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  • RoyalBoyle78
    Aka."Footballforever"
    • May 2003
    • 23918

    #1

    Really stressed out right now.....

    Well after my grandmother situation 2 weeks ago, my girl and I are splitting up after almost 6 years, she has been so cold to me for sometime, heard she has been cheating on me. Just two weeks ago she begged to use my car to drive her kids home to there fathers house where they live, and her ex husband told me there was another guy in my car, she is denying it.

    This have went such in the Sumner time, we have a son together and he will be 3 in 2 weeks, its really hard on me right night. I have stayed in this relationship after just feeling used and not appreciated at all, my family has been telling me for years to get rid if her and that I deserve better and more, she had a history when I met her and should have taken better notice when I got involved. We did love each other at one point, she told me last month she was leaving me and at point I filled for custody for my son.

    She works at Fridays for only a year now as a prep cook and works from 5pm to 2am every night, and when she is working I'm watching my son, she just tells me this week she is out in 2 weeks, no heads up of much time at all. I'm really upset and stressed right now. I need to move now because I just can't stomach to stay in this apartment we shared for the last 5 years.

    I left some other things out, but I have done so much for this woman for her to do this to me. It has stressed me out so much since she told me last week, haven't been able to eat sleep. I'm tourting myself over this while she is not even being effected by it. I don't understand. I guess this was coming sooner or later since our relationship has been rocky for a long time. I didnt want my son to go through this crap as my daughter did 6 Yeats prior. Its like the same nightmare all over again...

    I want to stop stressing especially since how she has treated me over the years, it should be easy to me to say f it, but I have a heart where she doesn't...


    Guys just keep me in ur prayers and this is such a hard time for me right now...I have to start over a 33 and its going to be hard on me, it a start for the better I guess because of the crap I had to deal with..


    She leaving in 2 weeks, so court is Tuesday, she is in the system for abandoning her other 2 sons 3 years ago, as I took care of them also. She has a lot if issues, everyone says its for the better for me..my dad hates her and tells me that I'm better off.

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    Last edited by RoyalBoyle78; 02-05-2012, 12:18 AM.
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  • fishepa
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    • Feb 2003
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    #2
    Sorry to hear that bro. Keep your head up.

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    • Fresh Tendrils
      Strike Hard and Fade Away
      • Jul 2002
      • 36131

      #3
      Re: Really stressed out right now.....

      It sounds like you will be better off without her like your family and friends are saying; however, that doesn't mean anything until you realize that too. Once you do, things will get better even if you do miss her.



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      • Rules
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        • Jul 2002
        • 3813

        #4
        Re: Really stressed out right now.....

        Sorry to hear this. Stay strong and remember everything happens for a reason. You have your immediate family in particular the kids to focus on. You can't control what others do.

        Everything will work out for the better. Hang out with the family more especially to help get thru these tough times.

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        • BestServedCold
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          • Jul 2010
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          #5
          Re: Really stressed out right now.....

          I hate hearing about these things. Its so terrible when someone does this to their partner, but it's life I guess and as the child of three divorces I would say that you just have to cut as many ties as possible to that person and start a new life.

          I realize you probably have a job that you can't move from and that your children are probably set in a certain school district, but even moving across town can help deal with some of it. We men tend to bottle up our emotions, but that isn't good for you, it changes you. I've seen it happen to my step-dad and it's a terrible thing. He went from mostly happy and generally nice to cynical, mean, and apathetic.

          Anyways, sorry that this happened to you and good luck moving forward. She obviously wasn't the right person for you, but you also can't beat yourself up for not seeing the signs earlier. Love is blind.

          Again, I wish you and your children the best.

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          • LivingLegend
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            • Aug 2010
            • 583

            #6
            Re: Really stressed out right now.....

            Keep your head up bro, it happens to the best of us. One day that girl will wake up and regret it and you'll have someone that appreciates you.
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            • Flightwhite24
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              • Jul 2005
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              #7
              Re: Really stressed out right now.....

              Whatever you do, "Don't" lose focus on what is best for your kid/kids. At times it can be hard but do your best at remaining focused on there best interest first.

              Things will work out and you probably don't want to hear this again but it is just gonna take time.

              Wishing you the best FF in this tough time.
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              • RoyalBoyle78
                Aka."Footballforever"
                • May 2003
                • 23918

                #8
                Thank you guys, still feel like crap today, and my giants are in the SB, can't even enjoy that. I just beating myself up thinking why she doesn't feel anything, I know I need to stop that, if she us showing she don't I shouldn't, but again I have a heart and I guess she doesn't. I just want this to pass quick I guess..

                I guess I could find another woman to play to take my mind off if it, but that's not even a thought right now.

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                • MrKasoogi
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                  #9
                  Re: Really stressed out right now.....

                  Hey, first thing, try to stop worrying about it today. Your teams in the Super Bowl, you should enjoy that. After that, you're definitely better off without her, and even if you don't feel that way now, I'm sure you will soon. Just try to relax, like everyone is saying, focus on the children, and everything wii turn out okay. Best of luck, man.
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                  • RoyalBoyle78
                    Aka."Footballforever"
                    • May 2003
                    • 23918

                    #10
                    Thanks so much guys....

                    On have been so sick throwing up for days now, I just can eat... I'm in such a bad place right now...I'm stressing so much while this girl walks around like nothing. I should feel the sane thing she does, but I don't know why I cant

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                    • dickey1331
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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Footballforever
                      Thanks so much guys....

                      On have been so sick throwing up for days now, I just can eat... I'm in such a bad place right now...I'm stressing so much while this girl walks around like nothing. I should feel the sane thing she does, but I don't know why I cant

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                      I know how you feel man. When I went through my divorce I didn't eat for a week and lost 15 lbs, down to 135. It was a rough time in my life. I promise things will get better and one day you will realize this was the right decision and you will be happy about it.


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                      • Phobia
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                        • Jan 2008
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                        #12
                        Re: Really stressed out right now.....

                        FF trust me man it is better she is not showing she cares!! It would do neither of you any good if she was acting like she loved you. That would just be screwing your head up even more with mix signals. Focus on fixing you!

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                        • WTF
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                          • Aug 2002
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                          #13
                          Re: Really stressed out right now.....

                          Sorry to hear it FF. Like everyone said, enjoy the superbowl, kick back, take your mind off of things. You'll rebound and be better off for it.
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                          • CWSapp757
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                            • Aug 2008
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                            #14
                            Re: Really stressed out right now.....

                            Sorry to hear that man. I was in a similar situation (but not with her as long as you've been with your girl). It really does seem like the end of the world. The feelings that you shared sound all so famliar to me. But I promise you that it will get better. When you are finally able to emotionally step away from it, you will finally be able to fully accept and understand that the split was the best thing that could have happened.

                            And she will regret it in the long run. They always do.
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                            • RoyalBoyle78
                              Aka."Footballforever"
                              • May 2003
                              • 23918

                              #15
                              thank u guys

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