OS Life Advice Thread

[RockinDaMike]

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It helps a lot. Believe me when I say this, I've been trying with girls since 6-7th grade and I'm a sophomore in college. Something just isn't right here and it's getting old. I'd love to move to Arizona or someplace warm year round.

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Another thing to point out too since its a melting pot, there are team specific bars all over the county. So if you are the need to be around Yankee peeps, you'll always have a bar to go to.

[RyanLaFalce]

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Another thing to point out too since its a melting pot, there are team specific bars all over the county. So if you are the need to be around Yankee peeps, you'll have always have a bar to go to.

That's awesome.

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[wwharton]

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Having people I thought I was close to, going from replying to me every so often, to just stop messaging me at all, for no reason. With no explanation either. Even when I messaged them back weeks later just asking a question, they don't bother replying back. Have no idea why, but since it was just a friend I don't see in real life(since they moved) I just moved on from that.

So something like that is always in back of my mind of how easily I could go from being good friends with someone, talking to them fairly often, then something changes in them and they just flat out stop talking to me.

You don't know why they stopped replying though. Don't know if it was something you did or you in general, or them, or something else in their life. That's a situation where you just keep it moving, and this would be no different if the same thing happened. It sounds to me like what you want to do is the "right thing" so do the right thing and if others don't take it that way or don't follow the lead, that's on them.

After taking all your guys' advice, I decided to break up with her.

Nah I'm joking, lol, but I defintrly get what you guys are saying! I appreciate it all too. We both had those plans before we even met so it worked out I guess. I see where you guys could have doubt but I assure you we aren't like kids making these decisions. We're both oddly mature.

Anyway, regarding the "posting a couple years from now, and letting you guys know", I even planned on doing that, as I posted in the off topic thread a couple months ago and basically said "I just wanted to say I love this girl" and I got a lot of hate and got ganged up on by a bunch of more popular members and stuff. I took it in stride and wasn't offended at all, but yeah, basically no one believed in me. I guess that's what I get for telling a bunch of stangers I love a girl. Lol

I don't read anyone here giving you crap (and don't remember the other thread). The fact of the matter is that you're young and it would be VERY lucky if you both know who you really are and are right for each other forever. But it is possible and you definitely shouldn't give up on that chance. But if it's right, it's worth focusing on your future AND trying to make it worth, not the other way around. Because if it ends up falling apart, you don't want to have to deal with that AND reassessing your future when getting out of the situation. I think that's where most are coming from, and it's definitely where I'm coming from.

[Majingir]

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It sounds to me like what you want to do is the "right thing" so do the right thing and if others don't take it that way or don't follow the lead, that's on them.

Ya, that's basically what I'm thinking. All I want to do is just keep up with people I don't get to see in person,so if they have a problem with that, then so be it.

I already hate it when I message someone(who is online) and they take forever to reply,or don't actually reply back unless I directly ask a question(so it's almost like a 1 sided conversation), so that's probably another reason why no reply in general, makes me mad.

[wwharton]

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Ya, that's basically what I'm thinking. All I want to do is just keep up with people I don't get to see in person,so if they have a problem with that, then so be it.

I already hate it when I message someone(who is online) and they take forever to reply,or don't actually reply back unless I directly ask a question(so it's almost like a 1 sided conversation), so that's probably another reason why no reply in general, makes me mad.

Honestly, that's a generational thing, lol. I had someone text me to see if I was free, then 5 minutes later text nevermind because I took too long to reply. I told her if 5 mins was too long then she should've used the phone as a, you know... phone.

Nothing wrong with actually calling somebody these days... especially if you're impatient waiting for a return text. I can understand being upset if someone never gets back to you, but I take forever to reply to text for a number of reasons. I actually get mad when someone expects me to return a text in a set amount of time, unless we're supposed to meet up and they're looking for me, or I know they're waiting on me to get back to them for something. Unsolicited texts? Depends on what I'm doing to determine when I reply.

[Majingir]

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Honestly, that's a generational thing, lol. I had someone text me to see if I was free, then 5 minutes later text nevermind because I took too long to reply. I told her if 5 mins was too long then she should've used the phone as a, you know... phone.

Nothing wrong with actually calling somebody these days... especially if you're impatient waiting for a return text. I can understand being upset if someone never gets back to you, but I take forever to reply to text for a number of reasons. I actually get mad when someone expects me to return a text in a set amount of time, unless we're supposed to meet up and they're looking for me, or I know they're waiting on me to get back to them for something. Unsolicited texts? Depends on what I'm doing to determine when I reply.

If it's people you see on a daily or weekly basis, then ya, calling shouldn't be a problem, but if it's people who you don't see much(if at all)/will have to pay long distance charges to call, then texting/messaging is obviously much more preferable choice.

Maybe it is somewhat a generational thing too. Not like a reply is really expected right away, but if that person is at least online(which you can tell, if you're chatting through certain apps), it's sorta expected a reply will be quicker.

lol, I miss days of MSN Messenger. If people were online messenger, it meant they were online, and on their computers(not just leaving an app running on their phone), so they actually could chat alot. Used to chat with people on msn messenger for long periods of time every day.

[kehlis]

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You keep saying the same thing over and over so I will be blunt.

Try and contact them and stop asking others if you should or shouldn't. None of us know the dynamics so we can't answer.

And most importantly, if they don't respond, take the hint. It happens...

[Majingir]

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lol ya, I prob should start acting and stop asking.


I did a small amount recently and at least they did respond so far, so that's obviously good news and good start so far.

[ryan36]

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It helps a lot. Believe me when I say this, I've been trying with girls since 6-7th grade and I'm a sophomore in college. Something just isn't right here and it's getting old. I'd love to move to Arizona or someplace warm year round.

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All those girls there, and you can't find one? Sometimes we instinctively look outward when we should look inward...and I don't say that rudely. If you come across like a salesman who's "pressing" to hit quota, people can sense that. Maybe your game is off? I don't know you, but moving across the country to meet a girl that doesn't exist seems odd

[wwharton]

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If it's people you see on a daily or weekly basis, then ya, calling shouldn't be a problem, but if it's people who you don't see much(if at all)/will have to pay long distance charges to call, then texting/messaging is obviously much more preferable choice.

Maybe it is somewhat a generational thing too. Not like a reply is really expected right away, but if that person is at least online(which you can tell, if you're chatting through certain apps), it's sorta expected a reply will be quicker.

lol, I miss days of MSN Messenger. If people were online messenger, it meant they were online, and on their computers(not just leaving an app running on their phone), so they actually could chat alot. Used to chat with people on msn messenger for long periods of time every day.

Still sounds like you need to lower your expectations. I'm on my computer and usually working, so I still wouldn't necessarily reply right away. It actually sounds a bit stalker-ish monitoring online status like that. Don't seem so pressed... or just used the phone. Not really sure of long distance charges in this day and age.

[Majingir]

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Apps automatically show online statuses though,so it's not like checking someones status manually. But ya, expectations on my part are obviously too high. Just got to take things slowly, lower expectations, stop asking questions on here, and things should be fine.

[kehlis]

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Apps automatically show online statuses though,so it's not like checking someones status manually. But ya, expectations on my part are obviously too high. Just got to take things slowly, lower expectations, stop asking questions on here, and things should be fine.

It's not about asking questions on here. It's about asking questions period. Even to yourself.

You can't go through life questioning everything you do like this.

Just do something, right or wrong, and own it. That is the best life advice I have to offer because overthinking silly things like this now is not a great sign for how you will actually handle things that really matter when you get into the working world when you're older.

[Majingir]

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I tend to overthink things that are important to me. But if it's something I don't care about alot, I'll just jump right into it without giving much thought.

[mattlanta]

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Pardon the major bump in this thread, but I thought I'd ask you guys for advice yet again. Looking back on my posts, I noticed I went to OS for a lot of my major life decisions including the ones I had to make for college. Fast forward to now, 2.5 years post grad and I'd like to ask you guys again for advice.

I live in Connecticut right now and have been living here since I was 6 years old (I'm now 24). I work two full time jobs, one in a hospital as an RN and another with an output infusion therapy company. I don't have much free time outside of work because whenever I'm not working at the hospital, I'm on call for my IV nursing job. I make pretty good money here in CT, even though I do get taxed a considerable amount because I am single and have no dependents. A good reason for this is because of my second job which puts me well over the 6 figure mark.

The reason I'm working so much is not because I spend a lot of money but because I'm paying off my student loans while also saving up for grad school. I don't want my parents to have to pay for a single cent on me ever again. What I want to go to grad school for is still undecided - if I want to go to nurse anesthesia school, it is a 2-2.5 year program which requires you to take classes full time and is nearly impossible to work a part time job during. And if I want to go to nurse practitioner school, it would take 3 years full time (in which I could work part time because the curriculum is lighter compared to anesthesia school) or 4 years part time, in which case I would obviously work full time.

My dilemma starts with me being unhappy here in CT. Most of my friends are in NYC, LA, or Florida, and I can't help but feel like I'm missing out on some experiences that an early 20s kid should experience. For example, living in the city with your boys or going out on weekends and meeting new people, etc. There's really nothing to do here in CT, and I just feel like my "wings" of growth can't open here anymore. I have an opportunity to move out after my lease runs up around August of next year to move out to either Florida or NY. If I were to move out, I would have to give up my infusion therapy job which I must note is a low stress (although schedule-consuming) high paying job, and learn how to budget much better. Moving out would also take away the option of going to nurse anesthesia school because such a program would require me to give up working completely so I would basically be stuck with no ideal way of paying off my living expenses while I'm in school.

The plan if I were to go to nurse anesthesia school would be to move back home to my parents' house, which is in CT, and just get the 2.5 years of school out of the way and then finally move out of the state. But I would be around 27-28 years old by then and am concerned that I would have wasted through my early 20s without experiencing much except working and school. The positives of nurse anesthesia though is obviously the much bigger salary once I graduate and also a pretty flexible schedule too. And living home during the program would guarantee me little to no graduate school loans to worry about. Nurse practitioners also make a decent amount of money but not really close to anesthetists.

So I have to ask you guys, what advice would you give me / what do you think I should do? Stick through this "blah" phase of my life so I could come out 3 years from now after nurse anesthesia school and start living my life then? Or should I start living my life now, move to a major city, work full time, go to school part time (for an occupation that pays less), and just learn to budget a lot better?

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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So I have to ask you guys, what advice would you give me / what do you think I should do? Stick through this "blah" phase of my life so I could come out 3 years from now after nurse anesthesia school and start living my life then? Or should I start living my life now, move to a major city, work full time, go to school part time (for an occupation that pays less), and just learn to budget a lot better?

I understand the yearn for total independence BUT if your parents will let you live at home for free while you get your post grad schooling out of the way, I'd take it.

I decided to live life and move to MD for 2 years after college (did a year of Americorps before that) taking a lab research position at the NIH. Parents wanted me to stay home and go straight to grad school.

After 9 years of teaching, still haven't gone to grad school yet. Looking to start online in 2017. Life happened and school got put on the back burner (wanted my own house first).

Sounds like you can have your cake and eat it to though if you can get on a budget and just work less while going to school part time.