Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

[DC]

Got it from a FB Status.

Not even referring to being the breadwinner. Should the man lead and be the head of the relationship?

Some replies so far

leader? hmm... well... he should be the "head" The woman should be the "neck" and the Neck can turn the Head anyway she wants... bam!

i know dats right ^.....but i believe no one should be ahead of anyone we are equals and we should support each other to progress and not dominate each other man was here first yes but woman was made from mans rib to be by his side and not under his feet or ahead of him and if its not like that then u dont need to b in a relationship

[Cusefan]

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I have seen a few couples where the Man has absolute authority and it always rubs me the wrong way.

[Stumbleweed]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Agreed with Cusefan. Relationships should ideally be equal, and most of the good ones that I've seen are.

[Po Pimp]

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He definitely should. Not saying he should be a dictator, but no woman wants a pushover. Sitcoms got the game messed up when the husband acts like a doofus and she makes him sleep on the couch when she gets mad...in the house that he pays the bills on! Nah, couldn't be me!

[MC Fatigue]

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It's not a yes or no answer. It depends entirely on the two people and the relationship they have.

[Brandwin]

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I have seen a few couples where the Man has absolute authority and it always rubs me the wrong way.

Agreed with Cusefan. Relationships should ideally be equal, and most of the good ones that I've seen are.

I agree with the both of you.

He definitely should. Not saying he should be a dictator, but no woman wants a pushover. Sitcoms got the game messed up when the husband acts like a doofus and she makes him sleep on the couch when she gets mad...in the house that he pays the bills on! Nah, couldn't be me!

A man isn't a pushover if he isn't the "leader" of the household.

BTW, most relationships the husband and wife pay the bills. This isn't 1945.

[mgoblue]

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I agree with the both of you.

A man isn't a pushover if he isn't the "leader" of the household.

BTW, most relationships the husband and wife pay the bills. This isn't 1945.

I agree...Gender roles change and adapt over time...women aren't just submissive housewives anymore, some women make tons more money than their husbands...

[Trevytrev11]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

It's not a yes or no answer. It depends entirely on the two people and the relationship they have.

This.

Depends on the personalities of the people. I've seen solid relationships that involve strong women, who make major decisions, have final say with dicipline, etc. And I've seen the same with males. Most are somewhere near the middle, but in almost every case, the balance lays slightly on one side or the other. There is almost always one person who will make the tough decisions when they have to be made.

50 years ago, when the man went to college, got a job and provided for his family while the wife stayed home with the kids, I could see the man playing a bigger role. But now, when in a lot of cases, you have two educated parents who both work and pay the bills, the balance is usually going to be somewhere in the middle, unless polar opposite personalites are involved.

[jeremym480]

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It's cool, as long as women remain three paces behind as we walk down the street..
:wink:

[Gotmadskillzson]

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Really depends on YOUR religious beliefs and how YOU interpet the bible, koran or whatever it is your relgion has.

Because in some religions and depending on which sect of that religion they belong to, man is the head of the household and the woman must be submissive to the man of the household. It isn't 50/50.

Then you have some beliefs where it is reversed, the woman is the head and the man is submissive to the woman.

[KG]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Really depends on YOUR religious beliefs and how YOU interpet the bible, koran or whatever it is your relgion has.

Because in some religions and depending on which sect of that religion they belong to, man is the head of the household and the woman must be submissive to the man of the household. It isn't 50/50.

Then you have some beliefs where it is reversed, the woman is the head and the man is submissive to the woman.

What culture is it that the woman is the head and the man is more submissive?

Just curious.

[SPTO]

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It's a two way street. It should be shared as a relationship isn't about authority it's about showing love to one another and striving to be as one.

I have a relative who's married right now and he's whipped to the point that he can't do anything unless his wife tells him it's ok. She pays the bills, spoils the kids and pokes her nose in family business and makes him out to look like the bad guy sometimes.

I don't know how the hell he can live through that but I guess it makes him happy.

[DC]

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Then you have some beliefs where it is reversed, the woman is the head and the man is submissive to the woman.

Is Beyonce the founder of this faith because no religion I know of follows that guideline.

[DC]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

I have a relative who's married right now and he's whipped to the point that he can't do anything unless his wife tells him it's ok. She pays the bills, spoils the kids and pokes her nose in family business and makes him out to look like the bad guy sometimes.

The hell.......

[BigTigLSU]

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3 things...


Leadership can be defined in multiple ways... So there is no way to lead a relationship especially depending upon what your spouse is bringing to the table...

Which brings me to number the abiltiy to have 1 bread winner porvider setup is less plausible in this economic society so the old hiearchy of mommy controls kids daddy controls mommy and the money doesnt exist

and with all that being said its still a situation where men are required to provide something.... or initiate or lead in some or one area of the relationship.