Prenuptial agreements

[Scottdau]

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LOL..so you have to be on your 2nd marriage to have worth? LOL. What the hell are you talking about? Scott, seriously...how old were you when you got married? I doubt you are older than 37 and youve been married for 13 yrs...so 24? I bet you dated your wife for a few yrs before marriage, right? So you met her at 21?

I am 38, got married when I was 25. Had no prenup. I am saying most people in their 20's don't own a house. Especially in this economy. I know a lot of women that would laugh at a prenup. So we must know different kind of women. But you are never getting married so a prenup is really not an concern for you. Nope we were friends first and started dating when I was 24 got married at 25.

[Scottdau]

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Who said she wants to come back to you? She may be happier with the new guy and take your kids with her.

And that can be true too, but if she did come back I would take her back. You see I would come to the realization I probably had some cause for this to happen in the first place. You don't just wake up one day and say "Hey I think I will have an affair."

[mgoblue]

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I am 38, got married when I was 25. Had no prenup. I am saying most people in their 20's don't own a house. Especially in this economy. I know a lot of women that would laugh at a prenup. So we must know different kind of women. But you are never getting married so a prenup is really not an concern for you. Nope we were friends first and started dating when I was 24 got married at 25.

Married in a year? Ugh, I see that all the time and just shake my head, cause so many of those end in divorce. Hell, at 1 year you're not past the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship, IMO you need more time than that to truly see if it's someone you want to live with forever. A prenup would be even smarter if you were getting married that soon, IMO.

[Scottdau]

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So if I a pro athlete and my fiance was working at Dave & Busters before I met her, I shouldn't get a pre-nut because it will cause the marriage to get off on the wrong foot? Think what you are saying man

Once again you are saying something I didn't say you should do. I said if you have worth and she doesn't then I say yes protect yourself, but I still say it is not a good way to start the marriage. When you get a prenup you are saying Hey "I said I will love you til death does it parts, but if we split before that at least we have this prenup." I am not going to agree that a prenup is good for the marriage, but I will say if you both are OK with more power to you. Ask your wife today if she would have sign a prenup?

[Scottdau]

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Married in a year? Ugh, I see that all the time and just laugh, cause so many of those end in divorce. Hell, at 1 year you're not past the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship, IMO you need more time than that to truly see if it's someone you want to live with forever. A prenup would be even smarter if you were getting married that soon, IMO.

Yep, but we were good friends for 4 years. I met her when I was 21, so we dated for a year and known each other for 5.

[mgoblue]

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Yep, but we were good friends for 4 years. I met her when I was 21, so we dated for a year and known each other for 5.

That's better then...I can understand that. Just see more and more people meeting someone and getting married (actually having the wedding) within 2 years and it's not the best idea in most cases.

[Scottdau]

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Married in a year? Ugh, I see that all the time and just laugh, cause so many of those end in divorce. Hell, at 1 year you're not past the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship, IMO you need more time than that to truly see if it's someone you want to live with forever. A prenup would be even smarter if you were getting married that soon, IMO.

LMAO, prenup for us. Give me a freaking break now that is funny. We had nothing to begin with! What ever. You guys that get prenups good luck there. I am sure you will find a great woman too, because all women love prenups. I still say it is a bad way to start a young marrige off, but that is just my opinion. I am sure they can work too.

[aholbert32]

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"If you love her you will not let her leave."

LOL!

[mgoblue]

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When you get a prenup you are saying Hey "I said I will love you til death does it parts, but if we split before that at least we have this prenup." I am not going to agree that a prenup is good for the marriage, but I will say if you both are OK with more power to you. Ask your wife today if she would have sign a prenup?

People are just saying that this isn't in your control...you can't control your wife from leaving you for the pool guy or whoever. Obviously when you get married you don't think that'll happen, but a prenup just covers everyone. Plus there are players/liars of both sexes...

If I was gonna marry some woman who had a house all ready paid off I'd expect her to get a prenup...it's not my house, yes, we'll share it when married, but I did nothing to help buy that house.

Yeah, if you both have nothing, sure it doesn't matter...But in this age with people going to college and getting better jobs after that, pretty much everyone in their 20's will have something.

[Scottdau]

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That's better then...I can understand that. Just see more and more people meeting someone and getting married (actually having the wedding) within 2 years and it's not the best idea in most cases.

This agree with. I have seen it happen a lot too. Especially in the church world. People get married young, so they can have sex. Bad reason to get married. But it happens. Any ways about the prenup Alhobert, you have more to lose then I do. I have a lot now, but my wife and I earned it together. I still say it is not a good start for the marriage and if you can't see that, that is OK too. Trust me Marriage is not easy and you don't want this prenup hanging over your marriage too. But once again it is just my opinion. I look at it like this I got married to share my life with someone and because of that I will take what ever happens without a prenup.

[Scottdau]

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"If you love her you will not let her leave."

Well, This was cute, but there is truth to it. I am sure if she left I was not treating her right. No one wake up saying "they think they will cheat today" it is a thing that happens over time. Mostly for reasons I mention before.

[aholbert32]

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I know a lot of women that would laugh at a prenup. So we must know different kind of women. But you are never getting married so a prenup is really not an concern for you. Nope we were friends first and started dating when I was 24 got married at 25.

They can laugh all they want. The reason that they laugh is because weak willed guys allow them to balk at a prenup and get married without one. I dont want to appear egotistical but the odds are in my favor. I'm a single black man with a good job, no criminal history and no kids in perhaps the city with the most professional single women per capita in the country (Washington DC). Because of that simple fact, I never have an issue meeting new women. A single black man with a good job could look like the elephant man and still meet women.

If I propose to a woman and she balks at a prenup thats completely fair to both people..then thats not the women for me and I'll meet someone else.

[aholbert32]

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Well, This was cute, but there is truth to it. I am sure if she left I was not treating her right. No one wake up saying "they think they will cheat today" it is a thing that happens over time. Mostly for reasons I mention before.

People wake up everyday and say "I made a mistake marrying this guy/girl, I thought he/she was the love of my life but I was wrong so I'm leaving." They dont cheat...they just arent happy.

I find your perspective facinating and dumbfounding at the same time. Weve established that you got married young but I'm intrested to know how many serious relationships you had before your wife. I cant see any person with many serious relationships/breakups having this "fairy tale" perspective.

[Scottdau]

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People are just saying that this isn't in your control...you can't control your wife from leaving you for the pool guy or whoever. Obviously when you get married you don't think that'll happen, but a prenup just covers everyone. Plus there are players/liars of both sexes...

If I was gonna marry some woman who had a house all ready paid off I'd expect her to get a prenup...it's not my house, yes, we'll share it when married, but I did nothing to help buy that house.

Yeah, if you both have nothing, sure it doesn't matter...But in this age with people going to college and getting better jobs after that, pretty much everyone in their 20's will have something.

I will say this one more time, then I done. I am not saying it is not OK to get a prenup. Especially when you have worth. But I do believe that is not a good start for a marriage. Marriage was not about this having a prenup. That is not what marriage is about. You marry someone to be your partner for life. If it doesn't work out that happens, but I still having a prenup is not a good idea. The other thing is having a prenup is too easy you are willing to not work on your problems becasue you have that back door. That is where I have a problem with a prenup. Work on your problems and try to save your marriage instead of getting out. If my wife and I split we have a lot of thinking to do, because we do have a lot of worth together, so I will do my best to work on the problems. Now if I had a prenup I might have been gone already. Just kidding, but I think you get my point.

[aholbert32]

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I will say this one more time, then I done. I am not saying it is not OK to get a prenup. Especially when you have worth. But I do believe that is not a good start for a marriage. Marriage was not about this having a prenup. That is not what marriage is about. You marry someone to be your partner for life. If it doesn't work out that happens, but I still having a prenup is not a good idea. The other thing is having a prenup is too easy you are willing to not work on your problems becasue you have that back door. That is where I have a problem with a prenup. Work on your problems and try to save your marriage instead of getting out. If my wife and I split we have a lot of thinking to do, because we do have a lot of worth together, so I will do my best to work on the problems. Now if I had a prenup I might have been gone already. Just kidding, but I think you get my point.

You are talking out of both sides of your mouth. You cant say "I'm not saying its not OK yo get a prenup" and then say "Its a bad start for a marriage". LOL. Which one is it. Is it OK or is it a bad idea?