In Need Of Some Serious Advice (Yes. Relationship Issues)

[TMagic]

In Need Of Some Serious Advice (Yes. Relationship Issues)

You're cheating on me? You son of a bitch.

Ever since you went back to being a mod, you've forgotten about us. So I had to look elsewhere. I was lonely!

Pics are a must to make sure you're not Evaning us lol.

Man, y'all pervs are not getting any pics!

After all, I don't want you guys' opinion to be biased in any way.


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[jeremym480]

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I've seen a pic of current GF. Until I see the ex I say stay with her.

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[Phobia]

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I've seen a pic of current GF. Until I see the ex I say stay with her.

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Lol


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[NDAlum]

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Just follow your heart...


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[Flightwhite24]

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Think about it, how pissed would you be at some ex boyfriend coming back into your wife's life after he knows she been in a happy marriage. He's attempting some shady **** and if Magic's current girl would find out what this girl is attempting she would think the same thing.

My thought process exactly. Whatever happens I wish TMagic the best outcome.


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[GAMEC0CK2002]

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The fact that you're even considering this, means something is really lacking in the current relationship. The current gf deserves a clean break if you decide to pursue the ex. It would be shady to hold on to her just in case things with the ex don't work out.

[Phobia]

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But, that's the thing.... it's his current girlfriend, not his wife. I mean, 6-7 months isn't that long in the grand scheme of things. Also, if they were married then I would say don't even entertain it, but 6 months? They could break up tomorrow and he may not even remember her name in 5 years.

I agree with a lot of what koolie has to say. One thing that I would advise though is that if you do decide to go with the ex, that doesn't mean that you have to jump into a relationship right away. I'd spend time just dating and getting to know one another for awhile before jumping into anything exclusive.

I agree with a lot you said J, but truly to me it doesn't matter if its been 2 months or 10 years a respectable person does not insert themselves where they know it will cause issues, especially in someones relationship. On that token if I was single and my ex was with a guy that everything was going good but they only been together 6 months I have full reigns to step in and interject myself in the situation, which I don't agree with. If they don't work out then fine, if I still had feelings I might holla and find out what might be, but I'm not going to put myself in someone else business where I don't belong.

So my point, the time is not the issue, its the girls actions of knowing full well he is in a "stable" relationship yet still trying to get what "she desires". To me that speaks the same actions of the original issues, she out for herself.

Granted I could be completely off base, but for Tmagic's sake I would tread very cautiously. She did it to him, she did it to her recent ex, and now stirring up more possible drama. All that to me screams RED FLAG.

One thing I will say also, 21 year old chick is YOUNG and how much we change in just 5 to 9 years from that age is mind blowing. Me 21 compared to 30 is staggering difference lol (my 21 year old self would not be saying these things).

[Fresh Tendrils]

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[Brandwin]

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Break up with the current girl, leave the ex alone and get with me. We seem really compatible.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Man, y'all pervs are not getting any pics!

After all, I don't want you guys' opinion to be biased in any way.


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Mods y'all can go ahead and lock this since we ain't getting any pictures SMH.

[Phobia]

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Nostalgia makes you forget the bad times and only remember the good ones.

Speaking of nostalgia, when I remember my first time playing through the amazing Half Life 1 as a young 17 year old kid, I remember it looking like this.



When sadly if I boot it up, I'm quickly reminded it really looked like this.



lol sooooooo I agree nostalgia general paints a more beautiful picture for us.

[TMagic]

In Need Of Some Serious Advice (Yes. Relationship Issues)

Mods y'all can go ahead and lock this since we ain't getting any pictures SMH.

Fine. You win. Just to prove Im not pulling an Evan.





And no. I'm not saying who's my girl and who's my ex.


Anyway, I've been thinking about breaking things off clean now with the current girlfriend. Just to give myself some time to think and figure things out. I was talking to a client of mine today that came out of nowhere and brought up a man who she called her "soulmate". I literally never even mentioned to her ever about what I've been discussing with you all.

She's married to a different guy now. And she says that if she were to see her soulmate again someday, she don't know what she'd do. She says that she's thought about him everyday. The lady is 62. Lol

So I tell her what I've been going through. And she basically says what a lot of you been saying about how you can never really invest yourself into someone else if I let these thoughts and feelings simmer underneath. That I have to at least meet up with her and see if she's really what I want after all these years.

So like I said, I've been trying to figure out how to break up with the current girl, things to say, etc. I have no experience there either. These are the only two serious relationships I've been in.

But I swear girls have some type of sense man. Yesterday, my girl RANDOMLY texts me "I'm so happy you're my man". I'm like, "F***! Now I gotta wait at least a week to do it."

Then today she calls me crying about how she got let go from her job. I'm like "Son of a bitch! That's at least a month."

But on a serious note, after some serious thinking, I think my current and I are much better suited as friends. Like, I would love to keep her around as a friend because I think we still have a good time together. It's just the relationship and the expectations that come with it that cause us problems.

So how do I go about breaking up with my current? Do I even mention my ex to her? I feel like that just will hurt her more than anything. But I don't know.


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[NDAlum]

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It sucks but here's the deal:

She's 21 with plenty of life to live and guys to meet
She's good looking (both girls look good and will have plenty of guys after them)
She deserves the honesty right now as opposed to later

I broke up with a girl before I met my fiance and I really didn't have a good reason to give her other than I just didn't see things working out long term. Was she pissed? Yep! I just didn't feel that connection with her and I just wasn't fully into the relationship.

There is no good way to end a relationship with somebody who really cares for you. You have to realize that and just get it out of the way for you and more importantly, her.

As for being friends? Bro...no man just no. First of all your next girl won't want you hanging around an ex. Fact of life. No use in battling your new girl and her new man about your "friends" relationship. Even if they say they are ok with it they really aren't. Just a bad idea IMO

[Gotmadskillzson]

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They both on the same level far as looks......

Far as breaking up. Tell her to her face. Just say, sorry, not working out, wish you the best in life. Don't even mention your ex, because in reality, even if your ex wasn't in the picture you were going to break up with her anyway by the sound of it.

I would just do it tonight, get it out of the way. The more you put it off, you going to get that, so umm, since I don't work, I was thinking maybe I can move in with you line.

[Jr.]

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With breaking up, there's never a good time to do it. I've been in situations where I try to wait for a good moment or situation that never comes and I'm in the relationship 2 months longer than I wanted to.

Just be blunt and tell her how you feel. It'll hurt more at the time, but you'll have more respect for yourself and she will likely appreciate it more in the long run.

As for being friends afterward, I've never had a problem with it. I am friends with some of my exes (though none of them live near me so we don't hang out at all) and my fiancee is friends with some of hers. For you and your current girl/soon to be ex, it won't happen immediately, but if you truly do want to stay in touch, be honest with her and let her know that after she's had some time to move on to feel free to contact you. And be straight up with any girl that you're in a relationship with in the future. If they know what the deal is, they'll be more likely to accept it.