Living in Sin...

[McLite]

LOL...as my grandparents refer to living with a girl when you aren't married.

Anyways...who lives/has lived with a girlfriend/fiance, how long have you lived together, and how long did you date before you lived together? I'm pretty sure my girl will be moving in within a month or two to my new house. She's over all the time as it is at my place I share with my roomates now, and I told her I would like her to live with me eventually. I'm 27 and we will be dating for about 6 months when she moves in. This will be the first girl I have actually lived with as well.

Just curious how it goes before marriage? Do you think it leads to breakups easier? I was raised on the strict you don't live together unless you're married but I think those days are long gone. People are just getting married later and later in life and it seems impractical to have two places where you are each paying rent. Some of my buddies tell me to do it just to "see if we can live together" which I think is crap too. If I'm going to do it I'm going to go in it 100%...not saving boxes to move her out if we fight or argue.

This really isn't a tell me what to do...I want her to move in. I am just curious of other people's experiences with it.

[23]

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They call it shacking.

A good majority of couples who move in together either never get married, or they break up.

IMO, I wouldnt do it if It were me. You never really know a person until you live with them, and saving money and so on might sound well and good, but there is a chance that it wont work out.

I only lived with my now wife for about a week before we got married, due to certain circumstances it had to happen that way, but I've seen enough of those situations to see for myself it isnt always the best plan, but hey, maybe it'll work out for you guys.

[BGarrett7]

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My fiance (27) and I (24) have lived together for three years now, having dated for about six months before I moved in. It was my first live-in relationship, her second. Our wedding is in September, and I think our three years of living together have really solidified the fact that we belong together and that getting married is the right decision to make.

[Scottdau]

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LOL...as my grandparents refer to living with a girl when you aren't married.

Anyways...who lives/has lived with a girlfriend/fiance, how long have you lived together, and how long did you date before you lived together? I'm pretty sure my girl will be moving in within a month or two to my new house. She's over all the time as it is at my place I share with my roomates now, and I told her I would like her to live with me eventually. I'm 27 and we will be dating for about 6 months when she moves in. This will be the first girl I have actually lived with as well.

Just curious how it goes before marriage? Do you think it leads to breakups easier? I was raised on the strict you don't live together unless you're married but I think those days are long gone. People are just getting married later and later in life and it seems impractical to have two places where you are each paying rent. Some of my buddies tell me to do it just to "see if we can live together" which I think is crap too. If I'm going to do it I'm going to go in it 100%...not saving boxes to move her out if we fight or argue.

This really isn't a tell me what to do...I want her to move in. I am just curious of other people's experiences with it.

Yeah I don't know where I read this, but it said that people that live together first have a higher divorce rate then those that don't live together first. I know people think living together is the same like being married, but it is different. You can always leave when things get tough. If you are married it is harder to just pack up and leave. The Commitment level is not the same. I might be alone here, but if you really care about this girl. I don't know if I would gamble and hope we are not one of the percentages. But that is just me. Also living with anybody is hard, so be ready for the good times and bad lol.

[ExtremeGamer]

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Dated my wife for 5 years, we never moved in together, she didn't move in until the day we got married. In October we'll be married 5 years.

[Stu]

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I've been living in sin for a little over a year now. We dated for about two years before moving in together. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable marrying someone if I didn't live with them first.

[Skerik]

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Friends for 5, dated for 5, married for 2+. Never lived with my wife before we got married.

[WTF]

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Dated for 2, lived together for 4... then... She left, lol. Piss on em...

I'd say just go with your gut instinct. If you feel you're ready, then go for it. "Living in sin" I don't think really applies anymore, lol.

[Misfit]

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I think anyone who doesn't live with their would be wife/husband before tieing the knot is crazy. Personally, I'll live with my fiance before I marry her so I know what to expect and if we can live together. I've been friends with buddies of mine for years and then moved in with them only to realize I can't stand living with them for various reasons. Statistics saying people who live together first are more likely to get a divorce are statistics of coincidence and are empty. Much like a stat that says hitters on May 27th are more likely to get hit by a pitch than any other day of the baseball season.

If you're serious about this girl and want to live with her then do it. If it works out, great. If it doesn't it doesn't and life goes on. If it doesn't work out with her as a girlfriend then it wouldn't have with her as your wife, simple as that.

[pk500]

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My wife and I lived together for a year before we were married. We've been happily married for 15 years.

She moved in six months AFTER we were engaged. We didn't plan to live together before we were married, but she decided to move to my city for a better job, as she lived about 35 miles away.

Since we were saving for our wedding, it made little sense to live apart when we could live together, save bread and enjoy each other's company.

My parents weren't very happy for a day or two, but everything worked out just fine.

Take care,
PK

[Graphik]

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I've been living in sin for a little over a year now. We dated for about two years before moving in together. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable marrying someone if I didn't live with them first.

Same here, you can tell alot more about a person when you shack up with them. You can pretty much confirm if she's the one or not by staying with her for a while. But most importantly, you can tell alot about a woman by how bad her farts smell....

[MassNole]

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Here is my history with it, maybe it helps, maybe it won't. I started dating a girl about 5 years ago right after college. I had my apartment she had hers. She would spend the night, then another night, and then another night. Basically we started living together when we really began dating. About a month or so later she moved in officially. We were engaged a couple of months later and will be married 4 years in August. So us it worked out. I think we 'broke up' like once, but lasted 5 minutes.

[mgoblue]

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warning to the original poster...be careful lease wise, etc, because 6 months really isn't that long, relationship wise, and if things happen to go sour (not saying they will, but it's a possibility), then will you want to live with someone you're not dating/may not be too friendly with? I've seen situations turn bad when i was in college, FWIW

[Crucial Mike]

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My wife and I lived together for 7 years before we got married last year. Needless to say, there were no surprises...Just the way I like it.

[23]

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Same here, you can tell alot more about a person when you shack up with them. You can pretty much confirm if she's the one or not by staying with her for a while. But most importantly, you can tell alot about a woman by how bad her farts smell....

If you dont know if the person you plan to marry is the right one, chances already are she isnt the one. It doesnt take living together to know that.