Something I Have Been Experiencing On The Subway

[bgeno]

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I'm beginning to see why people are so amazed at the generosity and hospitality when they visit the South.



I'm assuming the "grown *** men" who don't offer their seats in this thread, also don't offer them in other scenarios?

For example, you're at a small gathering and there's only one person standing and not sitting down. Said person is a female, do you not offer her your seat?

She can just sit on my lap...

In all seriousness, I'd probably stand, but I wouldn't anticipate her taking my seat. I'd stand just so she wasn't the only one standing. It's the same thing I'd do if a guy friend was the only one without a seat.

Now if it was an older person, man or woman I probably would have offered my seat if they looked like they needed it, just like if I'm leaving a store I hold the door open for someone man or woman. I don't do things just because someones a girl.

Same here. I always hold doors for anyone when I'm walking in and out of buildings. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman.

Theres girls out there who know people do things for them just because they are a girl an try to take advantage of it. So I just treat everyone equal like it should be. No special treatment unless your in need of it.

Absolutely.

[bgeno]

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How would I give my seat up to a person without them asking in the first place? That's what I don't understand. I kind of thought that would be implied in my post. Especially since this thread is about whether or not you would give up your seat to a person who asked the OP. It's all good though. Arguing is pointless.

We'll call it a miscommunication then. I just assumed when people say they'd "give up their seat" that they meant if they saw a woman standing and they were sitting, they'd offer their seat.

How many people would actually have the nerve to ask for someone else's seat?

[WeLLWeLL]

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People who don't hold the door open for guys or girls are just d-bags. Especially people who just stand by the door and stare at you if you are having trouble opening it (when your hands are full with something). I know it can be fun watching somebody struggle, but that stuff used to piss me off so much when I delivered pizzas.

[CMH]

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Has nothing to do with charm school.


Has everything to do with how boys are raised in the south. And that's to respect your elders and be a gentleman to all females. And being a gentleman means giving up your seat to a woman if she is standing.



And if you don't want to be gentleman and give up your seat, then so be it. But don't sit there and pretend it's not a regional thing.

I know my post came after this one, but don't continue this topic.

There are two simple facts here:

1. Being a gentleman is NOT reserved to being from the South. Stop pretending it is and stop believing it. This is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on OS.

2. Not every boy is raised the same no matter what region they were born in. You find good people in the North and bad people in the North. You find good people in the South and bad people in the South. No region is more special than the other. The belief that regions have more manners, respect, politeness or the complete vice versa is utter crap. People are people and they are raised as they are raised. Region or any other parameter used to differentiate between human beings of the same planet has nothing to do with it. Nothing.



And Husker_OS, I'm not trying to single you out, but your comment covered a lot of what I've been reading here on OS lately. I hoped it would end, but it really looks like members are pulling this card more and more lately. I don't like it. Don't disappoint me further, OS.

[WeLLWeLL]

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We'll call it a miscommunication then. I just assumed when people say they'd "give up their seat" that they meant if they saw a woman standing and they were sitting, they'd offer their seat.

How many people would actually have the nerve to ask for someone else's seat?

Miscommunication it is! We agree on something.

And I would never ask for someone else's seat. Don't mind standing at all. But the people that lay all their stuff across two seats or just take up two seats for the hell of it (like lying down) are a-holes.

[bgeno]

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People who don't hold the door open for guys or girls are just d-bags. Especially people who just stand by the door and stare at you if you are having trouble opening it (when your hands are full with something). I know it can be fun watching somebody struggle, but that stuff used to piss me off so much when I delivered pizzas.

And I would never ask for someone else's seat. Don't mind standing at all. But the people that lay all their stuff across two seats or just take up two seats for the hell of it (like lying down) are a-holes.

Ah, see... now we're on the same page! I hate that stuff! hahaha

I always notice it on the busses on campus. They'll be full or almost full and someone will be in one seat and have their bookbag sitting on the other seat. I always think to myself, "that bag couldn't be on your lap? Or on the floor between your legs?"

And I'm always irked when there is a long line of people walking in or out of a building and the person two people in front of my holds the door for the person directly in front of me, but that person doesn't bother holding it for me. Ugh.

[WeLLWeLL]

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Ah, see... now we're on the same page! I hate that stuff! hahaha

[iAM-IncReDiBLe-]

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For example, you're at a small gathering and there's only one person standing and not sitting down. Said person is a female, do you not offer her your seat?

I'll offer her a seat by patting my lap.

But I sat down for a reason so unless she seems like shes having trouble standing then I'm keeping my seat and let someone else be that guy to offer his seat.

[Po Pimp]

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The bottom line is...times have changed. There is absolutely no reason to adhere to the old customs of offering a woman a seat simply for being born a woman. If she's elderly, pregnant, or looks like she's struggling (has a lot of bags, injury, etc) then by all means offer your seat.

All of this putting a woman on a pedestal stuff will come back to bite u once she expects it ALL the time. What will happen is, u will have a woman who runs over u, or she will cheat on u.

Edit - The only way this can occur is if she does the same for u, and that is EXTREMELY rare

[bigjake62505]

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Act like a man and give up ur seat. Bunch of sissys lol jk

[Pokes]

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It seems all types have had a hand in bringing this thread down.

[Beantown]

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All of this putting a woman on a pedestal stuff will come back to bite u once she expects it ALL the time. What will happen is, u will have a woman who runs over u, or she will cheat on u

I'm not too worried about a random stranger I'll more than likely never see again taking advantage of me.

As for Husker's question about the party/get together situation, you're damn right I'll offer my seat to a girl if she's standing. At parties around here, they'll usually refuse and say they're fine, and that'll be that, but if I see them standing there or leaning uncomfortably against the arm of a couch, for instance, I'll get up and give them my seat.

[legendkiller5]

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Absolutely.



That's what I always tell my female friends who say chivalry is dead.


One of my friend's friends said some guy held the door for her to get into her apartment and she was saying how amazed she was.

So my friend was like "that should happen more often... chivalry is dead."

My quick reply was "And women killed it."

"WHAT?" she said.

"Women killed it by dating *******s and being attracted to jerks. They killed it by taking advantage of sweet guys and being unappreciative of nice fellows."

And they agreed with me after that.

This post is on point. That, and kng23rich's post. This thread is getting serious.

[Jonesy]

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I wouldn't say chivalry is dead but it does seem to be dying.

Unfortunately good manners, respect for your fellow man and common decency seem to be slowly dying as well.

[Buckeyes_Doc]

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I wouldn't say chivalry is dead but it does seem to be dying.

Unfortunately good manners, respect for your fellow man and common decency seem to be slowly dying as well.

Look at history that died a long time ago. But that is a whole other conversation lol.