Relationship Advice

[AUChase]

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This happened to me in Highschool Ty.

I was dating a girl and we were both 16. She was my second true girlfriend.

(Dated a 16 year old when I was 12. I lied and said I was 13, but still.. that's a story for another day).

She wanted some space and I gave it to her and a few months later I was tired of waiting and started dating a different girl and was perfectly happy.

The first girl resurfaced on me at school and wanted to start dating again. I was extremely torn and I ended up breaking up with the new girl and started dating her.

A month later, the girl breaks up with me again and starts dating her ex.

Moral of the story.. don't get tied down to one person at a young age. Do what's best for you. That girl had me on the "proverbial leash" and even though I was happy and had moved on I went slumping back to her only to be **** on a month later. I let the leash and karma (if it even exists) get the best of me.

You're young. Do you and let the rest take care of itself. If It's meant to be, she'll come back. If not.. you can't just stop living your life.

[ScoobySnax]

You've got college ahead of you in a few weeks man. After freshman year, she'll be a distant memory. Knock a few down for your boys on OS. Lol!

[TripleCrown9]

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That's what my last girlfriend told me. And now she's dating a guy 15 years older than her. So you have to prepare yourself for that too.

[Lieutenant Dan]

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This happened to me in Highschool Ty.

I was dating a girl and we were both 16. She was my second true girlfriend.

(Dated a 16 year old when I was 12. I lied and said I was 13, but still.. that's a story for another day).

That sounds like an interesting story.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Just her, I'm going to college this fall.

Enjoy all of the college experience....consider this "break" a blessing in disguise. You won't get these 4 years back.

To be in "standby" mode during your freshman year is NO GOOD.

[FreAk47]

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Of the hundreds of people I met in college that started off still dating their high school bf/gf...I can maybe think of 1 or 2 who stayed together. Most of them ended by Christmas break the first year.

And as far as the "space" thing. Every time I've ever been told that or knew a guy who was told that...it was eventually discovered that the individual needing "space" was really banging someone else.

And that's an Evan_OS certified, true effin story.

[JODYE]

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Of the hundreds of people I met in college that started off still dating their high school bf/gf...I can maybe think of 1 or 2 who stayed together. Most of them ended by Christmas break the first year.

And as far as the "space" thing. Every time I've ever been told that or knew a guy who was told that...it was eventually discovered that the individual needing "space" was really banging someone else.

And that's an Evan_OS certified, true effin story.

Wait....so you're...lying then?

[FreAk47]

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Wait....so you're...lying then?

I might be, my brain hurts so bad from that thread yesterday I feel l don't even know my own life story. Maybe I never went to college? Am I really a guy who has dated girls that needed "space" before?

Hell, there's no way to be sure anymore.

[shugknight]

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Here's some advice that I wish I knew when I was your age.

If she says she needs space, give it to her. Don't force her into a relationship if she doesn't want to be. If she really wants to be with you, she'll realized that soon enough. Listen, you guys are young. You have your whole college life ahead of you. Don't let one girl ruin something that you can only experience once in your life. I know it may seem like you're in love, but believe me, you're probably not. This is just the high that you get when you're in a relationship. It comes and goes with every relationship, believe me. And as others have mentioned, don't ever contact her. If she contacts you great.. but you constantly calling, texting, emailing her makes you seem desperate and no girl likes that.

Second, and more importantly... If you think that the reason you're happy was because of a woman, stop thinking that way. You should be happy regardless of who you're with, Family, friends, girlfriends, pets, etc.. I know it may seem like she was the reason you were happy, but more likely it was the companionship that she provided in your life that made you happy. You can achieve that same feeling with your friends or family as well.

You're still young, and honestly, you'll probably be with many other girls before you find the "one". Keep your head up and put a smile on your face. You're only beginning to experience life.

[Lieutenant Dan]

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Shugknight is wise....great post.

[J-Clutch1]

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Don't pull an Evan.

But seriously, I hope it works out for you - I always have my doubts when it comes to someone going to a college/university while the partner is still in high school.

[NDAlum]

Pretty simple. Move on

[wwharton]

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Just her, I'm going to college this fall.

I think this is the most important piece of info you put out there. Whether for the "right" or "wrong" reasons, I'm sure this has a lot to do with her decision. And whether for the "right" or "wrong" reasons, you should be okay with it. Just trust everyone who already said it... you're better off heading to college without being in a long distance relationship.

[shugknight]

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Shugknight is wise....great post.

What's sad is that I only know of these things because I went through the same thing.

If I only had this advice when I was younger, my life would have probably been very different.

[Lieutenant Dan]

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What's sad is that I only know of these things because I went through the same thing.

If I only had this advice when I was younger, my life would have probably been very different.

But oftentimes when you're younger, you don't want to hear that stuff. LOL

Sometimes, you just gots to go through it to (hopefully) gain the wisdom.