In need of advice

[Bmore]

Re: In need of advice

Gotta take a small step back... you may want to at least find out what having that on your public record looks like. I think it'd have to be something potentially damaging for you to keep fighting, but you should at least know what the possibilities are.

It doesn't go on your record. It's a temporary order so it's no contact for 6 months. Which I have no intention of ever contacting her again anyway. I would have hired a lawyer and went to trial if it was going to be on my record.

There were several other people in the courtroom for the same thing. One guy wanted to hire a lawyer and the judge basically told him it would be a waste of money.

[Bmore]

Re: In need of advice

What do you have to gain by taking this to court? Is this something a prospective employer can find out and use as a basis to not hire you? If that's a possibility, then by all means do what you gotta do legal-wise.

If not, just let it go (IMO). Not worth the time or the money. You don't want anything to do with her anyway.

Oh I'm not taking this to court.

The judge gave me 2 options yesterday:

1. accept the peace order
2. come back to court next week with a lawyer and the judge will make a final decision based on the evidence.

I went with option 1 because I just wanted to be done with it.

I have no doubt that the peace order would have been dismissed if I chose option #2. There were threats made by both of us. Mine was in retaliation, but that doesn't mean anything.

The whole thing is over now. I've chalked the iPhone up as a loss. It's disabled anyway so she can't use it.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

Re: In need of advice

At least its over. Good luck moving forward.

[Brandwin]

Re: In need of advice

Glad you are able to move on from this, she seems very unstable. I do have a question, what if she contacts you, comes to your place, calls, text or whatever - Can something happen to her as well or this order just prevents you from contacting her? She seems a bit off, so you might be ready to move on, but don't be surprised if she doesn't try more crap with you. So people get off on drama like this. Good luck!

[Bmore]

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Glad you are able to move on from this, she seems very unstable. I do have a question, what if she contacts you, comes to your place, calls, text or whatever - Can something happen to her as well or this order just prevents you from contacting her? She seems a bit off, so you might be ready to move on, but don't be surprised if she doesn't try more crap with you. So people get off on drama like this. Good luck!

I'm not really sure what will/can happen if she contacts me. I'm assuming that she would be in violation of the peace order. I'm going to call the courthouse and find out.

I wouldn't put it past her to try more crap. I'm immediately calling the cops if she calls, texts, or shows up at my place.

[Brandwin]

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I'm not really sure what will/can happen if she contacts me. I'm assuming that she would be in violation of the peace order. I'm going to call the courthouse and find out.

I wouldn't put it past her to try more crap. I'm immediately calling the cops if she calls, texts, or shows up at my place.

I think that would be best. It's always easy to sit here and say what to do, but when you are in that situation and your emotions are running high, it's sometimes easier to go down a path that you shouldn't. Just try not to get caught up into anything.