Any OS Loners?

[MrChainsaw]

I have discovered in recent years that, after moving to a completely new location after graduating high school that my people skills just aren't what they used to be. I have lived in this town for quite some time now and I have barely been able to make any friends, let alone ones that I hang out with on a regular basis. I don't seem to have much in common with the kind of people I encounter here.

I guess the question I am asking is, are there any other OSers that are like me? Who spend the majority of their time away from work/school by themselves? I don't particularly like it, but my social skills/self esteem are kind of shot for some reason and I haven't been able to fully recover yet. Just wondering if I am alone in this department.

[PVarck31]

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I'm kinda of a loner. Always have been. I have one really good friend but we don't hang out much anymore due to his work schedule. I'm married and spend most of my time with my wife and step-daughter. Although they are always in bed early so I sit on the computer or play games till 4-5 am. Sometimes its nice though. But other times I wish I was out with friends. I did some partying in college and I kinda miss that lol.

[oneamongthefence]

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I've always had a really small circle of friends and I'm not a social person. I don't go out much. But I think thay stems from too much video games when I was younger. Nintendo before Hoes lol.

[Blzer]

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I'm anything but a loner in college, but I fear for what I'll be doing after I graduate. I hope to get in a relationship again soon.

EDIT: I should clarify, the reason for this is because I will be moving back home up north in the Bay Area and will be leaving all of my great friends I've made here in San Diego. My old friends at home are all heavy partiers and don't really have bright futures ahead of them. My other two good friends I planned strong futures with have died in the past several years. My old girlfriend before college is now with another guy. To top it all off I'll be living back at home, literally... I think it becomes more awkward for me to want to do some things I would normally do in college and away from home that I can't do at home, normally involving middle-of-the-night stuff or just being able to walk places instead of having to drive everywhere without needing to give a reason to my parents, etc. I just felt like I could own my responsibilities a little more appropriately when away from home, and now that I'm going home it will be more difficult. I'll never be socially awkward, but I'll just have to find a new circle of people for a while.

[ryan36]

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Yeah, I used to go out a lot and hang w/friends- but they were all drinking buddies. When I found OS , I was 20 , and on the other side of the country from home. I feel for ya man

[Marino]

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Most of my good buddies live in Raleigh, and when I transferred back home I lost my inner circle of friends back home. After school I will move back up to Raleigh though.

[bkrich83]

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I'm anything but a loner in college, but I fear for what I'll be doing after I graduate. I hope to get in a relationship again soon.

EDIT: I should clarify, the reason for this is because I will be moving back home up north in the Bay Area and will be leaving all of my great friends I've made here in San Diego. My old friends at home are all heavy partiers and don't really have bright futures ahead of them. My other two good friends I planned strong futures with have died in the past several years. My old girlfriend before college is now with another guy. To top it all off I'll be living back at home, literally... I think it becomes more awkward for me to want to do some things I would normally do in college and away from home that I can't do at home, normally involving middle-of-the-night stuff or just being able to walk places instead of having to drive everywhere without needing to give a reason to my parents, etc. I just felt like I could own my responsibilities a little more appropriately when away from home, and now that I'm going home it will be more difficult. I'll never be socially awkward, but I'll just have to find a new circle of people for a while.

Why would you ever move back to the bay area? GD, I hate that place. Thank God I'll never have to live there again.

[Blzer]

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Why would you ever move back to the bay area? GD, I hate that place. Thank God I'll never have to live there again.

Eh, my mom wants me home. As far as I'm concerned it will help me save up money for when I move out, whenever that is. I happen to like the Bay Area. I love San Diego though too, so it's kind of a tossup.

[Bighoff]

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Mostly a loner, while I have a lot of people I know I have my room mate and one real friend that I hang out with. Was very social in HS and early to mid 20's but since then I'm more at ease or comfortable chilling at home or a friend's place and just hanging.

[superjames1992]

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I do definitely have some loner tendencies. I like my own personal time with solitude. Others like to be around people and activity all the time, but I can't stand that. I suppose it has some to do with my upbringing as an only child. A night in which I just chill and play some videogames, watch TV, or whatever else is a fine night in my book.

[PantherBeast_OS]

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I can admit that right now I'm a loner to. I ain't really made no new friends like in 5-6 years now. Since my 2 best friends went into the army about 6 years back. I pretty much stay around the house and help my mother and look after my sick father right now. Ain't work since 2007. Jobs are hard to find in the small town I live in. If I hangout with anyone it is my family members most of the time. I'm 32 and really spend alot my time just helping out my mother why she works. Plus looking for work while I have nothing else to do right now. As you get older it is harder to find people to be friends with and hangout with them. I don't drink or do any kind of drugs or anything. I pretty much stay to myself alot times. I know it sounds like a crappy life. But I enjoy the peace and quite alot of the time. Overall I'm playing my games and on the PC and looking after my Mother and sick Father right now and looking for some work to make some money.

[DXZeke]

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As I've gotten older having less "friends" locally has been easier than having a lot. Why? When you have friends that want to hang out a lot, if you're not in the mood, they get annoyed. We all have at least one demanding friend in our lifetime and that's what made me appreciate the friendships I have with my online friends.

My online friends. We talk about the same stuff, if not more. No one feels or gets upset when the other person logs off for the night or you don't hear from them for a few days, even a week.

It also makes it easier to date someone. You can spend more time with them and less time with other people. You won't have to worry about the girl being worried about you "going out for a drink" with the boys, etc.

Being a "loner" isn't what was once like. The internet is a good place to fill that friend void.

[Guffers]

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Yep after I finished high school in 2001 I stayed in touch with my group of friends. But since around 2006 they have been off traveling around the world and I'm still back here. I got married last year and have spent most of my time working/studying and hanging out with my wife. It doesn't help that I live around an hours drive from Melbourne where most of my old friends live.

I have a couple of guys that I hang out with every now and then but to be honest I don't feel the connection that I had with my best mates from school. Its tough and I figure to maintain friendships you really have to work at it. When my friends get back later this year I fully intend to try and hang out with them more often.

[TheMatrix31]

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I dont know if I'd call myself a loner. I have a few good friends in real life, but I don't truly relate to them that much. Different upbringing, different mentalities, etc. At UCLA I didn't really make any new friends, I'm not the type to just randomly pick up a conversation like that. I just didn't even bother. I suppose living at home while attending had a bit of an effect on that also.

I definitely find myself relating to friends I've made on OS way, way more.

[Buckeyes_Doc]

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I do definitely have some loner tendencies. I like my own personal time with solitude. Others like to be around people and activity all the time, but I can't stand that. I suppose it has some to do with my upbringing as an only child. A night in which I just chill and play some videogames, watch TV, or whatever else is a fine night in my book.

I'm the same way, but I grew up with 5 brothers. So as a child and growing up I was never alone, and now being an adult I love having any alone time I can get. I am married so I spend most of the time with my wife and I have a small circle of friends most of them I've known since I was kid.