Tempted by the fruits of another....

[fishepa]

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My wife and I have discussed this, as I said she has given me permission to do whatever I want. She has flat out told me if I sleep with someone else she'd be okay with that. I would be honest to my wife if I ever did, hell I tell her whenever some other girl flirts with me. I guess as long as I know she's coming home to me at night and plans on being with me for life then I'd be okay with her sleeping with another person as a one time thing. I love my wife to death, in fact I actually almost cheated with her when I was with my college GF (although she's not the girl from a previous post). Maybe we're just different, I don't know.

I find that very "weird". But to each his own.

[MassNole]

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Yeah, I understand where you're coming from...I just don't think I could do that, at least not at the "sleeping with other people" level. We all are different, no way to really explain it.

I guess at the end of the day I made a commitment to my wife and I know mistakes happen. By all means if she or I had a long term affair then that would be completely different, on the same hand it isn't like we are swingers who swap partners every weekend. I know my wife, she is the love of my life and the best friend I could ever ask for, so I could forgive and forget something small, as could she. Hell, I think she has given me greater freedom than I'd give her, but I don't know that I'd ever use it right now. I suppose we're all different but can agree there are different ways to see something.

Trust me my old GF who I almost married would have killed me if I slept with another girl. I remember at a party another girl propositioned me, I told my GF, and a couple weeks later she had to be restrained from fighting the other girl (she would have gotten killed in a fight, said girl was on the swim team). Funny though I almost left my old GF for the girl who is now my wife. Then again, maybe I just knew what I was doing even at the age of 19.

[P2K]

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Bang her.

Might as well. Because while you typed all of this out on a videogaming message board, your wifey is getting smoked by Joe Schmoe from the 7th Flo'.

[Heelfan71]

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I find that very "weird". But to each his own.

very strange indeed.

[Scottdau]

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Yeah, you better think about this. You can end up ruining 2 lives. Her's and your wife. Don't do it and stop thinking about it. It is only feelings and you can't base your love on feelings, because feelings come and go. Just think about how your wife and kid would feel about this. If that doesn't make you stop, then you have bigger problems then this!

[MassNole]

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I find that very "weird". But to each his own.

Fair enough, I know some people will find it strange. Then again at the end of the day we've been married 5+ years and fall more in love by the day. Basically, it's a Get Out of Jail Free card that we give one another. To specify, if I or my wife were off sleeping with other people on a nightly basis it would be different, but the gist is that a one time fling won't end our marriage and we know that. If either of us ever acts on it, I guess time will tell.

[Coach Bryant]

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Keep in mind, too, that there are a lot of girls out there that are only jazzed by men they can't have. I've had buddies leave their wives for these "perfect" women, only to find that once that woman has them, they lose interest and start chasing another married guy.

Amen brother. I thought about that. There is something dangerous (maybe thats the attraction) about this girl, and I don't think she is the settle down, and get married type. Like I said earlier, she is in her early 30's, and not married. She may be a home wrecker.
I must confess that she took my manhood, but I'm not prepared to trade in my wife for her.

Thanks for the support guys!

[Scottdau]

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I find that very "weird". But to each his own.

Yeah I'm sure she is cool it, but this will come back to bite you in the ***. What happens is she will get a cold heart towards you. She wont do it on purpose, but she will get one. I'm pretty sure if you sleep around and your wife is cool with it. I wouldn't be shock if you were divorce by the end of the year.

[Coach Bryant]

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I find that very "weird". But to each his own.

Some people have open relationships. Obviously me, and my wife don't.

[23]

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Believe me man, its not worth it at all. Pretty soon your emotions will be wrapped up in her and you'll be stuck in something you'll cry yourself to sleep wanting out of.

NOT WORTH THE HEARTACHE.

[Scottdau]

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Fair enough, I know some people will find it strange. Then again at the end of the day we've been married 5+ years and fall more in love by the day. Basically, it's a Get Out of Jail Free card that we give one another. To specify, if I or my wife were off sleeping with other people on a nightly basis it would be different, but the gist is that a one time fling won't end our marriage and we know that. If either of us ever acts on it, I guess time will tell.

If you both sleep around on each other even just once. It will do something to your marriage. Even if you are both cool with it.

[MassNole]

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Yeah I'm sure she is cool it, but this will come back to bite you in the ***. What happens is she will get a cold heart towards you. She wont do it on purpose, but she will get one. I'm pretty sure if you sleep around and your wife is cool with it. I wouldn't be shock if you were divorce by the end of the year.

I will be absolutely shocked if we aren't married by the end of the year. Just because we have such an arrangement, which is more appropriately a Get Out of Jail Free card doesn't mean our marriage is doomed. Hell, people we know have done worse and they are still together decades later. Just because some people can't appreciate it doesn't mean it is a marriage killer. Think of it this way, which marriage is better, one where if you make a mistake it's over, or one where you both know a one time mistake won't end years of love and devotion? I'd always say the latter.

[Scottdau]

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I will be absolutely shocked if we aren't married by the end of the year. Just because we have such an arrangement, which is more appropriately a Get Out of Jail Free card doesn't mean our marriage is doomed. Hell, people we know have done worse and they are still together decades later. Just because some people can't appreciate it doesn't mean it is a marriage killer. Think of it this way, which marriage is better, one where if you make a mistake it's over, or one where you both know a one time mistake won't end years of love and devotion? I'd always say the latter.

I hear what you are saying, but trust me you will have a very hard time. It starts to play with you. You start thinking if they are better lover than you. Or when she is late then you start to think is she cheating. Also, it can become a more than one time thing. Or don't forget diseases. Any ways you go do what you want, I'm just saying be careful. And you better hope you don't fall in love with that person or you are really in for it, or if she doesn't fall in love with that person.

[23]

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Dude, its a reason you don't sleep with someone you aren't married to. It causes other problems

[Scottdau]

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Dude, its a reason you don't sleep with someone you aren't married to. It causes other problems

It destroy lives. Especially if the other person falls in love with that person. It is very dangeous. But he is an adult.