Found My Son's Condoms

[Evan_OS]

So for Christmas I bought my 16 year old (17 next month) son Michigan pillow cases. When I went to take off his old ones on Christmas Eve (wasn't home) I found 2 condoms inside. They were not in the package, they were out but didn't look like they were really used. He has a girlfriend which actually today marks 2 months together. I just worry that they're having sex. He does stay over at her house late on the weekends (9 or 10) and spends a couple afternoons over there during the week. But, her mother is pretty on top of things over there from what I can tell. I assume she keeps a sharp eye on everyone over there. My son says she's very strict and a lot of the time is on the ball about what's happening around the house.

I confronted him about it today and he says he just got them from friends at school and played with them one night in bed and didn't know where else to put them and didn't want me to see them. So he put them in the pillow case and just forgot about them the next morning.

I feel like I want to believe him, because this girl he is dating lives in a strict household and her mother is on top of everything over there, and the girl doesn't seem to be the type to get in bed early.

What do you guys think? Should I call over to his girlfriend's mom and tell her I found them? Let it go? Tell him I'm glad for being safe? (I did tell him that.) Help me out here guys.

EDIT: His girlfriend has never been inside his bedroom, but has been over to eat dinner a couple of times. So that means that he would of brought them over here from her house.

[dickey1331]

From the sound of it I would trust him.

I'd have a talk with him. About being responsible and the consequences that come along with it.

I wouldn't tell the girls mom. That wouldn't go over well and could cause problems in their relationship and he might resent you for that but you know him better than any of this.


Do you really care where I sent this from?

[chris11sg]

Man I don't have kids but I would congratulate him on being safe (or taking precaution of something went down) and leave it alone. Don't wanna cause any embarrassment to him by calling the girl over or the mom and discussing it. Just my 2 cents tho.....


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[Knight165]

Re: Found My Son's Condoms

Evan;

Were you ever 16?
C'mon.
Natural order of things.



M.K.
Knight165

[Pappy Knuckles]

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He's almost 17, he's got condoms in his room, and he's got a girlfriend. If he hasn't already started running up in that he's bound to sooner or later. Whether he has or not, you can be certain that he's thinking about doing it. Beyond warning him about STDs and the struggles of being a teenage father, I don't think there's a whole lot that you should really say. Be happy that he's thought about using protection because a lot of kids don't.

[Champion8877]

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I don'd have kids, but I imagine if I was in this situation I would tell my son to just be safe and responsible.

The way I look at it, if they are already having sex, or plan on having sex, you probably are not going to stop them from continuing.

I say just have a talk with him, encourage him to be safe and always wrap it.

[ScoobySnax]

I would trust your son to be safe. As long as you've taught him that, you're good. If they wanna do it, they'll find a way to do it. Your boy is just growing up, that's all.

[Chrisksaint]

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Unless you really don't want him to be having sex don't do anything other then just advise safety, my mom never gave me any talk other then saying she'd kill me if I brought home a kid which i'm glad for because I hate discussing that part of my personal life with my parents

[Gotmadskillzson]

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My parents gave me condoms as soon as I became a freshmen in high school. They weren't in denial or BS'ng around, they said look you a male teenager, it is just going to be the natural call of the wild. So if it calls, here you go, wrap it up. Plus my high school was handing them out as well to every freshman.

So like others have said, be glad he HAS condoms. Now it would be different if he was 9 or 10 years old. But he going on 17 and he has a GF. Don't know about you guys, but I know what I was doing when I was teenager in high school. Better for them to be prepared then unprepared and never had the conversation.

Have the talk with your son, don't let him learn off of Youtube or google and pick up old wives tales and totally false info.

[TripleCrown9]

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Honestly, unless your family's religious background (which doesn't need to be discussed) forbids it, I wouldn't worry about it. Clearly he knows that protection is important, as he was in possession of prophylactics. We've all been 16, and we all wanted "it" before we were 16. I misplaced my V-card at the ripe age of 17. Just talk to him about the emotional responsibility and all that jazz. And in case of a break-up, Jill and Palmela Handerson are always down.

[JBH3]

You should be relieved he's using condoms.

[kehlis]

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Honestly Evan, I actually believe your son's story.

When I was in a similar scenario, the last place I would hide condoms is in a place like a pillow case. If I had something to hide, I would hide them somewhere far less accessible to my parent than a pillow case.

[SPTO]

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Well first of all i'd believe your son's story but he's at that age where he's going to naturally want to experiment with girls so i'm actually encouraged that he's being safe about it. I'd just have a talk about the dangers of unprotective sex etc etc and assure him that if he has any questions about sexual matters that he can always go to you for discussions and answers to said questions.

[AUChase]

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If she's never been in his room, I would hope he's not bringing used condoms home and holding them for safe keeping in his pillow case.

It sounds like he's being honest and just wants to know how they work.

Good for him.. no harm in having the talk, but I also don't think you should bring the girl or her mother into it.

I don't have kids, but at the end of the day, you can just educate them to the best of your ability and then hope they make the right decisions for themselves.

The show sucks ***, but you could also force him to watch an entire episode of Teen Mom.

[24]

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To be quite honest with you I'm not sure whether he is telling the truth or not. If he did have sex with his girlfriend, he made the very smart and conscious decision to use protection.