Officially Divorced/Ex Already Remarried

[Scottdau]

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As always, thanks for the interest and well wishes.

I've actually had my heart broken 3 times now. High school, college, and now marriage. I'm very sentimental and focus on the good stuff, which makes me blind to some of the bad stuff.

I know from a divorce class that men take divorce much harder than women. The instructor pointed it out, and all the men in the class looked beaten down.

I would love to be able to go back in time a few years and do whatever I could to keep this from happening. Family is everything.

Yeah I been there done that. I think as long as you know that about yourself and are able to see the waring signs with this next relationship you will be fine. Plus I think you said this same thing happen to this lady you are dating now? Which is always good, because both of you know how it feels and would be less likey to do this to each other.

[Scottdau]

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I think it is because women are stronger. They have to be they are mothers. If a guy splits they have to think of their kids, they don't have time to get beat down. Just like in your case you were in the woman's role. So you had to be strong for your kids. Must guys that have their women cheat on them, the women take their kids too when they leave that man. So now he has two things to deal with. His wife and kids are gone. It is heavy no matter how you look at it.

[longshadow11]

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I really am very fortunate. How many men get custody and receive child support? I try to thank God for my blessings every night; I could be much worse off.

[Scottdau]

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I really am very fortunate. How many men get custody and receive child support? I try to thank God for my blessings every night; I could be much worse off.

Yep, you are definitely in a role reversal. I pray the best for you bro.

[Blaxican8504]

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your ex will be divorced within a year I bet.

And I bet she tries to go back to him.

Edit: TTIWWOP of the new chick.

[Phobia]

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I really am very fortunate. How many men get custody and receive child support? I try to thank God for my blessings every night; I could be much worse off.

For a bad situation and handling it how you did from what little we know. I think you did a fine job with your girls and keeping yourself on a path to be there for them. I think a congratulations is the least I could say. Keep at it buddy, also how you liking the show?

[longshadow11]

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The Show is incredible. I get very little time to play, dang it. I have to sell my house; once the girls are in bed, I clean it to keep it presentable. Every freakin' night. This is probably the main thing which angers me about the ex leaving. She left me with a huge mortgage to pay and said she didn't care if the house went into foreclosure. The loss of her income has been the toughest thing to deal with. That, and a sullen, depressed teenage girl. Fun stuff!

[USF11]

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I really am very fortunate. How many men get custody and receive child support? I try to thank God for my blessings every night; I could be much worse off.

Your living the dream.

[Scottdau]

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The Show is incredible. I get very little time to play, dang it. I have to sell my house; once the girls are in bed, I clean it to keep it presentable. Every freakin' night. This is probably the main thing which angers me about the ex leaving. She left me with a huge mortgage to pay and said she didn't care if the house went into foreclosure. The loss of her income has been the toughest thing to deal with. That, and a sullen, depressed teenage girl. Fun stuff!

Just make sure your daughter gets some help. Depression is a bitch.

[Scottdau]

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Your living the dream.

More like living a nightmare. It is finally getting better, but there is still a long road for this man to be living the dream.

[USF11]

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More like living a nightmare. It is finally getting better, but there is still a long road for this man to be living the dream.

Its not perfect but.......
He did get rid of an evil woman. Who now is paying him money to rebuild his life with a hot woman.

Thats better then a sharp stick in the eye.

[Scottdau]

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Its not perfect but.......
He did get rid of an evil woman. Who now is paying him money to rebuild his life with a hot woman.

Thats better then a sharp stick in the eye.

Not when his kid is going through a living hell. Sure he found some hot chick, big whoop. My concerns still are with his kids and his older daughter for sure. Gary will be fine he is a grown man, so I don't worry too much about him. I do worry that he might rush things with this nice hot lady. That is a something I would say be careful with.

[longshadow11]

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Not when his kid is going through a living hell. Sure he found some hot chick, big whoop. My concerns still are with his kids and his older daughter for sure. Gary will be fine he is a grown man, so I don't worry too much about him. I do worry that he might rush things with this nice hot lady. That is a something I would say be careful with.

Definitely agree that I have to have my eyes wide open. This has been a horrible nightmare; the girlfriend is fairly new and doesn't take the place of my girls' mother. If I had a time machine I would go back and try to keep this mess from happening.

Oldest is in counseling. Hopefully she'll get better soon.

However, I am fortunate in that the woman I've met is very nice and very attractive. So much better than being lonely.

[Scottdau]

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For sure. I mean don't get me wrong, I am happy that you found this cute lady. But I would not be much of a friend to you if I didn't tell you be careful. Even though I don't know you from Adam. I still feel like I know enough of you bro. So that is good about the counseling. She will be fine then. The odd part is she is going through many emotional things and she is going through physical changes too. So she is going through a lot. Just keep being strong and there for her and she will be a stronger person when it is all over. You and your family are in my prayers.

[longshadow11]

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I really do appreciate your prayers, Scott. It has been tough, and now my ex wants to be involved with the girls more, which causes me some concern. I hate thinking about the influence she has, and I despise the jerk she married.