Any OS Loners?

[Jonesy]

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I have a good buddy at work who is 23, and he ALWAYS used to ask me to go out to bars with him and some other guys. When he was asking a lot, my wife was pregnant. I'd usually tell him, "Sorry bud, I think I'm just going to go hang out with my pregnant wife." He'd just roll his eyes and give me **** for it.

Lol my best friend is 30 and single and still shares a bachelor pad with 2 other dudes and they literally party ALL the time. He's always giving me crap about not going out drinking etc but i just have to tell him wait and see, the shoe will be on the other foot one day and you'll see where I'm coming from.

The funny thing is that while he gives me crap about not partying when we do get together and have some beers etc he's very quick to say he's jealous of my lifestyle and wishes he could find the right girl and settle down yada yada so while I sometimes miss the party lifestyle at times I wouldn't trade places for anything.

[Jonesy]

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I have a good buddy at work who is 23, and he ALWAYS used to ask me to go out to bars with him and some other guys. When he was asking a lot, my wife was pregnant. I'd usually tell him, "Sorry bud, I think I'm just going to go hang out with my pregnant wife." He'd just roll his eyes and give me **** for it.

Lol my best friend is 30 and single and still shares a bachelor pad with 2 other dudes and they literally party ALL the time. He's always giving me crap about not going out drinking etc but i just have to tell him wait and see, the shoe will be on the other foot one day and you'll see where I'm coming from.

The funny thing is that while he gives me crap about not partying when we do get together and have some beers etc he's very quick to say he's jealous of my lifestyle and wishes he could find the right girl and settle down yada yada so while I sometimes miss the party lifestyle at times I wouldn't trade places for anything.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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I like spending time by myself. Some people hate it. I mainly hang out with family and my gf. Do hang out with friends from church too, but that's about it.

[ScoobySnax]

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I only have two people I would consider "friends". Other than going hang out every once in a while with them, I just chill at the house with my wife. I am perfectly fine with that too. I love being around my family though. It sucks because they all live in Houston and I'm up here in Dallas. I don't make the trip down as much anymore.

[TheMatrix31]

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I absolutely loathe the people who simply can't stay home. They ALWAYS have to be out and about, doing something. Why? I have no idea.

[Chrisksaint]

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Idk i'm kinda in that middle, i'm fine with staying at home although not if i'm not in the mood to,But I love to go out. Maybe like 10 friends I talk/hang out with a lot. There's a farily decent number of people I used to be really good friends I just stopped talking to and just associate with them at like a party or something, I'm not a huge fun of going up to random people unless i'm introduced or something.

At a party I just tend to hang out with people I know or atleast my friends know, i'll probably force myself to change that in College cause i'll need to get to know a few more people.

[Bellsprout]

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I absolutely loathe the people who simply can't stay home. They ALWAYS have to be out and about, doing something. Why? I have no idea.

My sister was like that. She'd be literally mad if she had to spend one night at home because her friends couldn't go out or something. Annoyed the **** out of me.

[KingV2k3]

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Very interesting / entertaining / insightful thread...

But I gotta ask:

Does being a "loner" actually involve having a GF / wife?

If you live with a significant other, you're rarely actually alone, IMHO...

[NDAlum]

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I absolutely loathe the people who simply can't stay home. They ALWAYS have to be out and about, doing something. Why? I have no idea.

Agreed. I had a girlfriend like this. That bs did not last long with me.

Met her at a bar...and guess what...she loved the bar!

Very interesting / entertaining / insightful thread...

But I gotta ask:

Does being a "loner" actually involve having a GF / wife?

If you live with a significant other, you're rarely actually alone, IMHO...

My "loner" time is in my man cave. When the girl moves in she will see I like to be in this room quite a bit.

[Beantown]

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Yes, but I actually don't mind it. I'm a very sociable person once I get out, but truthfully...I hate going out with people my age. In college it was fine and I could deal with the thursday/friday/saturday nights going out to parties and such and getting drunk, but the moment I graduated, I had no interest in living that life anymore. All of my friends who still live around here only like one thing these days: going out and getting ****ed up. I'll make an appearance probably once or twice a month if they're doing something that seems entertaining (going to a show, a certain club/bar or two, or something) but other than that I spend most of my time either working and interacting with people there, though after work all of them enjoy going and doing one thing - getting ****ed up - or I'll spend my time alone, or with my family.

Does it suck at times? Absolutely - you hear/read about stories of your friends having fun and all of that and there's a part of me that wishes I went out more, and then I will go out more for a few days with them and try and work myself back into their social circle, so to speak, and realize that I am just forcing myself for no reason, and will end up disappearing for a bit. To put it in context, I have seen/hung out with my two best buddies three times since February, that's it. Now it also coincides with me getting a new job at a new restaurant and working six days a week, so that certainly put a damper on things, but since then I really have found that I enjoy coming home after work, having a drink or something by myself and either playing some video games, reading, writing, or watching a movie by myself more than I would if I forced myself to go out.

It doesn't help that I live in a small suburban town in central MA that's too far from Boston to just drive in for the day and hang out places to meet new people and there's not many new people to meet around here, which is why I'm just biding my time as a loner right now until I move away to go back to grad school. For those people that follow me on Twitter, they know that most of the time when I go out something sit-com like happens and I have a new story to tell all of the people on there, whom as others have said, I actually associate myself with more than my "real" friends because I can sit on here, or on twitter, and bull**** about movies, or video games, or sports with real conversations I could never have with my friends.

[slickdtc]

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Now it also coincides with me getting a new job at a new restaurant and working six days a week, so that certainly put a damper on things, but since then I really have found that I enjoy coming home after work, having a drink or something by myself and either playing some video games, reading, writing, or watching a movie by myself more than I would if I forced myself to go out.

This is it right here. Every now and then, like two, three times a month it's cool to go out and do that whole scene. But the majority of the time, when I get off work or even when I'm off, I like to spend the day/night with my girl or just with myself. Reading, writing, playing video games, watching movies... it's relaxing, fun.

I don't think people spend enough time with themselves anymore.

[mgoblue]

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My gf and I are kinda loners, but we're busy. We just do stuff with family (hers or mine) on weekends...we just don't really have a huge network of friends our age in the area we go out with...

My parents were kinda the same way, we're more the type to have a few close friends rather than a ton of more casual friends...

[Polo Bandit]

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Most of my old friends are married and got that whole thing going, I'm single and live alone. Most the things I like (I love baseball for example but all my friends hate it) it's hard to get people to come out to so I end up doing most things alone.

[AUChase]

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I'm not a loner, but I like to have ME time occasionally.

I work 5 days a week and I deal with people constantly, so I'm not always in the mood to be in the presence of a bunch of people. I guess that's part of the reason I've abandoned the "party" scene for the most part. I'll party on the Holidays that usually go with it.. like New Years, 4th of July, Halloween, etc.

I play football or basketball about once each week, and hang out with friends a few nights a week, but outside of that I chill at home or if I happen to have a girl at the time.

The only thing is, I sometimes feel left out from some of my other friends. Two of my good friends from school have completely serious relationships and are either living together or on the verge of it. My best friend of 17 years just had a little girl and is serious with his girl. I haven't found anyone I can stand to be with longer than a month.. lol.

I'm not rushing it, I just have to remind myself not to feel pressured to force something to work with someone, just because my friends have something really serious going on.

I just don't think I could be a "loner", though..