Separate but living together

[Rubio809]

Re: Separate but living together

We've talked about seeing other people. I'm not for it but she's encouraging me to go out and try.

Translation....There is already someone else.

[nemesis04]

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Translation....There is already someone else.

Pretty much, either she is or is about to. It will make the situation much worse if someone is involved and the other is not. I know I would not want to be around seeing my wife walking in from a date or spending a night with someone.

The situation can only get worse not better.

[Rubio809]

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Pretty much, either she is or is about to. It will make the situation much worse if someone is involved and the other is not. I know I would not want to be around seeing my wife walking in from a date or spending a night with someone.

The situation can only get worse not better.

I'm 99% sure she does. Had it happen to me with the old, I want you to go out and meet other people. Also happened to my friend. He hung on thinking there was a chance, all along she had someone else.

[longshadow11]

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I could not live with a wife who was seeing other men. No way. I feel for you; I don't know what your mental state is, but when my wife declared the marriage was over and said she had a boyfriend, I was devastated. I'm sorry this is happening to you and hope you are in a good place mentally.

[oneamongthefence]

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So last night she came out and said that she is talking to someone else. One of my high friends in fact. Its nothing serious. Her words. She went over to his house and stayed overnight but nothing has happened. Her words. She doesn't want to commit to him since I'm holding her captive with the kids.

This is not a test.

[TheShizNo1]

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Maaaaaaan. My thoughts violate the TOS. Slap your boy upside the head and chuck the deuces at the wife.

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[dickey1331]

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So last night she came out and said that she is talking to someone else. One of my high friends in fact. Its nothing serious. Her words. She went over to his house and stayed overnight but nothing has happened. Her words. She doesn't want to commit to him since I'm holding her captive with the kids.

This is not a test.

This is going to end very badly for you. You need to do anything necessary to get out.

Ok let's pretend she is telling the 100% truth. I don't get how a married women with a child spending the night at her husbands friends house is nothing serious. Wow.

[oneamongthefence]

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This is going to end very badly for you. You need to do anything necessary to get out.

Ok let's pretend she is telling the 100% truth. I don't get how a married women with a child spending the night at her husbands friends house is nothing serious. Wow.

If I had money for a lawyer I would have been out a while ago. Since I can't legally prevent her from taking the kids I have to play somewhat nice. She's threatened to take them and disappear before.

This is not a test.

[dsallupinyaarea]

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So last night she came out and said that she is talking to someone else. One of my high friends in fact. Its nothing serious. Her words. She went over to his house and stayed overnight but nothing has happened. Her words. She doesn't want to commit to him since I'm holding her captive with the kids.

This is not a test.

I can't think of a nice way to say this. They're both playing you for a fool and probably laughing at you. They're not even trying to hide it.

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[nemesis04]

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So last night she came out and said that she is talking to someone else. One of my high friends in fact. Its nothing serious. Her words. She went over to his house and stayed overnight but nothing has happened. Her words. She doesn't want to commit to him since I'm holding her captive with the kids.

This is not a test.

This guy is not your friend. A true friend would have sent her packing back home or at least called you and said she was expressing interest and wanted no part of it. A bad scene is starting to take shape, either she needs to go or you need to go. You need to seek out what your legal options are even though you don't have the funds to hire a lawyer. Most do free consultations, you need to get the process moving.

[dickey1331]

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If I had money for a lawyer I would have been out a while ago. Since I can't legally prevent her from taking the kids I have to play somewhat nice. She's threatened to take them and disappear before.

This is not a test.

Aren't you still in the Air Force? If so, talk to legal. I know they can only do so much but they should be able to hook you up with a lawyer at a discount. At the minimum a consoling session.

[oneamongthefence]

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No ice been out of the air force for 2 years so that's not an option. Am I wrong to want full custody of the kids?

This is not a test.

[jeremym480]

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No ice been out of the air force for 2 years so that's not an option. Am I wrong to want full custody of the kids?

This is not a test.

You're not wrong to want full custody... however, unless the mom has major issues and you can prove it, then the likelihood of you getting full custody is probably pretty slim.

If I were you at this point I'd be doing whatever I could to get out in front of this. The longer you wait the worse it's going to get for you.

[bigeastbumrush]

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You're not wrong to want full custody... however, unless the mom has major issues and you can prove it, then the likelihood of you getting full custody is probably pretty slim.

If I were you at this point I'd be doing whatever I could to get out in front of this. The longer you wait the worse it's going to get for you.

Wife has no income and has admitted to spending the night *wink wink* at another man's house.

Any lawyer worth their salt would give the TS a puncher's chance at full custody.

[jeremym480]

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Wife has no income and has admitted to spending the night *wink wink* at another man's house.

Any lawyer worth their salt would give the TS a puncher's chance at full custody.

And unless he has some sort of proof, then her lawyer could say that he made all of that up and if becomes a game of "he said, she said".

That being said I don't have kids and have never been in a custody battle. What little I know about the subject comes from when I happen to look up from my phone while my wife is watching Teen Mom 2. Lol.

I do know that the longer he waits the more time it gives her to get her stuff together. Which is why my only advice is to do whatever he can to protect himself and his kids by getting out in front of this. If that takes getting a personal loan from the bank or a relative, then so be it.