Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

[DC]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

If a man loves his wife right she will have no problem following him. So yes I believe the husband should be the leader.

Correction:

If a woman trusts in her man's decision making and respects him, she will have no problem following him

[LingeringRegime]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

If you are a man you will be.

[DC]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

If you are a man you will be.

Not really, there are PLENTY of weak dudes in this world that allow their woman to practically be their mother.

[LingeringRegime]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Not really, there are PLENTY of weak dudes in this world that allow their woman to practically be their mother.

Like I said, if you are a man you will be the leader. Not in some iron fisted type of way. But a true man does not equal a weak dude. A weak dude is really a child with a man's clothes on. If you are responsible (provide), and treat her like she should be treated, and if she loves you, she will follow.

[Bornindamecca]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Don't give 'em too much man.

[DC]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Like I said, if you are a man you will be the leader. Not in some iron fisted type of way. But a true man does not equal a weak dude. A weak dude is really a child with a man's clothes on. If you are responsible (provide), and treat her like she should be treated, and if she loves you, she will follow.

Oh I agree

[stewaat]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

In a relationship I am the protector against anything wrong. If there are problems women come to me, I don't go to them. When I have a problem I deal with it myself.

I agree on listening to women to give them a say in everything, but the bottom line is that it comes down to my decisions. I'm man enough to admit when I make a wrong decision and I can be swayed.

I haven't met a girl that simply wants an "equal"...she's want to be taken care of mentally and physically. In today's world financially it can go either way.

[Bornindamecca]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Down for most of the post, but this..

If there are problems women come to me, I don't go to them. When I have a problem I deal with it myself.

...in my humble opinion is an intimacy/trust issue. People have different methods of dealing with things, but there is a freedom in being able to seek counsel and/or emotional company in a relationship. Most people would consider me logical or analytical in my approach to problem solving, and even within those methods, sharing a problem can have very positive results for both myself and the woman I'm with if I take her seriously. It has nothing to do with "need", which I think throws some alpha personalities off. They feel that consulting or sharing when dealing with obstacles is somehow associated with needing help to deal with them, which is not necessarily the case.

[stewaat]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

I just don't want to burden other people with my problems, I can handle them myself. Plus I don't really have the type of personality to sit there and worry about issues until I go crazy.

[Bornindamecca]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

I just don't want to burden other people with my problems, I can handle them myself. Plus I don't really have the type of personality to sit there and worry about issues until I go crazy.

That's part of the same thinking. It's not a burden on someone who cares about you to share a problem. It might be a burden to whine about it, or--if you were the worrying type--to convey worry. At one point, I thought of it in those same terms. As I got older and was in long relationships, I realized how empowering it can be for a partner to be allowed into my mental conference room. Even more so as a problem-solving type of personality.

Many women love to worry. I can't stand it. It's a very difficult thing to deal with a worrier when you don't feel the need to engage in it when overcoming an obstacle. All the same, it's reverse-projection to consider things in terms of worry. That's not the case. Just because she worries doesn't mean that you have to worry, or that she has to turn your problems into a catalyst for worrying . I should note that anyone would be wise when dealing with a worrier. If she's worried about something else, she could transfer that anxiety to problems that aren't her own, including yours.

But if that's the case, it's an issue you'll have to deal with anyway, and the responsibility of sharing in your problems will only expose it sooner so you can either fix it, or get out of the relationship.

[Scottdau]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

I will just say this. In my house I have the final say. I will take my wife's advice and really think about, but at the end of the day I will still make the call. As a leader I try to take other peoples wisdom and some times it is my wife's wisdom. We are a team that is for sure, but I am the leader. Some times I wish I wasn't. It is not easy being responsible for a wife, and two sons. But that is my role and I will do the best I can.

[stewaat]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

We agree on something the world is gonna end...

[bsb13]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

If we want true equality then I want the woman to open the car door for me sometimes, pay for dinner on the first date sometimes, get up in the middle of the night and see what the noise was downstairs instead of getting me to do it. It seems like woman are all about equality when it BENEFITS them. I think men do a lot of things that earns us the right to be head of the household.

I like being a man though and I wouldn't mind doing all those things I mentioned above for someone else.

[muggins]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

Just depends who you are with I guess. My wife is just as smart or smarter than me so I don't mind sharing decisions with her. If I married a dumb girl maybe I'd be more inclined to making all the decisions.

[ehh]

Re: Do you believe that the Man should be the LEADER of the relationship? (Stolen)

For the most part I think relationships should be split down the middle, I hate helpless/needy women. It's nice to feel like a man and protect your lady every now and then when the situation calls for it but by and large I don't think there should be a leader, at least not for the type of woman I'll marry some day.