Anyone try online dating sites?

[rangerrick012]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Maybe....just maybe you didn't puts it down.

But. Yea. Um. I dunno too much.

(Shout out to Dook)


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Idk man. I mean, sure she could've been faking, but some things are harder to fake than others, if you catch my drift.


EDIT: Just noticed she deleted her account on OKC. More cause for concern? She did text me half an hour ago tho.

[TMagic]

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Idk man. I mean, sure she could've been faking, but some things are harder to fake than others, if you catch my drift.

Well maybe she got what she wanted.

Nothing wrong with that. Lol

Either way, I think you should back off a bit. Let her hit you up when she wants to talk. Part of what keeps things interesting is the chase.

[Madman55]

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Is 5 or 6 messages in a good time to give your number? I was messaging back and forth with a girl earlier, and about an hour later, I said I was logging off and gave her my number if she was interested. She never texted/responded on pof. Did I move too quick or should I just assume she doesn't wanna text (yet at least?)

[seasprite]

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I'm trying to figure out the next step here guys...

I met this girl a couple of weeks ago now on OK Cupid. She's 29 (30 now), I'm 25, but I try to immediately kill the age factor. AND, she writes in her profile about playing Fallout. So from that I connect on her being a gamer. We rapped for awhile before I convinced her to meet up for some ice cream. We met up and hit it off pretty nicely, so a few days later we went and caught a movie. After the movie we hit it off a bit more, got a bit closer.

Then I went to her place last Thursday for some wine and a movie. Of course, wine leads to certain things happening. But ever since that night its almost like she's treating me like I'm the chick and she's the dude and that was just a one night stand. Before I would send her messages and get instant reply, now its fallen off to the point where I waited all day for one reply before sending another one asking if things were okay and she finally replied that she'd had a busy day.

Am I reading too much into this, or should I really be concerned?

I'm a little concerned that you are concerned..........seriously, I think you are putting way too much pressure on yourself and obviously a ton more on her. For the most part, women dont want to be taking on the "guy role" and when the roles get flipped around, like in this situation, it basically kills attraction for her. My suggestion is to back off and see what happens......in the meantime, date other chicks and dont be so quick to make her the last girl you will ever be with. If you want to save any chance that she will keep an attraction for you, please back off and for the love of God dont ask her is everything is ok or alright. Might sound a bit harsh, but you have to take back control of the man role in this relationship. You may still have time, but with every "babe are you ok, are you upset at something I did", the worse it gets. JMO and I've been you a few times.

[seasprite]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Is 5 or 6 messages in a good time to give your number? I was messaging back and forth with a girl earlier, and about an hour later, I said I was logging off and gave her my number if she was interested. She never texted/responded on pof. Did I move too quick or should I just assume she doesn't wanna text (yet at least?)

In my experience with online dating, the sooner you can exchange numbers, the better. It's quiet possible that she is busy and hasnt had a chance to check her messages.......or she is one of those chicks who get freaked out by having a way to contact her outside of the dating app. In my experience, those types of chicks are few and far between on dating sites.

[Zer0xray]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Is 5 or 6 messages in a good time to give your number? I was messaging back and forth with a girl earlier, and about an hour later, I said I was logging off and gave her my number if she was interested. She never texted/responded on pof. Did I move too quick or should I just assume she doesn't wanna text (yet at least?)

That's good timing in my experience. If she doesn't respond, you got the hint. Usually girls would text me if I give them their number within the same day. Good luck!

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[Zer0xray]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Idk man. I mean, sure she could've been faking, but some things are harder to fake than others, if you catch my drift.


EDIT: Just noticed she deleted her account on OKC. More cause for concern? She did text me half an hour ago tho.

What did she say?
I'd back off and let her run the conversation if she you're not sure what she's feeling at the moment. She probably deleted it because she was getting hammered with messages and finally has a few guys she's interested in? That's the positive way of looking at it. Good luck!

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[AdamJones113]

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I'm a little concerned that you are concerned..........seriously, I think you are putting way too much pressure on yourself and obviously a ton more on her. For the most part, women dont want to be taking on the "guy role" and when the roles get flipped around, like in this situation, it basically kills attraction for her. My suggestion is to back off and see what happens......in the meantime, date other chicks and dont be so quick to make her the last girl you will ever be with. If you want to save any chance that she will keep an attraction for you, please back off and for the love of God dont ask her is everything is ok or alright. Might sound a bit harsh, but you have to take back control of the man role in this relationship. You may still have time, but with every "babe are you ok, are you upset at something I did", the worse it gets. JMO and I've been you a few times.

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[Zer0xray]

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Hey I wanted to share with you guys a newer app called coffee meets bagel to meet different girls. In my experience, it's pretty fun and I had better luck on it volume wise vs okc. If things didn't work out with the girl who eventually became my current gf on okc, I would've used coffee meets bagel alot more. What it does is match you once a day and you have limited time to speak to her. It gives you some motivation to make plans to meet or get her number. Once the time is up, you can't contact her anymore. I saw the creators on shark tank and I think mark Cuban invested in them. Try them out and I hope you have better luck!

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[NYJets]

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Is 5 or 6 messages in a good time to give your number? I was messaging back and forth with a girl earlier, and about an hour later, I said I was logging off and gave her my number if she was interested. She never texted/responded on pof. Did I move too quick or should I just assume she doesn't wanna text (yet at least?)

That sounds like the right amount of messages, but it depends how the conversation is going. I always pitch getting drinks first, and once they respond positively to that, I say "great, how about you give me your number and we can set that up."

Also I always get there number, not give mine. Helps keep control of the situation imo.

[JODYE]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Not sure it's been noted in here but Hinge is another solid dating app and is for women who are more serious about dating.

I still stand by OKCupid though. Met a girl 4 months ago on there and we have been dating ever since.

[Money99]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I'm trying to figure out the next step here guys...

I met this girl a couple of weeks ago now on OK Cupid. She's 29 (30 now), I'm 25, but I try to immediately kill the age factor. AND, she writes in her profile about playing Fallout. So from that I connect on her being a gamer. We rapped for awhile before I convinced her to meet up for some ice cream. We met up and hit it off pretty nicely, so a few days later we went and caught a movie. After the movie we hit it off a bit more, got a bit closer.

Then I went to her place last Thursday for some wine and a movie. Of course, wine leads to certain things happening. But ever since that night its almost like she's treating me like I'm the chick and she's the dude and that was just a one night stand. Before I would send her messages and get instant reply, now its fallen off to the point where I waited all day for one reply before sending another one asking if things were okay and she finally replied that she'd had a busy day.

Am I reading too much into this, or should I really be concerned?

I'm 40 and married and have zero experience with this kind of thing.
But I have a story about a buddy which may shed some light on it.

His wife had left him and he was in the dumps. Nearly suicidal.
Then someone pointed him to an online dating service.
He made a profile and got a date fairly quickly.
His first date, the woman didn't even want to go out. She hauled him inside where they had a few drinks and the next thing he knows he's gettin' down.
She wanted no strings. Just intercourse.
The next date? Same thing. And the next, and the next.
In only a few months, he went on a dozen or so "dates" and in only two of them they actually went out. But all of them led to sex.

I'm not even sure of the website he went to, but apparently he made profiles on a few and all of them were the same.

So not sure if there's an actual dating service where people are looking for a relationship with any substance.

I have a feeling the woman you met wanted some young meat and you fit the bill, haha.

[Marino]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Not sure it's been noted in here but Hinge is another solid dating app and is for women who are more serious about dating.

I still stand by OKCupid though. Met a girl 4 months ago on there and we have been dating ever since.

Yeah I stand by OKCupid as well. I met my wife on there and we have been married for over a year now.

[rangerrick012]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I'm 40 and married and have zero experience with this kind of thing.
But I have a story about a buddy which may shed some light on it.

His wife had left him and he was in the dumps. Nearly suicidal.
Then someone pointed him to an online dating service.
He made a profile and got a date fairly quickly.
His first date, the woman didn't even want to go out. She hauled him inside where they had a few drinks and the next thing he knows he's gettin' down.
She wanted no strings. Just intercourse.
The next date? Same thing. And the next, and the next.
In only a few months, he went on a dozen or so "dates" and in only two of them they actually went out. But all of them led to sex.

I'm not even sure of the website he went to, but apparently he made profiles on a few and all of them were the same.

So not sure if there's an actual dating service where people are looking for a relationship with any substance.

I have a feeling the woman you met wanted some young meat and you fit the bill, haha.

If that's the case I'd be totally fine with that. I get that no woman wants to come out and say they just want an fwb situation, but if that's what she's into I'm fine with dialing back my emotions. I just don't wanna be cut off completely lol.

[NDAlum]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I'm 40 and married and have zero experience with this kind of thing.

But I have a story about a buddy which may shed some light on it.



His wife had left him and he was in the dumps. Nearly suicidal.

Then someone pointed him to an online dating service.

He made a profile and got a date fairly quickly.

His first date, the woman didn't even want to go out. She hauled him inside where they had a few drinks and the next thing he knows he's gettin' down.

She wanted no strings. Just intercourse.

The next date? Same thing. And the next, and the next.

In only a few months, he went on a dozen or so "dates" and in only two of them they actually went out. But all of them led to sex.



I'm not even sure of the website he went to, but apparently he made profiles on a few and all of them were the same.



So not sure if there's an actual dating service where people are looking for a relationship with any substance.



I have a feeling the woman you met wanted some young meat and you fit the bill, haha.

He's probably just an attractive in shape guy for his age. If it's close to 40 not many fit that bill


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