Is this evil??

[ODogg]

I have some friends who are married with kids and I kind of get sick about hearing how happy they are and how proud they are of their kids and they're doing this and that in soccer and oh whatever. Like my friend Kevin for instance, he was always talking about how great his marriage was and then when he found out his wife was cheating on him so he got a divorce. I remember feeling somewhat sorry for him but then he turns around and finds another woman and gets married within a year and now it's back to hearing about how happy he is and how great all of their combined kids are and bleh bleh bleh.

So here's my question...I remember when he told me about meeting this woman and they were getting married that I felt this strange sense of how I wished it would fail too and it was just kind of sickeningly evil but I couldn't help but think that way. It just really made me angry that my friend could turn around and find happiness like that so soon again and go from being a regular person to a "omg i'm so happy, life is so good isn't it???" kind of fella again.

Logically it was stupid to feel that way. I honestly thought how ridiculous I was being until I saw a Seinfeld episode where when Elaine found out George was getting married she told the Rabbi who was counseling her how mad it made her that George would be happy. Right then and there I knew at least Larry David had felt the same evilness as I and it made me feel a little bit better.

So what do you guys think...is this just the classic, little devil on your shoulder thing? I just went down and visited some friends for the holiday and everyone was talking about how great things were, showing all these pics of their kids and how great their jobs are, etc, etc etc and I was like, oh whatever... I just get sick of hearing about all of it.

[Watson]

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I have some friends who are married with kids and I kind of get sick about hearing how happy they are and how proud they are of their kids and they're doing this and that in soccer and oh whatever. Like my friend Kevin for instance, he was always talking about how great his marriage was and then when he found out his wife was cheating on him so he got a divorce. I remember feeling somewhat sorry for him but then he turns around and finds another woman and gets married within a year and now it's back to hearing about how happy he is and how great all of their combined kids are and bleh bleh bleh.

So here's my question...I remember when he told me about meeting this woman and they were getting married that I felt this strange sense of how I wished it would fail too and it was just kind of sickeningly evil but I couldn't help but think that way. It just really made me angry that my friend could turn around and find happiness like that so soon again and go from being a regular person to a "omg i'm so happy, life is so good isn't it???" kind of fella again.

Logically it was stupid to feel that way. I honestly thought how ridiculous I was being until I saw a Seinfeld episode where when Elaine found out George was getting married she told the Rabbi who was counseling her how mad it made her that George would be happy. Right then and there I knew at least Larry David had felt the same evilness as I and it made me feel a little bit better.

So what do you guys think...is this just the classic, little devil on your shoulder thing? I just went down and visited some friends for the holiday and everyone was talking about how great things were, showing all these pics of their kids and how great their jobs are, etc, etc etc and I was like, oh whatever... I just get sick of hearing about all of it.

yes. it iis wrong.

[Scottdau]

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It is just selfishness. Nothing more nothing less. It is apart of life. Instead of being happy for your friend you want that to be you in a way. Just be happy for them and if you don't want to hear how great things are; then you should find another friend.

[stewaat]

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There are many things in life that are taboo to talk about and this is one of them. You can't help how you think and it's hard to discuss it because people will look differently at you.

We're all supposed to be positive people for everyone but I think if somebody said they never had thoughts like this they are lying.

I've had them and I think they are normal.

Part 2. You need to find something positive in your life buddy because your overall tone lately in the Neighborhood has been rather pessimistic.

Is it bad I kinda hope you don't find it?

Hahaha I'm joking...or am I?

[Cebby]

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I don't know about "evil", but it is female jealousy.

Honestly, I'd just tell him that him having successful relationships and bragging about it makes you feel down, and if he's a real friend, he will probably stop talking about it.

I had a similar type issue, and the friends that are good for more than liquor and whores dropped the subject after telling them the situation.

[Hassan Darkside]

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^^Agreed.

But to me it's obvious. You're just a tad jealous because of your relationship status (or lack thereof) which is a natural feeling. It's hard to feel happy for someone when you don't feel happy for yourself.

[Cane_Mutiny]

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I knew at least Larry David had felt the same evilness as I and it made me feel a little bit better.

There's a little Larry in all of us

[slickdtc]

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There are many things in life that are taboo to talk about and this is one of them. You can't help how you think and it's hard to discuss it because people will look differently at you.

We're all supposed to be positive people for everyone but I think if somebody said they never had thoughts like this they are lying.

I've had them and I think they are normal.

Part 2. You need to find something positive in your life buddy because your overall tone lately in the Neighborhood has been rather pessimistic.

Is it bad I kinda hope you don't find it?

Hahaha I'm joking...or am I?

I agree with this and I especially liked the end part of the post.

























Or did I? muhaha

[ExtremeGamer]

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We're going to have to put you on suicide watch soon, everytime I read one of your threads, I worry about your thought process.

[wsu_gb23]

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how about you just do whatever makes you happy and don't worry about everybody else's life?

[KG]

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We're going to have to put you on suicide watch soon, everytime I read one of your threads, I worry about your thought process.

Yup.

[fistofrage]

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Yup.

Yeah, I am starting to question ODogg's mental stability.

You really need to get some professional help. You seriously could have a chemical imbalance and not know it. The right medicine can do wonders.

At minimum, you should go talk this out with a professional instead of posting your deepest life's questions on a Video Sports website.

[snepp]

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What they said. ^^^

The friend envy thing is pretty harmless on its own, but there's a larger body of work here.

[e0820]

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I have some friends who are married with kids and I kind of get sick about hearing how happy they are and how proud they are of their kids and they're doing this and that in soccer and oh whatever. Like my friend Kevin for instance, he was always talking about how great his marriage was and then when he found out his wife was cheating on him so he got a divorce. I remember feeling somewhat sorry for him but then he turns around and finds another woman and gets married within a year and now it's back to hearing about how happy he is and how great all of their combined kids are and bleh bleh bleh.

So here's my question...I remember when he told me about meeting this woman and they were getting married that I felt this strange sense of how I wished it would fail too and it was just kind of sickeningly evil but I couldn't help but think that way. It just really made me angry that my friend could turn around and find happiness like that so soon again and go from being a regular person to a "omg i'm so happy, life is so good isn't it???" kind of fella again.

Logically it was stupid to feel that way. I honestly thought how ridiculous I was being until I saw a Seinfeld episode where when Elaine found out George was getting married she told the Rabbi who was counseling her how mad it made her that George would be happy. Right then and there I knew at least Larry David had felt the same evilness as I and it made me feel a little bit better.

So what do you guys think...is this just the classic, little devil on your shoulder thing? I just went down and visited some friends for the holiday and everyone was talking about how great things were, showing all these pics of their kids and how great their jobs are, etc, etc etc and I was like, oh whatever... I just get sick of hearing about all of it.

Sounds like your friend is a hypocrite and would say he is happy with anyone. Selfishness on your part for wishing your friends marriage would fail.

[JBH3]

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I have some friends who are married with kids and I kind of get sick about hearing how happy they are and how proud they are of their kids and they're doing this and that in soccer and oh whatever. Like my friend Kevin for instance, he was always talking about how great his marriage was and then when he found out his wife was cheating on him so he got a divorce. I remember feeling somewhat sorry for him but then he turns around and finds another woman and gets married within a year and now it's back to hearing about how happy he is and how great all of their combined kids are and bleh bleh bleh.

So here's my question...I remember when he told me about meeting this woman and they were getting married that I felt this strange sense of how I wished it would fail too and it was just kind of sickeningly evil but I couldn't help but think that way. It just really made me angry that my friend could turn around and find happiness like that so soon again and go from being a regular person to a "omg i'm so happy, life is so good isn't it???" kind of fella again.

Logically it was stupid to feel that way. I honestly thought how ridiculous I was being until I saw a Seinfeld episode where when Elaine found out George was getting married she told the Rabbi who was counseling her how mad it made her that George would be happy. Right then and there I knew at least Larry David had felt the same evilness as I and it made me feel a little bit better.

So what do you guys think...is this just the classic, little devil on your shoulder thing? I just went down and visited some friends for the holiday and everyone was talking about how great things were, showing all these pics of their kids and how great their jobs are, etc, etc etc and I was like, oh whatever... I just get sick of hearing about all of it.

Is this person really your friend? I mean if they were then you'd be genuniely happy that they forged past a divorce and found someone else. Maybe a little reserved about them jumping into another relationship, but overall happy.

The fact that you're not tells me:
(1) This person really isn't your friend.
(2) Like others suggested you're typically a jealous person.

how about you just do whatever makes you happy and don't worry about everybody else's life?

This....

but if your jealous of what someone else has will you ever truly be happy w/ what you have?