Prenuptial agreements

[Scottdau]

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LOL. Thats is some silly **** you just said right there. How do you get past someone wanting to leave you? If your wife wants to leave you what can you do about it? You cant force her to stay with you if she wants to leave.

This is just a guess but I bet you got married young (20-25) because no one with extensive dating experience would ever say something like that. Anyone who has been through a few breakups would never think "Love will get us through anything."

After I read this again WTF are talking about? I said it is hard to get over someone cheating on you. But I will say this if my wife cheated on me I would take her back. Why? She is the mother of my 2 sons and we have been through so much in our 13 years together. Also I sure I was not so innocent in the matter. Usually when a woman cheats they are feeling not love at home. Men are different when we cheat we are just horny. now this is just opinion, but I do think their is some truth to that.

[DC]

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^ So now you use fallacious statements in arguments? What does him not being in his 30's have to do with anything?

[Scottdau]

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^ So now you use fallacious statements in arguments? What does him not being in his 30's have to do with anything?

That is why I put this But it does have some truth to it. When you are in your 30's and getting married you have more worth. If he is in his 20's and she is in her 20's, what worth do they have? They are just starting out. That is why I say a prenup is not a good idea. Unless they both agree on it and have worth.

[DC]

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That is why I say a prenup is not a good idea. Unless they both agree on it and have worth.

So unless they BOTH have worth, it isn't a good idea?

How backwards is that? The point of a prenup is to protect a person that CLEARLY has more than the person they are marrying. Are you hearing yourself man?

[Scottdau]

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So unless they BOTH have worth, it isn't a good idea?

How backwards is that? The point of a prenup is to protect a person that CLEARLY has more than the person they are marrying. Are you hearing yourself man?

If you don't have anything and they don't have anything what is the point of one? ow if he has more than her, sure he can have one, but I still say it is not a good start for a young marriage. The reason I say it is OK when you both have worth is becasue usually you are on your second marriage and you have kids to take care of and provide for.

[aholbert32]

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So you have been dating for 10 years and still having found the one yet? I agree if you both have stuff before the marriage, but if you are going into a marriage with nothing then I think it is starting the marriage off on the wrong foot. If you both have the things that you mention then I say yes a prenup is good, but that is only for marriage that are on their second or third marriage or getting married in their 30's when both actually have something.

Who said I was looking for "the one?" What is this a romantic comedy? I like dating different women. I like variety. I never planned to get married before I entered my 30's. I wanted to be able to get my career in order before I even thought about marriage. I'm just now getting to the point where I'm thinking about marriage.

That "wrong foot" stuff is BS. I had stuff in my 20's. I had my own house at 26. I had a 401k at 24. I had stocks at 23 (not a ton but some). Most people have things in their 20's and should want to protect those things.

[Scottdau]

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Who said I was looking for "the one?" What is this a romantic comedy? I like dating different women. I like variety. I never planned to get married before I entered my 30's. I wanted to be able to get my career in order before I even thought about marriage. I'm just now getting to the point where I'm thinking about marriage.

That "wrong foot" stuff is BS. I had stuff in my 20's. I had my own house at 26. I had a 401k at 24. I had stocks at 23 (not a ton but some). Most people have things in their 20's and should want to protect those things.

Well, I would say you are the minority. I don't know too many people in their 20's have all that. Also you don't want kids?

[aholbert32]

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I think you quoted the wrong one? I said if they cheat that is hard to get over. But I have seen people get divorce for stupid reasons. I said when you truly love someone it should get you though the bad times. Why do you think it says for better or worst?

I am talking if you truly love someone you can get over a lot of things. The problems is people base their marriage on feelings and not commitment. I find it funny that we divorces are spouse, but not our kids. And yet your spouse is suppose to be the most important thing in our lives. We will just agree to disagree. I am cool with that.

I didnt quote the wrong one. You said "Love can get you through anything" and I responded to it. Your point that "if you truly love someone you can get over a lot of things" has nothing to do with what I saying. Let me walk you through it:

If your wife wants to leave you...it has nothing to do with your ability to forgive. If your wife walks in the house today and says that after 13 yrs, she met someone else and wants to leave you...there is nothing u can do about it. If she says she wants to leave you " so she can find herself"....there is nothing u can do about it. You cant control her level of committment or her willingness to abide by the vow she made to you. You have no control other than being able to protect your assets in case she decides to leave you.

I hope for your case that she does love you forever because if she doesnt...you are losing half of your stuff. Thats what happens when you live in CA.

[aholbert32]

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Well, I would say you are the minority. I don't know too many people in their 20's have all that. Also you don't want kids?

I know plenty of people in their mid to late 20's that have 401k's or savings. I want kids but there is no rush on my part. Men dont have menopause.

[aholbert32]

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I said it is hard to get over someone cheating on you. But I will say this if my wife cheated on me I would take her back. Why? She is the mother of my 2 sons and we have been through so much in our 13 years together. .

Who said she wants to come back to you? She may be happier with the new guy and take your kids with her.

[DC]

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So if I a pro athlete and my fiance was working at Dave & Busters before I met her, I shouldn't get a pre-nut because it will cause the marriage to get off on the wrong foot? Think what you are saying man

[aholbert32]

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If you don't have anything and they don't have anything what is the point of one? ow if he has more than her, sure he can have one, but I still say it is not a good start for a young marriage. The reason I say it is OK when you both have worth is becasue usually you are on your second marriage and you have kids to take care of and provide for.

LOL..so you have to be on your 2nd marriage to have worth? LOL. What the hell are you talking about? Scott, seriously...how old were you when you got married? I doubt you are older than 37 and youve been married for 13 yrs...so 24? I bet you dated your wife for a few yrs before marriage, right? So you met her at 21?

[mgoblue]

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I know plenty of people in their mid to late 20's that have 401k's or savings. I want kids but there is no rush on my part. Men dont have menopause.

When I was 22 right out of college I started putting the max in my 401k every year...I could live just fine on what I was making, and putting money away is smart. My Dad would have killed me if I didn't lol. I don't have a house yet, but I haven't been in a city/situation where I wanted to put down those roots quite yet.

[Scottdau]

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I didnt quote the wrong one. You said "Love can get you through anything" and I responded to it. Your point that "if you truly love someone you can get over a lot of things" has nothing to do with what I saying. Let me walk you through it:

If your wife wants to leave you...it has nothing to do with your ability to forgive. If your wife walks in the house today and says that after 13 yrs, she met someone else and wants to leave you...there is nothing u can do about it. If she says she wants to leave you " so she can find herself"....there is nothing u can do about it. You cant control her level of committment or her willingness to abide by the vow she made to you. You have no control other than being able to protect your assets in case she decides to leave you.

I hope for your case that she does love you forever because if she doesnt...you are losing half of your stuff. Thats what happens when you live in CA.

That is what happen when you fall in love, you never what can happen, but if the worst does you just move on. But I would still not have a prenup. I hear what you are saying, but I would still not get a prenup, I still feel like it is saying "hey I love you, but I have to protect myself!" This marriage is all about protecting what I have. I just disagree with that, but then I disagree with divorce too. I really believe divorce happens becasue the person base it on feelings an not commitment. Feelings come an go, commitment does not. If more marriages were based on that principle their would be less divorces. Now this is just my opinion, but I really it is true.

[DC]

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Who said she wants to come back to you? She may be happier with the new guy and take your kids with her.

"If you love her you will not let her leave."