Married guys, a few questions

[Scottdau]

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I let my wife pick her own ring out. That way she got what she wanted.

[Scottdau]

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You're getting great advice here, Brandon. I agree on almost all the points people have made.

With my wife, SHE wanted to pick out the ring. I knew that from the numerous conversations we had about it. So like the other guys, we'd go ring shopping, I'd watch her reaction to different rings, and pretty much knew the one she wanted. But then I got lucky.

Her and her friend Erin were at the mall one day and they stopped off at a jewelery store. My wife found THE ring and apparently made a big deal about it. Without her knowing, Erin called me and told me which one it was and where to find it. I went and bought it later that day.

I did the traditional thing...I called her folks and asked permission. They were quite pleased that I did that.

As for when I popped the question, I always thought it would be extremely cruel and unexpected to wait until the day AFTER Valentine's Day to propose. I KNEW she was expecting it at some point during our Valentine's Day dinner. Nope. I waited til she got home from work the next day. I'm such an a-hole! :wink:

That is a great story, you did get lucky. I went with my wife and had the ring made for her, We have a jewler we go too in Carmal. He made a great ring that fit the 1 Carrot diamond.

[gtm]

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My Mother came with me to the jewelery store, we looked at the rings together but I picked the one I was going to give my wife in marriage.

Oh, as far as the engagement. I set up diner plans at our Sheraton. When it was time on waiting for the check, i got down on my knee and proposed and yes she accepted. The other customers were applauding my move. I didn't think anybody was watching.

[youvalss]

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My wife is so great and easy. We knew it was coming soon, so one night while going to sleep I said: "Well, do u wanna get married?" And she said: "Yep, why not?"... And that was it. Everything is so easy and fun for us

[Chief Illinimac]

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Don't. Do. It. Please.

[ashes1384]

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i picked out the ring myself as well. most people at any jewelry store will help be more than helpful. if you're still unsure, and you get along with them, invite her mom to help pick it out (if she can keep a secret that is). i used to play guitar and she would listen at my house, and one day i sang and played wrapped around by brad paisley. after the song was over i then proposed. my wife's around on the forums somewhere, i'm sure she'll chime in.

ps> do like i did and find a place that has good interest or even one year same as cash. i found a place with the latter, spend a little extra, and paid it off in the alloted time.

I am the wife...lol. I know you didn't ask for a woman's opinion but I thought I would tell you mine. I really liked the fact that he picked out my ring- it made it that more special. I got to pick out my wedding ring but I wouldn't have minded if he picked that out too. Just remember that it will be special and memorable no matter how you decide to do it. Good luck!!

[fistofrage]

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My wife and I went to look at rings. I could tell what she liked by her facial expressions. They were all the BIG Thick Platinum sets. I don't have to tell you how much platinum runs and with platinum unless you get a diamond of great clarity it looks yellow compared to the shiny platinum. Also the ring was so big that it needed a pretty big diamond to boot.....

Then I heard the 2 most wonderful words.....

Cubic Zyrconium

I swear you can't tell the difference. I bought her a $4000 ring with some real diamonds in the band, but for the main diamond, I went fake or it would have cost me around $12K for the ring. I told her diamond wasn't real and we can replace it later, but then you get married, life starts and we realize that we did the right thing and saved that money for a down payment on our house. We are much happier with the house than we would have been with the stone. We'll never replace the Cubic with a real diamond, if we ever have $8k just laying around, we'll go on a nice trip or buy some things we really want, but a diamond won't even come up.

[Brandwin]

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I am the wife...lol. I know you didn't ask for a woman's opinion but I thought I would tell you mine. I really liked the fact that he picked out my ring- it made it that more special. I got to pick out my wedding ring but I wouldn't have minded if he picked that out too. Just remember that it will be special and memorable no matter how you decide to do it. Good luck!!

No, a womens point of view would be great. I want to get it myself instead of her picking it out because I want it to be a total surprise and I want it to be very romantic.

I don't even know her ring size. She doesn't really wear jewelry (other then a necklace to match her outfit or earings. so I can't go by anything else.

[Brandwin]

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Hey Dook no advice from me unfortunately Although I'd say don't be too elaborate. Sometimes asking for a woman's hand in marriage in a casual setting can be just as emotional.

I did want to say that if/when you do tie the knot I wish you the best of luck. You and your daughter are such good people and deserve happiness in life.

Thanks!


That's another concern, being a single father, my daughter is going to have to adjust to another woman.

It was hard when I first dated this women (was a year ago this past Friday) my daughter didn't understand ( I had been single and no other woman around. I had dated but I didn't find anyone that I wanted to be in a relationship with so I didn't bring anyone around my daughter until I knew they were right. Which of course is the woman I am with now) So my daughter felt like someone was going to take her place and I had to explain to her that was not the case. She still didn't understand at first and still gets a tad bit jealous, but for the most part it's fine. My daughter likes her and my girlfriend likes my daughter. I just don't want her to think daddy is going to forget about her now or something.

[utexas]

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Well, my wife was about to enter Law School so our whole engagement process was much more "business" than "romance" and that worked for us. We kept it very simple, but now I am going to buy her a much better ring as we make year 6 with 3 kids and one on the way!!!

[fistofrage]

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Thanks!


That's another concern, being a single father, my daughter is going to have to adjust to another woman.

It was hard when I first dated this women (was a year ago this past Friday) my daughter didn't understand ( I had been single and no other woman around. I had dated but I didn't find anyone that I wanted to be in a relationship with so I didn't bring anyone around my daughter until I knew they were right. Which of course is the woman I am with now) So my daughter felt like someone was going to take her place and I had to explain to her that was not the case. She still didn't understand at first and still gets a tad bit jealous, but for the most part it's fine. My daughter likes her and my girlfriend likes my daughter. I just don't want her to think daddy is going to forget about her now or something.

You should get your daughter a small ring too and let her know you want her in your life forever too.

[utexas]

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I was on the other side of the kids issue, my son is my stepsoon, but we act like we are blood related. I love him so very much that he is starting to look and act like me. Once we got engaged I really begin to invest alot of time with just me and him to solidify that bond. Now we are the way we should be. We did include him in the wedding as the ring bearer. Really allow your fiance to develop a true love filled relationship with your daughter, and congrats man!!!

[ashes1384]

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No, a womens point of view would be great. I want to get it myself instead of her picking it out because I want it to be a total surprise and I want it to be very romantic.

I don't even know her ring size. She doesn't really wear jewelry (other then a necklace to match her outfit or earings. so I can't go by anything else.

You might want to try to ask her mom/sister/friend if they know her size but what I did was after he proposed and gave me the ring (it was a little small)... I took it in and had it sized, most places include that in the price. It only took about 3 days to get it back!!

[Cyros]

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Good luck with everything Dook!

[youvalss]

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What ever u do, just make sure it's not Dennis Rodman under the veil...