My fiancé and I have been invited to be on Dr. Phil

[SPTO]

Re: My fiancé and I have been invited to be on Dr. Phil

ODogg, I only really know you through your persona on OS and how much you've opened up about things both jocular and personal so I can't be a voice of authority but I echo some of the sentiments here that it seems there are some serious road blocks here. I think that Steph may be asking too much of you and trying to hold you down in some respects. If she loves you she has to love you warts and all. I can understand some fine tuning though it seems to me that she doesn't want to even look at things from your side.

I mean I could be totally off base here but I think you two need to sit down and talk things out and perhaps slow things down a bit. I think that giving each other some time to re-evaluate how you two feel about each other and the relationship going forward. Maybe even tell her how you feel about her telling you that you were "too quiet and on your phone all night" one night with her family and then "too talkative" the next time and how that irks you a bit though i'm sure you two have had that conversation in some form.

I don't want to hear about you guys getting married and then things completely breaking down because of issues that could be resolved through honest conversation whether alone or through some counseling.

I wish you all the luck in the world my OS brother.

[SuperBowlNachos]

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Ask what she would rather you do instead of "wasting time" writing your reviews. Is she saying that because she feels neglected? Or is her alternative is to sit and watch reality TV?

[KingV2k3]

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Maybe I am way off base here, but if you need to get pre-marriage counseling, isn't that a sign that you probably shouldn't get married?

Good luck in all of this ODogg.

A lot of people do that...and some HAVE TO based on faith, etc...

"Once of prevention trumps pound of cure" type of thing...

Anyway:

Good luck indeed...

This thread is losing it's "fun factor", but hey...that's amore?

[aholbert32]

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A lot of people do that...and some HAVE TO based on faith, etc...

"Once of prevention trumps pound of cure" type of thing...

Anyway:

Good luck indeed...

This thread is losing it's "fun factor", but hey...that's amore?

I did pre marriage counseling before I got married this year because the minister made us if he was going to marry us. I felt like it was a waste of time for us because the majority of things the minister brought up were things that we'd already discussed before we got engaged (faith/kids/trust). I can see how it could work for most though.

[Lieutenant Dan]

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This thread is losing it's "fun factor", but hey...that's amore?

Women complicate things.

This is why we can't have fun threads.

[pietasterp]

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This thread is losing it's "fun factor", but hey...that's amore?

Indeed. This thread is like a relationship, right? Really exciting and curious to find out more at first, then funny/fun and seems like the good times will go on forever, then serious issues begin to surface, then it's not as fun, then you get to the inevitable denouement....

[ODogg]

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Indeed. This thread is like a relationship, right? Really exciting and curious to find out more at first, then funny/fun and seems like the good times will go on forever, then serious issues begin to surface, then it's not as fun, then you get to the inevitable denouement....

I couldn't have said it better myself!!!

[Heroesandvillains]

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I honestly couldn't recommend couples or pre-marriage counseling for you more, ODogg. My fiancé and I did it a while back (before we got engaged) and it made a world of difference. You'd be surprised how stunted couples can become when it comes to healthy communicating.

Have you had a serious talk with her about her feelings toward you being expressed recently (you being boring, techy, philosophical, etc)?

[ODogg]

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I honestly couldn't recommend couples or pre-marriage counseling for you more, ODogg. My fiancé and I did it a while back (before we got engaged) and it made a world of difference. You'd be surprised how stunted couples can become when it comes to healthy communicating.

Have you had a serious talk with her about her feelings toward you being expressed recently (you being boring, techy, philosophical, etc)?

No I will recommend the counseling though...sounds good to me..

[mgoblue]

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I did pre marriage counseling before I got married this year because the minister made us if he was going to marry us. I felt like it was a waste of time for us because the majority of things the minister brought up were things that we'd already discussed before we got engaged (faith/kids/trust). I can see how it could work for most though.

We had the same thing through the Catholic church. Lots of people get married too soon, so they go through all that to make sure everything's in the open. Faith, kids, trust, gambling, drugs/alcohol, etc.

You'd be amazed how many people think getting married will change people.

The classes didn't really help us much either, since my wife and I are open and communicate, but I can see how it could be useful in some situations where people don't talk.

[Caveman24]

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If you go wear an OS t-shirt

[ExtremeGamer]

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I know only what I've read in this thread and I'm going to be blunt, but please don't get married now, especially over that you may lose $300 for the venue. This is a divorce waiting to happen. You both, especially her it sounds like, have some major issues with each other. You definitely need to seek marriage consuling or whatever it would be called for a dating couple LOL.

There's just a lot of red flags here. Her complaints about you are basically everything you do when you break it down. Do you spend time with her at night or are you on your phone/playing video games? Does she feel lonely when you guys are together? It does sound like her parents are having major influences, but that will only get worse when you get married.

Postpone and figure this out before it get worse and you 2 both resent each other in a failed marriage.

[fistofrage]

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I know only what I've read in this thread and I'm going to be blunt, but please don't get married now, especially over that you may lose $300 for the venue. This is a divorce waiting to happen. You both, especially her it sounds like, have some major issues with each other. You definitely need to seek marriage consuling or whatever it would be called for a dating couple LOL.

There's just a lot of red flags here. Her complaints about you are basically everything you do when you break it down. Do you spend time with her at night or are you on your phone/playing video games? Does she feel lonely when you guys are together? It does sound like her parents are having major influences, but that will only get worse when you get married.

Postpone and figure this out before it get worse and you 2 both resent each other in a failed marriage.

Stop giving rational advice. We are trying to get Odogg to go viral.....No chance of that happening if he uses common sense in this situation.

[Streets]

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You definitely need to seek marriage consuling or whatever it would be called for a dating couple LOL.

Couples counseling? LOL

I'm going to be blunt too. I want ODogg to go on Dr. Phil. Selfish? Yes. BUT, you can make her happy later, and make ALL of us happy now! (With logic like that you can't NOT go!)

[BlueNGold]

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I keep seeing counseling being suggested and this is instantly what comes to my mind:

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