Living in Sin...

[NBASLAM2001]

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Here is a great article on this topic.

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I pulled the link off TJ. IM me if you want to about that.

[kellkasey]

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People who live together before they get married are more likely to end up un-married or divorced. Perhaps this is because people date for 5 months then move in together, are still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, get engaged a few months later, and then get married a few months after that. If you've only known somebody for a little while then your chances of staying together forever (married or not) are reduced because you probably dont know that person well enough. Having said that, if you live with somebody before you get married perhaps you realize after a few months that you cant possibly live with this person, so you break up with them. IMO that explains the "statistics" behind the situation. I think they really are baseless. You mean to tell me that Couple A are more likely to get divorced than Couple B because they lived together before they got married? I think there are more factors at play than "having lived together" when it comes to couples splitting up. And look at the divorce rate in the U.S. MANY ppl are getting divorced with all sorts of dating experience, time spent together, living arrangements, etc...

Personally, I met my fiance in college. We lived close together and were with eachother all the time after class, at night, between classes, at parties, etc...After dating for 1 year, her roommate decided to move. She was stuck in a situation where she was going to be stuck with a stranger or I could move in...so i did. Since we both come from Catholic families this wasnt the most popular decision but we had been together for a year (spent tons of time together) and we basically already knew we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. That sound odd to some....as a senior in college, dating a girl for 1 year and deciding you wanted to be together forever so soon. We got along great and figured moving in would work out fine. It did. We graduated together, got "real" jobs 2 weeks after college graduation and moved into an apartment together. We've been living together for 3 years now and everything has been awesome. Ready to get married next July. If we had dated and had not moved in together we'd probably still be together, still be happy, and still be fired up about the wedding. BUT having lived together for 3 years already, we know there wont be any surprises come next year, we've been teaming up on expenses, rent, payments, furniture, etc..for 3 years and it has given us a bit of an advantage over other ppl our age who are doing things "alone" at this point in their lives.

I've had friends for YEARS (growing up and all through highschool) that I tried living with in college and it just didnt work out. Some ppl can be your best friends in the world but for some reason or another you just cant get along living together (different habits, schedules, etc..). Maybe its just me but I'd much rather find that info out BEFORE I got married to somebody. Dating somebody, spending TONS of time together, spending the night at eachothers places, etc... is VERY VERY different than living together with somebody FULL TIME...FOREVER. I encourage everyone to live with their fiance's/gfs before getting married.

On a side note...At my first job out of college I had an extremely religious co-worker REFUSE TO SPEAK TO ME because I was a catholic and I was living in sin. She also didnt speak to 2 gay guys in our office but thats another point. I've had other ppl question my "living in sin" before....so its still an issue with many "older" people and there is still a stigma attached to the whole thing; so keep that in mind.

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and with that, I will lock this. This is not about any religious experiences.