Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

[EnigmaNemesis]

Okay, normally I am a cool cat who can handle any situation... but I need advice on this one...

Ever since I have lost a ton of weight, and bulked up big time, I have been a magnet. Girls have flocked to me, younger and older. Not even bashful about telling me how hot I am (man times have changed).

Well it was fun and all, but now as the circles of friends grow larger with more opportunities, you are going to get various types of people of different beliefs, ethnicity, cultures, and sexual preferences. I do not judge anyone, and try and be kind and understanding to everyone I meet. We are all individuals.

Now here is the situation... this girl I know who is my female best friend as well as another close friend of mine who is a girl have this gay friend. Well I guess I made the mistake of accepting his friend request on Facebook after having met him a few times. Was a nice guy, we all had fun partying out.

But now he is messaging me saying he can not get over how "hot I am"... so how the hell do I, as a straight man, nip this in the bud without being offensive or rude?

Any and all help is appreciated. ::sigh::

[Bellsprout]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

This could be the best thread ever.

[EnigmaNemesis]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

This could be the best thread ever.

You know... I normally would not have posted this... but when this happened to me today, I said WOW, this is some OS Neighborhood fate...

But seriously... how the heck do I handle this?

I can't just be like, "hey man, I am flattered, but you see all that hot vagina you hang with, yeah, I am trying to lay them all... hint hint"

Cause let me tell you, an angry gay man who has the confidence of female friends, can ruin you very quick with vindication I have heard!

I am stumped, never been in this situation before!

[snepp]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Tell him you don't ride the dude train.

[Blzer]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Tell him you don't ride the dude train.

Yup, simple as that. You're straight, so ask him to move on.

[Stu]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Go for it. Man, everyone's gay once in awhile.

[FlyingFinn]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Just make sure he isn't just jerking your chain because your female best friend is trying to mess with you. If he isn't, maybe your friend could kind of say to him:

He is flattered and all but he is starting to feel a bit uncomfortable with your messages.

That way, it is coming from someone he is friends with.

[Bellsprout]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Just make sure he isn't just jerking your chain

Phrasing! </url>

[AUChase]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

If he's close friends with your' female friends, try asking them..

[EnigmaNemesis]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

If he's close friends with your' female friends, try asking them..

I was thinking about that... but I am just worried about vindication or the like,

Cause you can not always trust that they will convey it well, and not offensive.

[areobee401]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Just tell him you appreciate the complement and keep it moving. Chances are he knows your not gay and he is just being friendly. I'm sure if he was really into like that he would have said something to your mutual female friend.

Like you said , you don't want to embarrass him.

I don't know how exposed you are to the homosexual culture , but it sounds to me he was just being friendly.

Besides , if you go through a dry spell now you have "something" to fall back on.

[ProfessaPackMan]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

And I'm pretty sure that "something" would be the last thing he would want to "fall back on" if you catch my drift.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

Just tell him point blank that you like females and that he is a nice guy and all, but you're not interested in him in THAT way. I would think, however, that he would be able to know or tell that you weren't.

[Marino]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

I have an excellent response but as a moderator, I will refrain.

Just tell him you don't swing from both sides of the plate, and that'll end that. Hopefully.

[EnigmaNemesis]

Re: Need help on not being offensive to someone who has the hots for you...

I have an excellent response but as a moderator, I will refrain.

Just tell him you don't swing from both sides of the plate, and that'll end that. Hopefully.

Do PM it to me