Did I handle this situation incorrectly? Advice/opinion appreciated.

[SPTO]

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I agree with the majority here that it was "wrong" but I sure as hell would've reacted the same way. There's a point where you just snap and want to protect your step-daughter in any way possible. That "guy" really seemed like a big douchebag. I kinda wish you were able to beat him to a pulp but i'm glad that the situation didn't escalate.

[wwharton]

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Two wrongs don't make a right.... but I probably would have tried to beat his *** too.

This about sums it up.

Everybody has a line, and I'll speak for most and say that is on the wrong side of anybody's line. Your wife is upset about all the bad things that could've happened when you made that decision. That's VERY important to her, but somewhere inside, knowing you got lucky with the consequences, she's happy you did.

[Cusefan]

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I think we all cheered when Walter White roughed up the two kids making fun of his boy, I immediately thought of that actually. We all have it in us, to protect and defend those that we love. You may have acted rashly but it's understandable.

[countryboy]

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Dude you're lucky that situation didnt get any worse than it did. That guy you attacked could have had a weapon and felt the need to use it on you, while your daughter and wife were on scene. What if he had a firearm and decided to shoot? You would have compromised the safety of your family and everyone in the area. You dont know this man nor what he's capable of. Please do not attack strangers unless you MUST defend yourself.

Try to keep a cool head next time something like this happens. Your wife is wise to be upset at this situation imo. You dont know what a random person on the street is capable of.

I'm not sure how one keeps a cool head, but appreciate your opinion. I'm glad he didn't have a weapon because it could've gotten ugly considering I carry myself.

[countryboy]

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I agree with the majority here that it was "wrong" but I sure as hell would've reacted the same way. There's a point where you just snap and want to protect your step-daughter in any way possible. That "guy" really seemed like a big douchebag. I kinda wish you were able to beat him to a pulp but i'm glad that the situation didn't escalate.

I wish i could've had a little more time to prove my displeasure of his actions 😃

[countryboy]

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This about sums it up.

Everybody has a line, and I'll speak for most and say that is on the wrong side of anybody's line. Your wife is upset about all the bad things that could've happened when you made that decision. That's VERY important to her, but somewhere inside, knowing you got lucky with the consequences, she's happy you did.

i don't know if she's happy at all the way she's been acting lol

[Segagendude]

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My WIFE would've been the one in this douche's face! Lol......she's a Puerto Rican/Filipina combo!

I'd say you did right. Your wife should appreciate the fact you're willing to defend your step-daughter like that.

[NDAlum]

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It wouldn't even bother me

My fiancee on the other hand would go bananas and I'd have to hold her back.

I say no, she says yes

IMO you didn't protect anybody. There was no imminent threat of bodily harm to your daughter. It was basically a jerk being just that.

[RockinDaMike]

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I'll be honest man, I'm with you all the way. Just let your wife vent because she has the right to and doesn't know the instincts of a father. Your job is to protect your family.

If someone is within distance of harming my young daughter, especially one confined in a wheelchair that guy is going down. If he did have a gun or a knife for damn sure I'm taking the blow before that guy has a chance to do the same to her. For a split second your daughter can be harmed and that's a second to many.

If it was me he bumped into I would have just let it go and defuse the situation but when it comes to the women of my family, you don't **** with them.
As another male you should know this and the guy had it coming to him.

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[Millennium]

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Let me try to put this in a different perspective:

Your step daughter will be dealing this this type of stuff for her entire life. You making a big deal out it not only shows a side of yourself to her that she hadn't seen, but also confirms to her that it is, in fact, a big deal.

You brush him off like the ******* he is, and you show your step daughter that he isn't worth the time or the words to even worry about.

[countryboy]

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It wouldn't even bother me

My fiancee on the other hand would go bananas and I'd have to hold her back.

I say no, she says yes

IMO you didn't protect anybody. There was no imminent threat of bodily harm to your daughter. It was basically a jerk being just that.

So you have a child who suffers from a disease that limits her ability to have function of her limbs and no way of protecting herself from physical harm, a guy is disturbed enough to talk to her in the manner he did and it wouldn't bother you? That is an opinion I didn't expect to see.

And if this "guy" was willing to talk to her the way he did, I'm not taking the chance that he's not disturbed enough to put his hands on her.

Maybe in hindsight I didn't really protect anybody, but I wasn't willing to look back at this situation and wish I had done something or regret not protecting her.

[countryboy]

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Let me try to put this in a different perspective:

Your step daughter will be dealing this this type of stuff for her entire life. You making a big deal out it not only shows a side of yourself to her that she hadn't seen, but also confirms to her that it is, in fact, a big deal.

You brush him off like the ******* he is, and you show your step daughter that he isn't worth the time or the words to even worry about.

Actually she rarely deals with this. The R word is the most heartbreaking thing you can say to her. She doesn't want to hear the word in a joking manner. It bothers her.

Maybe they were just words, but the words used caused her harm and that I cannot, and will not tolerate. Given that and he's right in front of her and not knowing if he would put his hands on her, I reacted in a manner to protect.

And I don't like that she saw me angry, but I hope she realizes that I will always protect her from harm.

[Jr.]

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Actually she rarely deals with this. The R word is the most heartbreaking thing you can say to her. She doesn't want to hear the word in a joking manner. It bothers her.

Maybe they were just words, but the words used caused her harm and that I cannot, and will not tolerate. Given that and he's right in front of her and not knowing if he would put his hands on her, I reacted in a manner to protect.

And I don't like that she saw me angry, but I hope she realizes that I will always protect her from harm.

That's just the point though.. by reacting that way, you're giving those words power. They are just words; the way you interpret them and react to them is what gives them or takes away their power.

This was a teachable moment for your daughter. I understand the desire to protect, but the best protection is the ability to ignore it.

The guy brushing against her and knocking her glasses off is one thing. Maybe the guy's reaction would have been different had you asked him calmly to apologize, maybe not. But it wasn't a great example to set for your daughter.

I don't mean to sound judgmental.. I don't have a daughter and cannot say how I would have reacted in a similar situation. But I was picked on enough as a kid to understand that words are harmless if you refuse to react to them.

[ThreeKing]

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Let me try to put this in a different perspective:



Your step daughter will be dealing this this type of stuff for her entire life. You making a big deal out it not only shows a side of yourself to her that she hadn't seen, but also confirms to her that it is, in fact, a big deal.



You brush him off like the ******* he is, and you show your step daughter that he isn't worth the time or the words to even worry about.

I respectfully disagree. Somebody needs to step up and teach that piece of garbage a lesson. Otherwise, that guy will keep doing what he's doing thinking he'll never suffer any repercussions for his nonsense.

The girl is in a wheelchair, and that guy was being a dick about it. When it comes to specific scenarios like that, all bets are off in my opinion.

[countryboy]

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That's just the point though.. by reacting that way, you're giving those words power. They are just words; the way you interpret them and react to them is what gives them or takes away their power.

This was a teachable moment for your daughter. I understand the desire to protect, but the best protection is the ability to ignore it.

The guy brushing against her and knocking her glasses off is one thing. Maybe the guy's reaction would have been different had you asked him calmly to apologize, maybe not. But it wasn't a great example to set for your daughter.

I don't mean to sound judgmental.. I don't have a daughter and cannot say how I would have reacted in a similar situation. But I was picked on enough as a kid to understand that words are harmless if you refuse to react to them.

When she is crying and heartbroken due to the words, they already have power.

And it wasn't just the words but the whole situation and how it unfolded. Maybe I was wrong but at that moment I felt I did what I needed to do to protect her.