Freaking females

[Beantown]

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Random text just to say hello? That's games. She just wants to see if you'll answer back as soon as possible. Think about what guys do when they are trying to keep a booty call close. They hit up the girl every now and then just to remind her he's still around. That's what she's doing here. She wants you to keep her in mind so you'll jump out of your shoes for her when she's ready.

The point is: if she wanted to do something she would have left a message saying so or mentioned it in the text. She's not making an effort to be around you, so don't make the effort to be around her. Even if you give up and go hard after her, I promise you you'll end up regretting it because the relationship will always be like that. You, making an effort. Her, sitting back. That's not a relationship.

That's the **** right there.

And just to quote Nivek from an earlier thread about these "games":

No girl will ever be with someone they can already have. They have to choose YOU - you might initiate the conversation, but they have to say to themselves, "I want him!"

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A female should never validate your existence, she's only there to compliment what you already have going on. That in a nutshell is the badboy appeal. Badboys want women, but they don't NEED women. Get it?

[GaryT531]

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Stop calling. Texting only.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Agree with the others, she just checking to see if she still has you under her thumb. Drop communication with her. Unless she shows genuine interest-- calling and trying to schedule something with you on your voicemail or showing up at your place to talk.

Give up on the texting with this girl. Ex. she could be out with another dude and shoot you a quick text while he's buying food or in the john. Texting makes it too easy to be pulling "double" duty.

You haven't said anything that leads me to believe you are anything more than a "friend's zone" back-up plan. I've been "that" guy, so I can relate. Not worth the trouble.

[youvalss]

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it's the "always almost, but not quite" kind of releationships. Not sure it's worth the bother.

[Vince]

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I have the same situation kinda I'll put it in here If you don't mind cause it's similar and i don't feel like making a new thread.. I met a girl outside a club, call her E and we made out like crazy. She knew who I was and all that..etc. As we part ways, I don't get her number. She's with her friend, A and im with my boy,R and my boy also gets in it with hA. Anyways, my boy gets his girls number, I don't.

Fast forward two days after, R tells me that A told him that E wants to see me badly, so i get E's number from E's friend. I txt her. We txt a **** load for the next 4 days until we see each other on a friday night. Yada yada we go out drinks talk we have a good time, we make out and say good night. Things seem to go well bla bla bla we see each other again on Tuesday we go for a quick bite we kiss again in her car. I tell her we're going to see a movie that saturday and she's like sure im down. Ever since then it's been very weird.

That afternoon she cancels saying she has family stuff, but to let her know when we can reschedule. I'm like okay cool no problem. All my subsequent attempts to ask her out have failed. Granted she has been very busy with school, which has been her main reason for not seeing me these past few weeks. She even told me she's not making excuses and that she really likes being with me. She's even asked me to go to come to a party she was at, but i didn't respond as well as txting me at 2 am asking me if i was downtown. So wtv, I still think she's down with me. We work roughly 10 seconds away from each other so i asked her in person if she wanted to see a movie and she told me her grand mother was in town. I said ok cool, take care. As i was leaving she said, but don't worry we'll chill soon.

So I'm wondering what I should do. I think she is down with me, but I also think her ex boyfriend of 3 years may still be in the picture. I know through her friend though that she is interested, but it just seems weird that ever since she canceled she we've not done anything, yet she still asks me what i'm doing. I don't txt her anymore random crap, she usually comes on MSN or Facebook talking to me asking what's up.

I'm used to going after quick smashes with girls and no dates...Genuinely liking one is new to me LOL.

[youvalss]

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^^ You'd better add a little legend at the bottom - which letter represents who. A bit confusing.

[Po Pimp]

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I have the same situation kinda I'll put it in here If you don't mind cause it's similar and i don't feel like making a new thread.. I met a girl outside a club, call her E and we made out like crazy. She knew who I was and all that..etc. As we part ways, I don't get her number. She's with her friend, A and im with my boy,R and my boy also gets in it with hA. Anyways, my boy gets his girls number, I don't.

Fast forward two days after, R tells me that A told him that E wants to see me badly, so i get E's number from E's friend. I txt her. We txt a **** load for the next 4 days until we see each other on a friday night. Yada yada we go out drinks talk we have a good time, we make out and say good night. Things seem to go well bla bla bla we see each other again on Tuesday we go for a quick bite we kiss again in her car. I tell her we're going to see a movie that saturday and she's like sure im down. Ever since then it's been very weird.

That afternoon she cancels saying she has family stuff, but to let her know when we can reschedule. I'm like okay cool no problem. All my subsequent attempts to ask her out have failed. Granted she has been very busy with school, which has been her main reason for not seeing me these past few weeks. She even told me she's not making excuses and that she really likes being with me. She's even asked me to go to come to a party she was at, but i didn't respond as well as txting me at 2 am asking me if i was downtown. So wtv, I still think she's down with me. We work roughly 10 seconds away from each other so i asked her in person if she wanted to see a movie and she told me her grand mother was in town. I said ok cool, take care. As i was leaving she said, but don't worry we'll chill soon.

So I'm wondering what I should do. I think she is down with me, but I also think her ex boyfriend of 3 years may still be in the picture. I know through her friend though that she is interested, but it just seems weird that ever since she canceled she we've not done anything, yet she still asks me what i'm doing. I don't txt her anymore random crap, she usually comes on MSN or Facebook talking to me asking what's up.

I'm used to going after quick smashes with girls and no dates...Genuinely liking one is new to me LOL.

U may be right about the ex still being in the picture. Like I said earlier, females be trying to be playas, but it's not in their nature. Just tell her u will holla at her when she get her mind right.

[Vince]

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Yeah, cause after our second date, she text me. And the next few days leading up to her cancelling on me she was txting me asking me what im doing and where i was and all that jazz...I just can't think of a reason why suddenly she's been avoiding me.

[AUChase]

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this is the advice u need to follow. thats them macklessons right there.

LMAO.

[CMH]

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She knew who I was and all that..etc.

I don't get this part. Is there something I missed the past number of years?

[Vince]

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I don't get this part. Is there something I missed the past number of years?

She told me she had seen me around. I work for a big gym in a shopping mall and she works downstairs at the starbucks...I've been there throughout the months and she told me she's seen me around and what not. told me how she liked how i dress yada yada yada.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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She told me she had seen me around. I work for a big gym in a shopping mall and she works downstairs at the starbucks...I've been there throughout the months and she told me she's seen me around and what not. told me how she liked how i dress yada yada yada.

She's shown genuine interests. Do you know how recently she broke up with her ex? Some girls can't be single and will jump right in with the next guy...even with feelings for the ex.

She's either really busy or entertaining ideas of patching things up with her ex.

[Vince]

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i know for a fact she's been really busy so i don't think she's lying per se.

They broke up because he told her he can't be with her now, but he can later on down the line..(aka he felt he could bang other girls while they were together and still have her when he wants).

The ex BF is thing i just a presumption as to why she's been kinda avoiding me...because she said they still keep in touch because she is really good friends with his sister. it's the only thing i can think of.

[TarHeelMan]

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OP: These are games. You don't know where you stand with the broad, start asking her about her friends like you wanna get with 'em. That takes the shine off of them, and subtly places them in an inferior standing. That way she sees that you're not sweating HER, and she'll start wondering why she's not the apple of your eye.

Being that you're in college, I feel I can safely assume that you're not looking for a relationship and you just wanna smash. She's "reaching out" to you to make sure you're still in her back pocket. Flip the roles on her, and you'll find her sweating you, not the other way around.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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The THM has spoken.