Relationship Advice

**GAMEC0CK2002** · 08-02-2013, 02:17 AM

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Been there and it sucks. Honestly, you just have to respect her wishes, give her the space she's asking for and trust she's telling you the truth.

If you continue to press her you come off as looking desperate, clingy and it will just drive her away permanently.

I personally hated the not knowing/no time frame. The conversations were awkward b/c I had to act like it wasn't really bothering me that much.

It's darn near impossible to not take it personally (as in you must have done or didn't do something to cause the request) when your significant other drops the "i need a break" scenario on you

**tHurley2010** · 08-02-2013, 02:21 AM

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Yeah. Stay around, be a friend--not a boyfriend, and give her the space she's asking for. It will suck, I've been there. But trust that she'll come back to you when the time is right.

**kingkilla56** · 08-02-2013, 02:29 AM

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Yeah give her what she asked for. Space. Dont cling, dont check in, let her be free which is what she wants.

As for you, have your 808 and heartbreak time. After you shed your tears, hang out with friends for the last weeks of summer, meet new people or reconnect with some. After some time has passed meet new girls and enjoy yourself and your freedom with an open mind.

If she comes back in the future and you are in a spot where you want that relationship again then so be it. But if you are in a different place and mindset, then her loss. You'll get through this, just give it time.

**HealyMonster** · 08-02-2013, 07:09 AM

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Originally posted by JazzMan

I know that this is really ironic given Evan_OS's recent struggles, but I need some advice from the Neighborhood...

My girlfriend of 7 months just told me that she feels like she shouldn't be in a relationship right now, and even though she loves me, she wants to go on a break until she's ready for a relationship again...

Her words: "I don't think now is the right time Ty, I'm sorry, I hope that maybe soon though we can do this all again. I love spending all this time with you but for now please I need to not be in a relationship."

I really do like this girl. She is the sole reason as to why I've been happy this summer, and without her, I really don't know what I'm going to do.

I know this is just a break, but I don't want some guy to steal her heart and leave me in the dust...

What do you guys think I should do in this situation? Wait it out/wait for her? Talk to her often? Move on? Like I said, I really do like this girl, she's amazing and I don't want her to go.

Although I will say, at least I can play GTA V in peace in a month. Probably the only positive I see out of this...

How old are you and her?

**Redacted01** · 08-02-2013, 07:34 AM

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Originally posted by RiderGH

How old are you and her?

And don't tell us from someone else's perspective.

**TheNumber35** · 08-02-2013, 09:35 AM

Originally posted by dochalladay32

And don't tell us from someone else's perspective.

Had to be said didn't it lol?

As for actual advice, I've been there with my current girlfriend of 2 years. About 6-8 months into our relationship she said the same things to me. I didn't like it, but I respected her wishes and we took a break. I just tried to keep my mind occupied with other things, didn't talk to her unless she initiated (to give her space), and eventually she realized she wanted to be with me so she came back. And we've been happily dating since

Now she only took 2-3 weeks to do that, I don't know how typical that is for women since they're all crazy. But the advice above is pretty sound

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**JODYE** · 08-02-2013, 09:48 AM

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Yeah how old are you man?

From the sound of it, it appears she doesn't want to be in a relationship when school starts. Just my thought.

You have to remember, she is a girl, and girls are erratic and irrational. They can be completely happy one minute and complete nut jobs the next. Especially when they are young and hormonal lol

If she doesn't want to commit to you, let her go. She probably isn't the one anyway, and most likely the next one won't be either.

I'm assuming you're young. Take it as a learning experience and move on to the next one. You'll be much better off that way rather than thinking about what could have or should have been. There are plenty of fish in the sea Ty.

**JazzMan** · 08-02-2013, 09:58 AM

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I'm 18, she's 17.

From my perspective lol

**Lieutenant Dan** · 08-02-2013, 09:59 AM

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It's just the tip of the iceberg that is the 'female crazy.'

Run, boy..***n!

Seriously though...like many here, I've been through that as well. Kingkilla's advice is top-drawer for the situation.

My problem was I was in my young 20's and college, and I just couldn't NOT talk to her or see her on our 'break'. There's a lot more to it, but what would have been best for me would have been to not talk to her during that time, shed the tears, hang out with my buddies, and move on.

Good luck.

**HealyMonster** · 08-02-2013, 10:06 AM

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Originally posted by JazzMan

I'm 18, she's 17.

From my perspective lol

AHHH, ok.

My opinion, let it ride, play it cool. Be cordial, nice, entertain her when she comes around, show interest, but be clear that you are "ok without her". She knows you want to be with her, so theres no need to hilight that when you talk to her, pointing that out will most likely push her away. Being cool about it will show her that you will live without her, if she is cool with that, then it was never meant to be, but there's a chance she will realize that she isnt your only option, and that she shouldn't have given you your freedom.

If you guys were older id say the whole "not ready for a relationship" thing is a cop out to a greater truth, but the reality is, at that age, it could be the truth. Dont let your ego run the show, but dont sacrifice your pride either, walk the line, and see where it goes, give it a few months.

**GAMEC0CK2002** · 08-02-2013, 10:08 AM

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She asked for the break so give it to her..... she has to be the one to initiate any communication---resist the urge to call, text, facebook, etc

Are you both still in high school or just her?

**JazzMan** · 08-02-2013, 10:10 AM

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Just her, I'm going to college this fall.

**Fresh Tendrils** · 08-02-2013, 10:13 AM

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Honestly in my experiences its time to accept the fact that its time to move on. Hold the good times in your heart and mind and go forward into something bigger and better because that's just how it goes.

It'll be rough. There will be the up and down rollercoastering of emotions, but just keep moving on and giving her "space" (ie: no contact at all).

This "space" stuff girls come up with is just another way of breaking up. Its their version of the "its not you, its me" routine.

**cjonesfan921** · 08-02-2013, 10:17 AM

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Yeah, the space stuff is all a cover up for not being strong enough to let you know the deal right away.

Try your best to move on, however difficult it may be. There are better days ahead.

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