OS Life Advice Thread

[Majingir]

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People get married, have kids and go on living their lives. If you aren't a regular part of it you are nothing but an afterthought if your only connection with them is through social media which based on your posts is your case.

If you really want my advice I would tell you not to stress as much about this as you do since you post about it in almost every thread you can. It doesn't last and it won't.

Life moves on for everyone, just realize that social media isn't a way of solving the problem of miles between you....

I know I bring it up way too often, but I just really want to try and make this stuff work cause I don't really got lots of family to connect to in the first place, so now that I got a chance to at least try and connect with some, I don't want to mess it up since this is final part of my family(that I know of) which I hadn't gotten to know,so just have that feeling like if I don't get to keep in touch with them,I won't get this chance with any other family again.

I know for the most part, it does seem tough to really stay connected when only real method of doing so is through internet, but I know I won't really be able to settle for just giving up/not trying. I at least want to try so I know even if it didn't work, at least I did try. I'd think it'd be easier to lose touch with friends than families since you'll always be related to your family even if you don't see them much, but you might not always be friends with your friends. Some are able to stay connected even despite rarely getting to see each other, and others aren't able to.

I know probably 90% of the people I won't even get to stay in touch with,other than maybe just birthday/holiday greetings and that's it, but I'm fine with that. It's just really 1-2 people specifically that I wanted to keep up with(1st cousins who arent that much older than me). Just don't really know what exactly to say to them in a situation like this when for all I know, I'd start start saying stuff as if we're close family, but to them, I'm nothing more than (as you said) an afterthought.

(if anyone actually cares enough about this/wants to go into more detail than just posting in the thread,then pm me)

[Trent Booty]

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I need some advice regarding schooling, and my future.

I am 17, and a Senior in high school. I have a girlfriend who is 16 and a Junior. We are VERY serious, as in spending extended periods of time (well over 4-5 days in a row) together, and everything. There isn't a doubt in my mind that we will last. Anyway, that's not the point.

I am deciding on what to do for college. I got terrible grades 9th-11th grade (like a 2.2 GPA) but this year i have a 3.7 (or something higher, I'm not sure). Even if I maintain that all year, my total cumulative GPA will be like a 2.5 or something like that.

My GF has like a 3.95, with all As and one A+ her freshman year. She either wants to go to UW or WSU Vancouver. She also does running start, so she can get whatever degree she wants 2 years faster out of HS.

She wants to be a teacher (although that IS subject to change, she is a girl lol), and I have no clue what I want to (or even CAN) do. I've dabbled in doing sports analysis, radio broadcasting, comedy, acting, and sports writing.

I'll probably go to our local community college and work on getting a transfer degree to WSU Vancouver so I could potentially (probably) go to WSU with my GF and get a minor in Communications, with a major in something like English.

We'd both be able to still live at home and commute together to Vancouver every day we have classes, or move in together in town or closer to Vancouver or something.

Is this a realistic/possible goal? Do any of you guys have advice or opinions that could help me get through this? It's really stressful and I want to figure it out while I have a chance.

Thanks to everyone who hopefully give me some advice.

[Cusefan]

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It is smart going the community College route to start then transferring but you gotta be selfish when picking a school. You probably won't marry your HS sweet heart, so I would go the selfish route and pick a school based on your needs for a future career. It's a matter of statistics as far as your GF goes, you guys are two fish in a small pond and your going into the ocean. At some point one of you will go to a party, get drunk, and hook up with that cute boy or girl that's been flirting all night. There will be a argument, she'll throw your stuff out her window, then you'll regroup and go play video games with your buds.

By the time your 20 you'll talk to 10 HS friends, by 25 it will be 5, by 30 youll be lucky to have 2. Point being, High School is a flash in the pan. Nothing that happened in those 4 years will matter.


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[Trent Booty]

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Well we both WANT to go to WSU Vancouver. The majors and stuff that she wants to persue are really good there (education) and that's about as best as I can get.

She's NEVER been a partier, and doesn't plan on it. And neither do I. I got my partying done IN high school, lol.

The most extravagant thing we do is go out to eat. We barely hangout with our friends anymore, and we are often compared to an old couple by our relatives, friends, etc.

[wwharton]

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I know I bring it up way too often, but I just really want to try and make this stuff work cause I don't really got lots of family to connect to in the first place, so now that I got a chance to at least try and connect with some, I don't want to mess it up since this is final part of my family(that I know of) which I hadn't gotten to know,so just have that feeling like if I don't get to keep in touch with them,I won't get this chance with any other family again.

I know for the most part, it does seem tough to really stay connected when only real method of doing so is through internet, but I know I won't really be able to settle for just giving up/not trying. I at least want to try so I know even if it didn't work, at least I did try. I'd think it'd be easier to lose touch with friends than families since you'll always be related to your family even if you don't see them much, but you might not always be friends with your friends. Some are able to stay connected even despite rarely getting to see each other, and others aren't able to.

I know probably 90% of the people I won't even get to stay in touch with,other than maybe just birthday/holiday greetings and that's it, but I'm fine with that. It's just really 1-2 people specifically that I wanted to keep up with(1st cousins who arent that much older than me). Just don't really know what exactly to say to them in a situation like this when for all I know, I'd start start saying stuff as if we're close family, but to them, I'm nothing more than (as you said) an afterthought.

(if anyone actually cares enough about this/wants to go into more detail than just posting in the thread,then pm me)

If you want this as bad as you seem to, then you reaching out to them shouldn't be an issue for you... just do it. As for what to talk about, what do you talk about with a girl/woman when you first contact them? The situation isn't all that different. If you want to get to know them better, ask them about themselves.

Hate to say it, but you are overthinking this. Just do it.

[wwharton]

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Well we both WANT to go to WSU Vancouver. The majors and stuff that she wants to persue are really good there (education) and that's about as best as I can get.

She's NEVER been a partier, and doesn't plan on it. And neither do I. I got my partying done IN high school, lol.

The most extravagant thing we do is go out to eat. We barely hangout with our friends anymore, and we are often compared to an old couple by our relatives, friends, etc.

That's great... you're still 17 and she's still 16. There's a chance you're the one in a million couple, and there's no reason to give up just bc most in your situation don't last. But you shouldn't be making plans as if you're going to. Focus on your career and future and if you can do that AND be in the same place, great. If not, see what you can do long distance. But you're both WAY too young to be putting your relationship ahead of your future. Even if you do last, you will regret that at some point.

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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That's great... you're still 17 and she's still 16. There's a chance you're the one in a million couple, and there's no reason to give up just bc most in your situation don't last. But you shouldn't be making plans as if you're going to. Focus on your career and future and if you can do that AND be in the same place, great. If not, see what you can do long distance. But you're both WAY too young to be putting your relationship ahead of your future. Even if you do last, you will regret that at some point.

Piggybacking off this, I started dating a girl the last few months of high school before we went off to separate colleges and we were able to make the long distance thing work fine for awhile. Eventually broke up for other non-related reasons, and then my current girlfriend went to Turkey for a semester early in our relationship and is now spending a year in Malaysia and while it's hard work, if you're both invested in the relationship, it's manageable. And this is coming from someone that doesn't deal well with not being able to talk much.

So I guess my point is that I would pick the school that you think is the best fit for yourself. If the relationship is strong enough, you'll make it work.

[Majingir]

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Hate to say it, but you are overthinking this. Just do it.

lol, overthinking this like 90% of everything I think of.

Just being cautious mostly just from bad experiences in the past where somewhat similar situation happened,and the end results of them weren't good at all(except in those cases it was with friends not family), so don't want something like that to happen again. Obviously won't know unless I try though.

[slickdtc]

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I gotta chime in here for Trent because, well, I'm the one in a million.

I think it truly comes down to the two people and if they really want to make it work. The hottie in your sociology class or distance between is the scapegoat for why the relationship didn't work out when in fact there was probably already doubts somewhere in the subconscious. You also grow up so much between high school and your mid-20's that it's kind of far fetched to ask someone to stay in a relationship that was formed as, basically, kids.

All that said, there's that chance and no matter how irrational or improbable that you guys work out, you're going to hold on to that sliver of hope.

My best advice is to make sure you're living for yourself, too. Make sure that if it doesn't work out, that you'll be okay on your own as well. It's almost counterintuitive to prepare to be alone while in the midst of a great relationship, but things happen in an instant. She could tell you you're the greatest one week and the next she's giving you the cold shoulder.

There's nothing like finding your soulmate at a young age, though. When I finally got to marry my HS sweetheart, it was perfect. We still learn and grow every day together.

Best of luck to you and your girlfriend. Just wanted to come in and let you know that it is possible to pull off what you're aiming to do because not many get to do it. As such, a lot of people will tell you you're too young to be invested in someone, you're losing your future, you're missing out on experiences. I don't think I would've felt that way even if my relationship didn't work out because it was worth investing everything in to at the time. I can't regret something I truly believed in. That's where people get it wrong, that you're making a mistake and setting yourself up for failure when even if that is the case, you grow through the journey. That experience would help in future relationships.

Hope it works for you guys! Maybe you'll be able to come on here years from now and let us know.

[kehlis]

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lol, overthinking this like 90% of everything I think of.

Just being cautious mostly just from bad experiences in the past where somewhat similar situation happened,and the end results of them weren't good at all(except in those cases it was with friends not family), so don't want something like that to happen again. Obviously won't know unless I try though.

Without getting too personal how could something like this end "bad."

It's a serious question, I don't get what could happen with any of this that would be so bad that you are afraid if it happening again.

[Majingir]

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Having people I thought I was close to, going from replying to me every so often, to just stop messaging me at all, for no reason. With no explanation either. Even when I messaged them back weeks later just asking a question, they don't bother replying back. Have no idea why, but since it was just a friend I don't see in real life(since they moved) I just moved on from that.

So something like that is always in back of my mind of how easily I could go from being good friends with someone, talking to them fairly often, then something changes in them and they just flat out stop talking to me.

[Trent Booty]

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After taking all your guys' advice, I decided to break up with her.

Nah I'm joking, lol, but I defintrly get what you guys are saying! I appreciate it all too. We both had those plans before we even met so it worked out I guess. I see where you guys could have doubt but I assure you we aren't like kids making these decisions. We're both oddly mature.

Anyway, regarding the "posting a couple years from now, and letting you guys know", I even planned on doing that, as I posted in the off topic thread a couple months ago and basically said "I just wanted to say I love this girl" and I got a lot of hate and got ganged up on by a bunch of more popular members and stuff. I took it in stride and wasn't offended at all, but yeah, basically no one believed in me. I guess that's what I get for telling a bunch of stangers I love a girl. Lol

[RyanLaFalce]

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Who here lives in Arizona? How would you say girls attitudes are compared to New York? In NY, every girl seems to be a stuck up b*tch and it's just getting old. Maybe it's the cold weather?

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[RockinDaMike]

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Who here lives in Arizona? How would you say girls attitudes are compared to New York? In NY, every girl seems to be a stuck up b*tch and it's just getting old. Maybe it's the cold weather?

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I lived there for 12 years and its a melting pot of people from all other states especially California and surprising quite a few Midwest people. I can't really tell you how New York girls as I only knew a handful of them.

Girls there are pretty laid back and most people are in a good mood except the hot *** summers, everyone is pissed at that time lol. It's pretty much sunny everyday. Its so sunny that people pray for rain. You obviously have the richy stuck up girls of Scottsdale but there are a bunch of suburbs of Metro Phoenix, 4 million people in the whole county.

As far as looks, damn son its a nice collection of white and mexican/spanish chicks, not too many asians or blacks though. You have a major university in the city, a lot of community colleges, all pro sports teams, tons of bars/clubs, gyms, you name it, hot girls are there. Since the weather is good, girls are always wearing neck breaking stuff. My thing was mexican chicks and its an over abundance of them there.

Hope that helps. I kinda miss the variety but not complaining since I'm around beautiful filipina girls all day.

[RyanLaFalce]

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I lived there for 12 years and its a melting pot of people from all other states especially California and surprising quite a few Midwest people. I can't really tell you how New York girls as I only knew a handful of them.

Girls there are pretty laid back and most people are in a good mood except the hot *** summers, everyone is pissed at that time lol. It's pretty much sunny everyday. Its so sunny that people pray for rain. You obviously have the richy stuck up girls of Scottsdale but there are a bunch of suburbs of Metro Phoenix, 4 million people in the whole county.

As far as looks, damn son its a nice collection of white and mexican/spanish chicks, not too many asians or blacks though. You have a major university in the city, a lot of community colleges, all pro sports teams, tons of bars/clubs, gyms, you name it, hot girls are there. Since the weather is good, girls are always wearing neck breaking stuff. My thing was mexican chicks and its an over abundance of them there.

Hope that helps. I kinda miss the variety but not complaining since I'm around beautiful filipina girls all day.

It helps a lot. Believe me when I say this, I've been trying with girls since 6-7th grade and I'm a sophomore in college. Something just isn't right here and it's getting old. I'd love to move to Arizona or someplace warm year round.

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