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  • ScoobySnax
    #faceuary2014
    • Mar 2009
    • 7624
    #1

    My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

    Disclaimer: my thoughts are scattered. Bear with me lol.

    Ok, I have been dating this woman for about 3 years. We met in college and everything was cool. She was fine, about 145 lbs, 5'10". She's a good woman, takes care of me and everything. She's definitely the type of girl to take home to moms. My family likes her so that's a bonus.

    Fast forward to now, I'm 26, got a good career and I think I'm ready for marriage. The problem is my fine woman from 3 years ago gains like 40 pounds!! I played basketball in college so I believe I am in pretty good shape. So I'm pissed over this because I love her, but the weight gain is damn near disgusting. I cannot stand a fat woman. I want her to lose all the weight because I refuse to marry someone who does "do it" for me. I have to see the weight loss before I go in for the long haul. Fellas, I need your opinions.

    Thanks,

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    • mkharsh33
      Hall Of Fame
      • Nov 2006
      • 12768
      #2
      Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

      she deserves better...
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        • Gibbz
          All Star
          • Aug 2005
          • 8240
          #3
          Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

          Get gym memberships and workout together. Cook healthy stuff for her.

          Don't know what to tell you aside from that.

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            • youvalss
              ******
              • Feb 2007
              • 16599
              #4
              Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

              You should get her arrested! What was she thinking???!!!
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                • SPTO
                  binging
                  • Feb 2003
                  • 68046
                  #5
                  Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                  You love her but you're gonna drop her like a bad habit just because she gained weight?

                  How shallow can you be?!
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                    • Cebby
                      Banned
                      • Apr 2005
                      • 22327
                      #6
                      Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                      Tell her what you said.

                      Given that she's a girl, she'll probably freak out, but once she realizes that fatties don't get any love, she'll lose the weight and break up with you.

                      You could always show her a before and after picture.

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                        • Speedy
                          #Ace
                          • Apr 2008
                          • 16143
                          #7
                          Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                          If you truly love the lady then looks wouldn't matter that much b/c love trumps all...evidentially you're using the word hap-hazardly.

                          Also, hate to break the bubble here but it's not like the lady you marry will look the same 10-30 years later...she'll change in looks one way or another.
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                            • youvalss
                              ******
                              • Feb 2007
                              • 16599
                              #8
                              Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                              Watch Shallow Hal. Might give you a different perspective...
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                                • Cebby
                                  Banned
                                  • Apr 2005
                                  • 22327
                                  #9
                                  Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                  Originally posted by WakeUnc2321
                                  If you truly love the lady then looks wouldn't matter that much b/c love trumps all...
                                  There's no way that's true

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                                    • Bornindamecca
                                      Books Nelson Simnation
                                      • Jul 2007
                                      • 10919
                                      #10
                                      Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                      Originally posted by ABrooks111
                                      Get gym memberships and workout together. Cook healthy stuff for her.

                                      Don't know what to tell you aside from that.
                                      Try this first...


                                      But if she continues to abuse the butter, don't settle. The fact that she gains weight and you stay in shape is representative of other lifestyle differences you guys have. You met when you were relatively young, and you're both still growing into the people you'll become. As couples grow older together, they have to adjust to one another, rather than grow in a vacuum. One of the adjustments she has to make is to treat her body better, because that's important to you.

                                      It's not just about the size of her waistline. It's about different people's personal standards for their own physical well being, and that's a big issue.
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                                        • Speedy
                                          #Ace
                                          • Apr 2008
                                          • 16143
                                          #11
                                          Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                          Originally posted by Cebby
                                          There's no way that's true
                                          Truth is a given and isn't predicated on whether you've experienced it or not.
                                          Originally posted by Gibson88
                                          Anyone who asked for an ETA is not being Master of their Domain.
                                          It's hard though...especially when I got my neighbor playing their franchise across the street...maybe I will occupy myself with Glamore Magazine.

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                                            • CMH
                                              Making you famous
                                              • Oct 2002
                                              • 26203
                                              #12
                                              Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                              Oh, please guys. The woman he fell in love with was thinner and she changed that. This is the same as saying that a woman who changed a personality trait that you admired should still be loved because you love her.

                                              Please. Love goes both ways and as important as personality is, looks are important too. Don't anyone here tell me they married an ugly girl.
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                                                • Stumbleweed
                                                  Livin' the dream
                                                  • Oct 2006
                                                  • 6279
                                                  #13
                                                  Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                                  Originally posted by Bornindamecca
                                                  It's not just about the size of her waistline. It's about different people's personal standards for their own physical well being, and that's a big issue.
                                                  This. Often these different priorities or lifestyle choices will come back to bite you later in life. If you're not happy with how things have been going (justifiably or not), then it'll probably just get worse if things continue along the same course. You should try to do something positive to see if you can work out together, eat healthier, etc., but if it's something that she totally resists and you can't deal with that, then it might not be a foundation for a lasting relationship.

                                                  It sounds shallow, but if that's the way you feel, then that's legitimate. It's not your fault that you focus on health and she doesn't... can't do anything about your feelings that she's not as attractive any more and all that either. Getting married to someone in this situation and hoping for a change would probably not be advisable since you'd probably be tempted to cheat on her, etc. if you're not attracted to her anymore in the event that she can't or won't do anything about it.
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                                                    • ezekiel55
                                                      Th*s F*c* C*sh*s Ch*cks
                                                      • Nov 2003
                                                      • 2156
                                                      #14
                                                      Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                                      Couldnt have summed it up better than Born, YP, and Stumble.

                                                      The funny thing is, before I even read most of the aforementioned poster's post, I'm pretty sure I'll agree with what they have to say...most of the time.

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                                                        • shugknight
                                                          MVP
                                                          • Oct 2004
                                                          • 4585
                                                          #15
                                                          Re: My OS brothers...I am at a crossroads. Help me out.

                                                          If you work out, take her with you.

                                                          If you don't work out, suggest one day that you're starting to get fat and that you should both work out together one day.

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