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  • OSUFan_88
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    • Jul 2004
    • 25642

    #31
    Re: Relationship Guidance

    Originally posted by jeremym480
    P.S.- Man, I wish I could start over at 19 and know what I know now.
    Uh, yeah, I'm pretty sure 90% of recently graduated men would agree with this statement.

    As for advice, honestly, you are in college. I know everyone is not the same, but College is not made for a real relationship. College is made for you to go have sex with anyone you deem passable and move in for the kill.

    I didn't learn that until about two years ago and it made college much easier and much, MUCH more fun.
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    • TarHeelMan
      Th* H*mb*rg*r P*mp
      • Jul 2002
      • 7853

      #32
      Re: Relationship Guidance

      I went through the same thing in HS... The girl I was with my senior year was amazing. To this day I think that if we had crossed paths at another point later in our lives, I might have married her. But I was slated to go to DC for college, and she was off to Texas. I knew it wasn't going to work, and I even got a little depressed as the senior year came to an end, cause I knew that this wonderful relationship was gonna eventually be over.

      Stuff happened and I wound up staying close to home to go to college. I quickly found that it was easy to move on from my HS girl. I'd hate to think what would have happened if I had spent any amount of time simping on a girl 1000 miles away.

      And to be honest, let's keep it one hundred. If your girl is any kind of looker, she's gonna have dudes trying to get in her pants ON THE REGULAR. The fact that you're not around, well, she'll probably be inclined to get down with one of these cats. College is one of the few times in life where you can get by with women with absolutely minimal game. And since this is probably her first time away from home, well, I'm sure you know. Those first two years away at college when these chicks let the freak out. Ya'll can still be cool, understand that you're both gaining new experiences, then maybe down the road, ya'll might be able to link back up again. It's just a part of the growing up process.

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      • Speedy
        #Ace
        • Apr 2008
        • 16143

        #33
        Re: Relationship Guidance

        Originally posted by xlegendkillax
        Yeah I mean I keep telling myself Ill get over it, itll be fine in a few more months, but its already been a month and I dont feel any better than I did the minute we parted ways. College is fun, I just miss the companionship of someone that close to me. I really made the mistake of putting too many eggs into one basket.
        Have you spoken to her? Maybe she feels the same way...sometimes if it's fate, you both will be together somehow.
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        • SuperBowlNachos
          All Star
          • Jul 2004
          • 10218

          #34
          Re: Relationship Guidance

          A little late, but moving on and finding a new girl is the best way.

          I was best friend with this girl from 6th grade up until the 2nd semester of college. We literally talked probably ever day because we talked on AIM at home, then we got text message in HS. We graduated and she moved off and I stayed home. Even though she came home on weekends to work so I got to see her it didn't work out. We actully ending up getting into a big fight over spring break and didn't talk again, at all, until the end of May. We talk a couple times a year now and since early 09 I have seen her once and it was passing by at a football game. I facebook stalked her for a while, but I ended up just blocking her so I couldn't.

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          • jeremym480
            Speak it into existence
            • Oct 2008
            • 18198

            #35
            Re: Relationship Guidance

            Originally posted by Phobia
            This man knew what he was talking about

            @Legend - Ok man first of all you are 19. You are young and truly have not experience enough to understand what everyone is telling you. If takes years of going through these things and then looking back to realize what you did wrong.

            Take my situation for example. In college I knew I was going to be running through chicks. So I remained single but would hook up with girls at "the club" and bring them back. Needless to say I have been with a lot of chicks, don't really want to open that number up here. Lets just say whole lot. I had my fun and did some of the wildest craziest **** in my entire life at that time. But it was all worth it.

            Now in my life, I have been with my future wife for 5 years(Who HATES with every ounce of her soul how many people I have been with. But I did not want to lie to her). Bought a house, have a great job, and just a regular boring life LOL. Once you get older it is work, work, work, little play, work, work, work. So I look back on all the fun I had and can honestly say it brings a smile to my face when I start remembering all the good times. You want this, you don't want to be 35 sitting at home looking at your wife you feel stuck with and wishing you made a move on that smoking hot chick next to you in class 15 years ago.

            Bottom line is you don't have to be a man whore and sleep around with every girl. But do make yourself available and take chances with girls. Because looking back on it years and years later you will realize you will never see or talk to that person again most likely and the fear you feel now is just based on the little knowledge you have with the world so far.
            Ahh, the good old days. What I wouldn't give to have a video tape of all the drunken debauchery, I used to partake in? I mean, some of this stuff that happened you couldn't even write a movie about it because it's just so damn unbelievable.

            I used to have a group of friends that would call me every Saturday and Sunday around noon just to see what kind of **** I got myself into the night before. Now, when they call and ask what I did on Saturday night, I usually just go with "not much". I guess that's better that saying "I spent two hours reading impressions from complete strangers about NBA 2K11. Then played another complete stranger in NCAA 11. Then read some off-topic stuff and movie reviews by complete strangers before I called it a night."

            Originally posted by OSUFan_88
            Uh, yeah, I'm pretty sure 90% of recently graduated men would agree with this statement.
            True. True. I'm one of those people who got hitched in their early 20s (I was 22). Then got divorced at 24. After that I got into another relationship when I was 26 that lasted about a year and a half. Luckily I didn't have any kid's in either of those relationships because that would have been the worst but, I guess that's another subject. Anyways, I really wish I could have all that time back.
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            • Phobia
              Hall Of Fame
              • Jan 2008
              • 11623

              #36
              Re: Relationship Guidance

              Originally posted by jeremym480
              Ahh, the good old days. What I wouldn't give to have a video tape of all the drunken debauchery, I used to partake in? I mean, some of this stuff that happened you couldn't even write a movie about it because it's just so damn unbelievable.

              I used to have a group of friends that would call me every Saturday and Sunday around noon just to see what kind of **** I got myself into the night before. Now, when they call and ask what I did on Saturday night, I usually just go with "not much". I guess that's better that saying "I spent two hours reading impressions from complete strangers about NBA 2K11. Then played another complete stranger in NCAA 11. Then read some off-topic stuff and movie reviews by complete strangers before I called it a night."



              True. True. I'm one of those people who got hitched in their early 20s (I was 22). Then got divorced at 24. After that I got into another relationship when I was 26 that lasted about a year and a half. Luckily I didn't have any kid's in either of those relationships because that would have been the worst but, I guess that's another subject. Anyways, I really wish I could have all that time back.
              LMAO I know man. If I taped everything that went down I would sell it to MTV. We could of capitalized on the whole "jersey shore" drunkness that is that show. Because we were doing what that show is about loooonnng before that show. Drunk all fresh, go to the club, bring chicks back, try and miss grenades, you catch a few here and there, fight with roomates, then do it all again the next night.

              I remember all the dollar nights and ladies nights at all the old clubs we would hit up. We had a different spot for each day of the week. 6 days a week just getting destroyed.

              Some of the things we did drunk just boggles my mind when I think back on it. Surprised I survived through it all. Would not want to change anything I did back then and all the good times we had.

              But I can honestly say I am glad those times are over because lord I could not hang now.
              Last edited by Phobia; 09-22-2010, 01:32 PM.

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              • HarkTheSound
                MVP
                • Dec 2007
                • 1167

                #37
                Re: Relationship Guidance

                Thanks for the support guys.

                Just as a freakish side note that I forgot to mention earlier, our birthdays are like 2 weeks apart, which will seem relevant in a sec. Both of our fathers were in the military at the time so back in 1991 we were born in the SAME HOSPITAL in Hawaii. Our moms knew each other apparently cause when I first started dating her she showed me a picture that my mom had sent to her mom like 15 years ago of my family in a family potrait. So my now ex had a picture of my family in her house for that long and we somehow meet up again that far along down the road in NORTH CAROLINA. Completely different places on the planet, that far apart in time. Its stuff like that that makes it so difficult for me to give up on this girl because it just seems like fate to me.

                I did talk with her yesterday and we talked about the future. We both agreed its best if we see more of the world and if we hook up again in the future so be it. So I just told her if she needs anyone to talk to Ill always be there for guidance and whatnot. *AWWWW coming from the crowd*

                Im trying guys.
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                • cardsfan2222
                  Pro
                  • Apr 2009
                  • 872

                  #38
                  Re: Relationship Guidance

                  If you really want to get over her, you can't talk to her that much. If you keep trying to talk to her and see her, it'll take you even longer to get over her. And you have to stop the facebook stalking, because it's going to hurt more if you see pics of her hanging out with another guy. If she's really the one you're supposed to be with, it'll happen. But the biggest mistake you could make is miss out on meeting someone else special just because you can't get over this one.

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                  • Phobia
                    Hall Of Fame
                    • Jan 2008
                    • 11623

                    #39
                    Re: Relationship Guidance

                    Originally posted by cardsfan2222
                    If you really want to get over her, you can't talk to her that much. If you keep trying to talk to her and see her, it'll take you even longer to get over her. And you have to stop the facebook stalking, because it's going to hurt more if you see pics of her hanging out with another guy. If she's really the one you're supposed to be with, it'll happen. But the biggest mistake you could make is miss out on meeting someone else special just because you can't get over this one.
                    I disagree with this. I don't believe in the whole "One person made for another person".

                    What I will say is, if you TRULY love the girl and want nothing more than to be with her. She has to want the same thing and then at that point someone has to make a sacrifice to be with one another (transferring schools).

                    But if you know it is not that deep or neither of you are willing to make that big a risk. Then just move on and quit stalking her facebook. Because like mentioned if you see pics or read messages from other guys hollaring at her you going to get depressed.

                    Bottom line is this. Either you go balls out & commit to trying to be with her OR move on. Constant talking to her, seeing her, thinking about her. Will not get you over her. All that does is remind you of her. You have to take yourself out of thinking of her.

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                    • jeremym480
                      Speak it into existence
                      • Oct 2008
                      • 18198

                      #40
                      Re: Relationship Guidance

                      Originally posted by xlegendkillax
                      Thanks for the support guys.

                      Just as a freakish side note that I forgot to mention earlier, our birthdays are like 2 weeks apart, which will seem relevant in a sec. Both of our fathers were in the military at the time so back in 1991 we were born in the SAME HOSPITAL in Hawaii. Our moms knew each other apparently cause when I first started dating her she showed me a picture that my mom had sent to her mom like 15 years ago of my family in a family potrait. So my now ex had a picture of my family in her house for that long and we somehow meet up again that far along down the road in NORTH CAROLINA. Completely different places on the planet, that far apart in time. Its stuff like that that makes it so difficult for me to give up on this girl because it just seems like fate to me.

                      I did talk with her yesterday and we talked about the future. We both agreed its best if we see more of the world and if we hook up again in the future so be it. So I just told her if she needs anyone to talk to Ill always be there for guidance and whatnot. *AWWWW coming from the crowd*

                      Im trying guys.
                      It sounds like you're doing a pretty good job. If you can basically play it cool from this point and on and really "let her go" then you will come out smelling like a rose here. I mean, there's nothing girls hate more than going through a bad break-up where their boyfriend bitches, cry's and moans until the bitter end. That leaves a bad taste in their mouth and will actually make them have resentment and even hate for that person. However, if you just let her go without all of that, then you will always be the "cool guy" who she had a "good breakup" with. And if you want any hope (all though it may still be small) for any kind of future relationship then that's how you have to play it.
                      I can tell you from experience that it's much better to end up being the "cool guy" than the "bitter ex".

                      Originally posted by cardsfan2222
                      If you really want to get over her, you can't talk to her that much. If you keep trying to talk to her and see her, it'll take you even longer to get over her. And you have to stop the facebook stalking, because it's going to hurt more if you see pics of her hanging out with another guy. If she's really the one you're supposed to be with, it'll happen. But the biggest mistake you could make is miss out on meeting someone else special just because you can't get over this one.
                      Listen to this man. As much as it sucks, you eventually going to have to cut her loose on Facebook. It's almost inevitable if you're going to get over her.
                      Last edited by jeremym480; 09-22-2010, 02:16 PM.
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                      • mgoblue
                        Go Wings!
                        • Jul 2002
                        • 25477

                        #41
                        Re: Relationship Guidance

                        Originally posted by Phobia
                        But I can honestly say I am glad those times are over because lord I could not hang now.
                        I would die if I lived like I did in college lol I don't really drink much now, so my tolerance is horrible now. It was fun in college, but you can only do that for 3-4 years, I can't imagine living like that and having to go to work the next day lol
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                        • GAMEC0CK2002
                          Stayin Alive
                          • Aug 2002
                          • 10384

                          #42
                          Re: Relationship Guidance

                          With all the be like wilt advice, I'd also add to be "safe" in your extracurricular activities. Definitely don't need a surprise that you're responsible for the next 18 years.

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                          • Phobia
                            Hall Of Fame
                            • Jan 2008
                            • 11623

                            #43
                            Re: Relationship Guidance

                            Originally posted by mgoblue
                            I would die if I lived like I did in college lol I don't really drink much now, so my tolerance is horrible now. It was fun in college, but you can only do that for 3-4 years, I can't imagine living like that and having to go to work the next day lol
                            LOL I know. It is not so much the drinking that would be my issue. I can still hold my own with most on that case (18 beers, 5 jello shots, 3 shots jager, a pitcher of Bloody Mary this past Saturday LSU tailgating). It is the long nights, I am in bed by 10pm most nights. I am a grandpa compared to how I lived back in college :wink:

                            I have me a stiff drink or two a night but for sure not out getting demolished like we use to.

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                            • Beantown
                              #DoYourJob
                              • Feb 2005
                              • 31523

                              #44
                              Re: Relationship Guidance

                              Originally posted by GAMEC0CK2002
                              With all the be like wilt advice, I'd also add to be "safe" in your extracurricular activities. Definitely don't need a surprise that you're responsible for the next 18 years.
                              Definitely. Not to mention something like, what, 1 in 4 college students gets an STD by the time their 4 years are up or something ridiculous like that.

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                              • HarkTheSound
                                MVP
                                • Dec 2007
                                • 1167

                                #45
                                Re: Relationship Guidance

                                I think thats like the biggest thing Im afraid of here is catching a STD if I slip up...cause with my ex we didnt have to worry about that since we were both virgins :P
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