....I know itll be easy to get laid and whatnot but thats just not the way I am. Like I said before, I have a ton of fun here and enjoy meeting new people, its just not the same.

Nothing will ever be the same, but there will be something better.

[jct32]

So I'll be the different opinion. I say if she is up for it go for long distance. My girlfriend and I, were really great friends and we liked each other a lot, but because I was leaving for bootcamp in the fall we decided not to date. Once I came home for Christmas we hung out and talked and decided to try long distance. Been going almost 9 months strong on almost purely long distance. I get 3 day weekends to come home. Its not the easiest, there are sometimes the selfish side of me wants to call it quits. If y'all do have a true love for each other and commit fully to doing as much as you can to make the relationship work. Then it has the possibility of going great, there also is the possibility that it crashes and burns but you have to live as that isn't even a possibility. I would say above all its up to y'all. You can try it and it can be great or if not, then you know that long distance isn't for you. By the way we started dating at 18 both of us just turned 19 within the past 2 months.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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If you were older, I might suggest trying to do the long distance thing. I personally don't think I could ever do that because that's not how I like relationships to be, but everybody is different. Since you're young and she is your first serious relationship, the only thing to do is just give it time. Like somebody else said, time is the best healer and that is the truth.

Plus, you're a freshman in college man. Live life. Have fun. Don't sulk over this. Meet new girls, go out and enjoy yourself.

I still remember the day my girl broke up with me after 2.5 years. That was rough. That was not a good couple of months (thank God for Nine Inch Nails), but hey I'm still here and doing a lot better than I was even a couple months before it happened. After the break-up we were off and on for about half a year, but it was never the same as before so finally I manned up and told I didn't think it was a good idea for us to be "friends" anymore.

Like I said up top, time is the best healer and with time you'll probably realize that while you probably don't regret getting involved, she wasn't exactly what you wanted anyway. It took me awhile to realize that what I missed wasn't the specific girl but the relationship and the closeness with another person and all that stuff. Once you hit that realization, its a lot easier from there.

Now I'm on to other problems like how big of a doofus I am and why I can't seem to get the most obvious things done when a girl is clearly into me...BUT that is for another thread, possibly. Ha.

[SoMiss2000]

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This thread sucks without pics.

[Hova57]

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sorry man but this is life in college you will be cool,but trying to make it work it won't . Get your freak on when you see her over break, but this relationship will be officially over come spring. Plus you have no idea what a spring semester does to girls til you go through one.

[Marino]

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I'm sorry to hear that you go to Ew-NC.

[wsu_gb23]

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take advantage of your situation. When you hit 30 you will be wishing you had this opportunity. College will be the best time of your life, period. Go to parties, talk to other chicks. There are tons of them. Drink some beer, take the edge off, do this!

[HarkTheSound]

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Yeah I mean its not like Im trying to get the long distance thing to work, we are pretty much done for now as a relationship. I plan on hanging out with her over fall break and the winter holidays so we'll probably still see each other every now and then. Ill probably text her too but just as a friend. I'm just trying my best now to put her in the back of my mind and focus on fully enjoying myself in college.

[kehlis]

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I'm starting to think OS needs a "relationships" stickied thread...

[buckeyefan78]

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I'm starting to think OS needs a "relationships" stickied thread...

And our MC...

[Fresh Tendrils]

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I think ODogg's Women and the games you must play to get one should be unlocked and bumped up. That thread was a living legend in its time.

[55]

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Legitly, I can say I'm in love with the girl, and I can say that without any doubt in my mind.

Step one- Buy this album:



Step two- Listen to it repeatedly.

Step three- Analyze your situation and tell her exactly how you feel without holding back emotion.

Step four- Keep listening to Disintegration repeatedly.

Follow these steps and things will work out exactly the way they are supposed to, my friend.

[BadAssHskr]

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Translation, you are a freshman in college now, you need to be a snake. *(&^*(& anything that moves. In fact, someone should slap you for thinking about a girl thats 200 miles away when you probably have a hot chick right accross the hall. Get with the program.

Go get laid. Don't try to go out and find a girlfriend, just go to a party and go home with someone. UNC has a pretty decent greek system so parties on home game weekends should be easy to find.

take advantage of your situation. When you hit 30 you will be wishing you had this opportunity. College will be the best time of your life, period. Go to parties, talk to other chicks. There are tons of them. Drink some beer, take the edge off, do this!

This is the best advice in the thread.

[Phobia]

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Man........I was never sprung on a chick when I was a teen....I don't think I ever took women serious until I hit 23 or 24. Before then......I was out having fun, hunting cougars. Until I landed my cougar wife a couple of years ago.

But yeah you need to stop going to her facebook page. Because ya know women are smart and more then likely she is doing a whole lot more stuff then what she is posting on her page because she probably knows you are on there snooping around.

Like my old LT use to say, take a couple of DD's and call me in the morning.

This man knew what he was talking about

@Legend - Ok man first of all you are 19. You are young and truly have not experience enough to understand what everyone is telling you. If takes years of going through these things and then looking back to realize what you did wrong.

Take my situation for example. In college I knew I was going to be running through chicks. So I remained single but would hook up with girls at "the club" and bring them back. Needless to say I have been with a lot of chicks, don't really want to open that number up here. Lets just say whole lot. I had my fun and did some of the wildest craziest **** in my entire life at that time. But it was all worth it.

Now in my life, I have been with my future wife for 5 years(Who HATES with every ounce of her soul how many people I have been with. But I did not want to lie to her). Bought a house, have a great job, and just a regular boring life LOL. Once you get older it is work, work, work, little play, work, work, work. So I look back on all the fun I had and can honestly say it brings a smile to my face when I start remembering all the good times. You want this, you don't want to be 35 sitting at home looking at your wife you feel stuck with and wishing you made a move on that smoking hot chick next to you in class 15 years ago.

Bottom line is you don't have to be a man whore and sleep around with every girl. But do make yourself available and take chances with girls. Because looking back on it years and years later you will realize you will never see or talk to that person again most likely and the fear you feel now is just based on the little knowledge you have with the world so far.

[mgoblue]

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I'm only 21 (almost 22) but ****, if I could go back to freshman year of college when I was 17/18 knowing what I know now...life would've been a whole ****-ton different.

Yeah...Same here. I was a bit naive and learned a lot in college...I wish I could go back in time and slap the hell out of 18 year old me lol

For the original poster, I'd recommend not talking to her much for a month or so...constant emails, texting, and calls make it even harder to get over her. From my experience you need some distance and not much communication so you aren't constantly thinking about her or get reminded of her.