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[kehlis]

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I don't think it's a red flag when you get to a certain age.

But 17? I can just understand where he is coming from.

I have been in his shoes at that age... Not excusing his actions, but I get it, especially at 18. Truth be told, I think we have very little facts here and I remember getting that gut feeling in HS because dudes don't care about breaking up couples at that age and in my case, my hunch was right.

I doubt he didn't look without a reason. Something clued him in and his hunch was right, even if it is ultimately harmless.

I'm with you in this scenario for the most part, I guess I would want to see more of the text's.

The random texts of hey, hi, etc are pretty alarming but I will 100% excuse the happy birthday text regardless of age.


That being said, I also agree with your other point.

I agree with everyone that going through the phone was wrong, it's a bad sign to begin with and just sets yourself up for a difficult situation.

One of my favorite life theories is to not ask a question you already think you know the answer to.


BUT, regardless of that, it's been done, and I think he knows it was wrong but at this point, it's irrelevant. Where to go from here.


I guess I agree with the response that recommended casually bringing him up at a casual time.

[TarHeelMan]

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I read something in "The Autobiography of Malcolm X" in HS that stood with me (it was such an eye opening read): Never ask a woman about her previous relationships; either she'll lie and you won't know the truth, or she'll tell you the truth and you'll wish that you hadn't heard it in the first place. That kind of thinking helped me immensely when it came to my young relationships. Females can low key tell when they have the upper hand in the relationship, and young Redskins is going to be giving off a very insecure vibe to his girl, which will inevitably lead to a drastic lowering of respect, which in turn could lead to her sliding off with someone who IS deserving of her respect.

Don't put the broad on a pedestal. Especially at that age. You telling her how bad it makes you feel when she kicks it with her ex via text, that lets her know that she now has a way that she can manipulate you. At 18, you should be keeping broads on deck, a veritable roster. No one should feel like they have absolute claim to your attention just because they possess feminine traits... Make 'em earn their status.

[kehlis]

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Where were you yesterday? We even raised the THM bat signal.

[TarHeelMan]

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LOL switching departments at work has had me on the fritz. Going to be traveling to Boston on the regular, and trying to cram in a month's worth of training into two and a half weeks.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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LOL switching departments at work has had me on the fritz. Going to be traveling to Boston on the regular, and trying to cram in a month's worth of training into two and a half weeks.

Be sure to read through Evan's latest thread. Instant classic...must read.

[55]

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As usual, my go to advice for everything:

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[HealyMonster]

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I read something in "The Autobiography of Malcolm X" in HS that stood with me (it was such an eye opening read): Never ask a woman about her previous relationships; either she'll lie and you won't know the truth, or she'll tell you the truth and you'll wish that you hadn't heard it in the first place. That kind of thinking helped me immensely when it came to my young relationships. Females can low key tell when they have the upper hand in the relationship, and young Redskins is going to be giving off a very insecure vibe to his girl, which will inevitably lead to a drastic lowering of respect, which in turn could lead to her sliding off with someone who IS deserving of her respect.

Don't put the broad on a pedestal. Especially at that age. You telling her how bad it makes you feel when she kicks it with her ex via text, that lets her know that she now has a way that she can manipulate you. At 18, you should be keeping broads on deck, a veritable roster. No one should feel like they have absolute claim to your attention just because they possess feminine traits... Make 'em earn their status.

this dude on that next level. He a pimp. He dont have woman on payroll or anything. He think Pimp, therefore his is.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Redskins, have you had the talk yet or are you just gonna deal with it on your own?

[Husker_OS]

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I read something in "The Autobiography of Malcolm X" in HS that stood with me (it was such an eye opening read): Never ask a woman about her previous relationships; either she'll lie and you won't know the truth, or she'll tell you the truth and you'll wish that you hadn't heard it in the first place.

Agreed especially when you're in college.

When you get out of college and in the post-grad world, you do need to know about the most recent relationship but you only need to know a couple of things: how long it lasted and why they broke up. In my most recent case, he cheated on her and they dated for 2.5 years. Any other information I had on it was offered by her.

Why do you need to know how long it lasted? To get a good feel for how much of a commitment she makes in relationships. She's either the couple of months then bail type or she's the fall in love type.

Why do you need to know why they broke up? To gauge whether she has issues or not. If she cheated then you need to bail ASAP. If she was cheated on then you have a mountain to climb in terms of gaining their trust. If it was a "we weren't meant to be" break up then you need to realize she's looking for a future husband.

Right now you're 18 so feel free to ignore that. At 18 you shouldn't have a girlfriend anyway. Never put yourself in a situation where you'll cheat and if you have a girlfriend in college you're likely to cheat if you have a decent social life. Alcohol and one night stands are a rite of passage.