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  • countryboy
    Growing pains
    • Sep 2003
    • 52838

    #1

    2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

    I can't believe that I am in this situation. 2 days after the Christmas Holiday, my wife, err ex-wife???, informed me that she wanted a divorce. This afternoon I received the official paperwork. I never saw this coming. 2015 was such a great year for us. We built a house, our Son was born, and I was attempting to adopt my step daughter. But now, 2016, I'm crashing at my parents house as I try to pick up the pieces of a world that suddenly shattered.

    And to make matters worse, she is keeping my son away from me. Due to my illness, she claims that I am a danger to my son. For those who don't know, I suffer from Bi-Polar Depression. But I am medicated and do just fine with battling the illness. Yes, some days I feel a bit down, but its nothing like it was years ago when I was not medicated or in therapy. So, an illness that I was upfront and honest about when we first met, and an illness that she said she would walk with me hand in hand to battle, is the sole reason why I'm getting divorced and being kept from my kid.

    I am absolutely heartbroken. My whole world is gone. My family, my house, my everything. I know you guys probably don't care to hear all this, but I needed a place to vent. I needed a place to get things off my chest and into words on a page. I need someone to try an explain how after 3 years, someone could just throw someone away like a broken controller.

    Now, instead of providing for my family, I'm hiring an attorney, I'm fighting for my son, and I'm trying to find my place in this world once again.
    I can't shave with my eyes closed, meaning each day I have to look at myself in the mirror and respect who I see.

    I miss the old days of Operation Sports :(


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  • Scott
    Your Go-to TV Expert
    • Jul 2002
    • 20032

    #2
    Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

    Can't imagine going through this, thoughts are going out to you...
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    • Feared
      Train Nsane or remainsame
      • Dec 2004
      • 6621

      #3
      Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

      Wow. Can't believe what you must be going through. It seems like she's using the Bi-Polar disorder as an excuse to cover up for something else. (affair maybe?) Or she just saw an opportunity to take control of your assets and ran with it.

      Wish the best for you, keep fighting this.
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      • LowerWolf
        Hall Of Fame
        • Jun 2006
        • 12282

        #4
        Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

        Saw the thread title and your name and thought "no way." Everything was going so well for you.

        Hoping for the best for you.

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        • Knight165
          *ll St*r
          • Feb 2003
          • 24964

          #5
          Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

          Originally posted by LowerWolf
          Saw the thread title and your name and thought "no way." Everything was going so well for you.

          Hoping for the best for you.
          I was thinking the same thing.
          Crazy.

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          • nemesis04
            RIP Ty My Buddy
            • Feb 2004
            • 13530

            #6
            Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

            Sorry to hear this countryboy, things were going so well for you. Terrible way to start off the new year. Also, this seems very calculated to me if you were already served and she just told you after Christmas.

            Divorce is tough, I went through one with my first marriage. It hits you like a ton of bricks especially when you are not expecting it. My best advice is surround yourself with the people that truly care about you. It is going to be a rough road but you have to be strong and the better person for the sake of your children.
            “The saddest part of life is when someone who gave you your best memories becomes a memory”

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            • FlyingFinn
              MVP
              • Jul 2002
              • 3956

              #7
              Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

              I thought I had it bad... I came back to work after the holiday break and was informed my dept had been outsourced... I just lost my job, not my life. Sorry for you and hope you find some way through this.
              Last edited by FlyingFinn; 01-13-2016, 02:44 PM.

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              • J-Clutch1
                MVP
                • Sep 2008
                • 2448

                #8
                Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                Hi countryboy,

                I'm usually a lurker, but I wanted to really wish you the strength and guidance to get through this. I'm sure all of the OS fam feels the same way since you seem like a cool dude. Hoping for the best from NJ..

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                • seasprite
                  Phenom
                  • Jul 2008
                  • 8984

                  #9
                  Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                  Sorry to hear this CB, we do care and if you need to talk to anyone, you know we are here. I am a pro at divorce (been divorced twice) so if you need any advice, PM me. Just keep your head up and reorganize your priorities....it's now just all about you and your child. Prayers man






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                  • mike24forever
                    Old Guy
                    • Sep 2003
                    • 3171

                    #10
                    Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                    Countryboy,

                    First, I'm so sorry and of course we at OS care. This community is great for helping other in our times of need. Keep your head up and I hope you get your son back as soon as possible.
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                    • Phobia
                      Hall Of Fame
                      • Jan 2008
                      • 11623

                      #11
                      Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                      CB, stay strong man.......none of us know the entire ins/outs of what goes on inside your home. My only advice I could give, if you know you have some fault in the situation, just learn from it and grow into a better man. If she was more so at fault then best thing to do is focus on finding better......if she ducks out that easy then its not someone you want in your corner anyway. More than likely both of you guys played a hand in this happening, so you can try to reconcile with BOTH of you agreeing to try fixing past issues or both of you just go your separate ways with confidence its for the better.

                      Just like with anything, it will get easier as time goes on and you become more settled into your current "routine". Its a ****ty situation........but you will make it through it man.

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                      • Money99
                        Hall Of Fame
                        • Sep 2002
                        • 12696

                        #12
                        Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                        Originally posted by Feared
                        Wow. Can't believe what you must be going through. It seems like she's using the Bi-Polar disorder as an excuse to cover up for something else. (affair maybe?) Or she just saw an opportunity to take control of your assets and ran with it.

                        Wish the best for you, keep fighting this.
                        That was my initial thought as well.
                        She's using it as excuse for other reasons.

                        countryboy, thoughts and prayers to you brother.

                        I'm praying for reconciliation between you and your wife, but if that doesn't happen, I hope some good can come of this and you're a stronger person for it.

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                        • jeremym480
                          Speak it into existence
                          • Oct 2008
                          • 18198

                          #13
                          Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                          Sorry this is happening to you, countryboy. My only advice is too stay positive and don't do anything stupid. By doing anything stupid I mean don't give her a reason to say "see, look at what he did/said. I know it's hard not to say do or say something in anger, but for you and your son's sake try to stay as level headed as possible.

                          As someone who has been through a divorce before I know it's hard now, but I can guarantee that better days are ahead. Good luck and god bless.
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                          • countryboy
                            Growing pains
                            • Sep 2003
                            • 52838

                            #14
                            Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                            Thank you to everyone for the responses and well wishes. The hardest thing is that she is keeping James, my son, away from me. I haven't done anything to give her a reason to do such a thing.

                            I don't know if she's using my illness as an excuse to get money, house, or to cover up something and frankly I don't care. i just want my son. My step-daughter has already been turned against me.
                            I can't shave with my eyes closed, meaning each day I have to look at myself in the mirror and respect who I see.

                            I miss the old days of Operation Sports :(


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                            • Flightwhite24
                              Hall Of Fame
                              • Jul 2005
                              • 12095

                              #15
                              Re: 2016: Starting off with me getting divorced

                              Hate to here this CB. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                              I went through a tough divorce about 15 yrs ago and the thing that helped get me through was I kept it clean. At no point did I mudsling even though some so called friends told me I was being weak. She was the mother of my 2 children and I was not gonna disrespect her at any point no matter how bad my name was slung around in court. Let's just say after 2 yrs of court proceeding I came out just fine. Hang in there friend and God Bless.


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