Living in Sin...

[Lordcledus]

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Make sure ALL UTILITIES and the LEASE AGREEMENT are in both of your names. This will prevent any headaches if anything were to happen between the both of you, and someone decided to just up and move out. Good luck.

[billmatic]

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warning to the original poster...be careful lease wise, etc, because 6 months really isn't that long, relationship wise, and if things happen to go sour (not saying they will, but it's a possibility), then will you want to live with someone you're not dating/may not be too friendly with? I've seen situations turn bad when i was in college, FWIW

agreed, 6 months is nothing.

me and my girl dated for 5 years, then moved in together for 2 years. now she's in grad school, but we'll be moving back in together again next year.

the way i see it, if things don't work out, then you're just saving yourself some trouble, as if they don't work out now, they probably wouldn't work out down the road either.

[dbeth]

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I moved in with a girl after dating for 4 months and getting engaged....she broke it off 9 months later.

My wife and I bought a house a year before we got married. We had been dating 2.5 years beforehand. We'll be married a year next month.

Moving in beforehand tells A LOT about the relationship: how you can deal with each other, how you share responsibilities...the facade wears off much, MUCH quicker. I think it's in both of your interests...just maybe after you've been dating longer.

[Misfit]

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If you dont know if the person you plan to marry is the right one, chances already are she isnt the one. It doesnt take living together to know that.

I strongly disagree, but thats my opinion. Most couples who move in together do so with the intention of it being a permanent thing and do not expect their relationship to end, but it doesn't always work out that way. You can also be in a relationship where you love someone but may not be ready for marriage. Living together is a good way to see what marriage is like and can dispell cold feet.

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I strongly disagree, but thats my opinion. Most couples who move in together do so with the intention of it being a permanent thing and do not expect their relationship to end, but it doesn't always work out that way. You can also be in a relationship where you love someone but may not be ready for marriage. Living together is a good way to see what marriage is like and can dispell cold feet.

And you've proved the point orginally stated. Moving in with someone doesnt equal a success most of the time.

If you really want to know that bad if you are that out of knowing if its the right one (which I think you would know), you go to marriage counseling.

Believe me, you'll find out by the time you're done with that.

[SoMiss2000]

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Lived with my wife 6 months before we got married. My mom didn't like it and talked crap about it but we did what we wanted to do.


You've dated 6 months and you're ready to move her in? I think you need to tap the brakes.

[McLite]

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I can see people are on both sides of the fence...as are most people I talk with.

I guess I just don't see it as such a huge step since she is over almost all of the time anyways. I work graveyard 4 nights a week...the other 3 she stays over. When I work if she stays over she is gone to work by the time I get home anyway. This has been going on for about four months.

It's not like the olden days where you lived at home while you dated because you were only 18 or 19...and only went out a night or two a week. I see her every day.

It is my house. I pay all the bills and everything is in my name. I know 6 months is short and maybe we are still in the "honeymoon" phase. I guess it's impossible to know what will happen unless you try. I just want to make sure I make the best choice and won't screw things up down the road.

[Misfit]

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And you've proved the point orginally stated. Moving in with someone doesnt equal a success most of the time.

If you really want to know that bad if you are that out of knowing if its the right one (which I think you would know), you go to marriage counseling.

Believe me, you'll find out by the time you're done with that.

Marrying someone doesn't always equal success either. Not moving in with your girl seems to have worked out for you but I know its something I'd never do. Different strokes for different folks.

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Marrying someone doesn't always equal success either. Not moving in with your girl seems to have worked out for you but I know its something I'd never do. Different strokes for different folks.

Actually I didnt just move in with her. She moved in the week before we got married. Well, not even a full week.

Marriage doesnt = success, but there are reasons for that ie the wrong person, selfish reasons mostly, and so on.

Living with a person doesnt say, okay, this is how I will know.

It has worked for some. The consensus has been found that most people who do this, usually end up splitting up.

I've seen it work with my sister, then again I've seen it much more not work with many more people.

Its a decision for the couple to make, I just personally wouldnt reccommend doing it.

[MC Fatigue]

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I've lived with my fiance for something like 3-4 years now. No big deal. The only difference with being married if you have a piece of paper saying your married...

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I've lived with my fiance for something like 3-4 years now. No big deal. The only difference with being married if you have a piece of paper saying your married...

This is one classic example of why people who live together early dont get married.

[Heelfan71]

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Lived with my wife after dating 6 months. Lived together for a year before we were married.

[funky_chicken]

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A lady I work with and have known for a while lived with significant other for 9 years before getting married. After being married for 2 years they seperated and are in the process of getting a divorce. Maybe they would have been better off not getting married. Getting married just makes it harder to get rid of them.

[ESPNdeportes]

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If you dont know if the person you plan to marry is the right one, chances already are she isnt the one. It doesnt take living together to know that.

Right, but there can be a difference between knowing you want to marry someone and knowing it will work long-term. Thats why living before marriage works for some people.

As for me, my wife and I lived together for 1 year before our marriage. We were engaged. We probably wouldn't have done so, but I moved to Cincy from Columbus (2 hours) for school, so instead of having two rents, we moved in together. Its worked out great so far, just had our 1 year anniversary.

To me, its a matter of personal preference, and I don't see why people get so worked up over living together. If you don't believe in it, then don't do it yourself, but there is no need to get angry just because someone doesn't share your same beliefs.

I had a guy at school tell me I was "living in sin" because we were living together. Meanwhile, he and his GF were having sex. Somehow he missed the fact that the reason its taboo to live together before marriage is the inference that you're having sex, is it not? So we could live apart and have sex before marriage, and it would be ok, but we couldn't live together and not have sex (in theory, of course....not what i did though, LOL)? The act of living together before marriage surely can't be sinful. Sorry for the rambling, but that guy pissed me off.

[fishepa]

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My wife and I dated for over 3 years, she moved in with me the day we got back from our honeymoon. We've now been married over 3 years.