Those That Have Met Your Wife/GF On The Internet, Were You Embarrased To Tell........

[VDusen04]

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I feel like if it works, it works. If the internet led me to the girl I love being with, then I'd find no shame in that. I understand and agree that there may be pockets of people somewhere that will judge a person for meeting their loved one online, but I think that's their own problem. I would not let it phase me. If anything, at this point, I think it makes for a fun story (the "what were the chances I'd meet someone I liked online" route).

Edit: And I think most of us understand why it COULD be embarrassing. I also just think this is a lot of us saying that there's no reason for it to be embarrassing. Perhaps the sheer number of posts and feedback may lead one to understand and believe that it's nothing to be embarrassed of afterall.

I think I'm just not clear what we're going for here. . .the original post asked if we were embarrassed to tell someone I met my loved one on the internet. I explained I would not be embarrassed (and wasn't) and then explained why I would not be embarrassed (it's not to be ashamed of, it's a process that works, it's a solid route for post-college grads, etc.).

[DC]

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Again, I am not discussing whether or not it can work man....

[youvalss]

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I met like _ _ ladies through dating sites (I'll keep the number to myself )... And, of course met my wife this way. I'm happy I did and I tell about it to anyone who asks how we met. If they don't like it, screw them all m***** ******s

[TheMatrix31]

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Oh, DC. Nice to have you back.

I would not be embarrassed.

[Scottdau]

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This is the future and present of dating, so I think it will be less embarrassing. Unless you met them through a mail a bride service. Then it might be funny. "Oh; so how did you meet her? "Oh I sent $1,000 to Russia and she came over to be my wife"

[55]

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Oh, DC. Nice to have you back.

[CMH]

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I can't believe so many of you can't comprehend why it WOULD BE embarassing.

? I think only like two guys actually said that.

Most of us are just telling you that we won't find it embarrassing. But I think the same number of people will tell you that they understand why people feel that way. Like I said, my ex was shy about the whole thing. She hated when I freely told people that asked how we met. I didn't care, but once I got the vibe that she was embarrassed by it, I let her do the talking.

It didn't matter to me either way, so why not make her feel comfortable by telling whatever story she wanted to tell? Didn't affect me.

I get it, though. People are embarrassed by it. I know people that would look at me cockeyed if I told them I have dated people online. Heck, I still do it. It's really the only way for me to meet other girls. I work random long hours and don't have any females in my work place.

I'm also against relations with people you work with, so despite the fact that there are thousands of women in fundraising (trust me, if you want to be the Barney of dating, find not for profit organizations and hit up their events. Don't even talk to the guests. Talk to the women that ran the thing. Beautiful) I won't entertain the thought because we're communicating on a different level.

So, yea, online dating is one of my few options to meet other women. If someone is embarrassed about that, that's fine. It's still a relatively new idea to dating and it'll take time before most of the population accepts it. It's getting close, though.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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I think about 10 or so years ago it was "embarrassing", but not so much now.

In this age, relationship dynamics have "evolved" at an astonishing rate.

In the 90's through early in the new millennium, online dating was "creepy" and weird.

Today I feel like "everyone" is doing it. I'm sure the forums for meeting others online for romantic purposes are much more "legit" as to back in the 90's. You can get a much better feel for the other person today before meeting in person.

With all of that said, I would only "meet" a future GF online if it was through Facebook and it was a mutual friend. Other than that I'd just rather meet a woman by chance in person. I can't quite take that leap into online dating quite yet.

This.

[z Revis]

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I can't believe so many of you can't comprehend why it WOULD BE embarassing.

I understand why people would feel that it's embarrassing, but personally I don't think it is. It's not a big deal to me; everyone is doing it nowadays. It's no different than meeting someone the old fashion way IMO.

Now that said, I would still prefer to meet that person 'the real way'. But it wouldn't bother me at all if I met 'her' online.

[DC]

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It really is different than meeting someone the "old fashioned" way. It is a more convenient (some would argue lazier) and less courageous way of meeting someone. Can't possibly say it is the same thing because it takes WAY less balls to send a girl a message on FB than it is to walk up to her and put work in.

[youvalss]

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If you're trying to please other people by how you meet the ladies, you'll also try to please people by who you meet. You might eventually want to marry the girl other people feel is best for you...

[z Revis]

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It really is different than meeting someone the "old fashioned" way. It is a more convenient (some would argue lazier) and less courageous way of meeting someone. Can't possibly say it is the same thing because it takes WAY less balls to send a girl a message on FB than it is to walk up to her and put work in.

Yeah, but in the end it's still the same result. As I said, I would still prefer to meet someone the 'real' or 'old fashioned' way. But it wouldn't bother me either way. All I care about is finding that person; I could care less how we met.

[DC]

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LOL We aren't talking about the result though. We are talking about the methods and how they are different.

And you couldn't care less, not could.

[z Revis]

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LOL We aren't talking about the result though. We are talking about the methods and how they are different.

Well I was. You're right though, they're certainly different. I still wouldn't feel embarrassed about meeting someone online though.

And you couldn't care less, not could.

LOL. I know. I usually say couldn't. I still have no idea how the expression got turned around from "couldn't" to "could" as "could care less" makes absolutely no sense and doesn't mean what it says; in fact it means the opposite of what it says.

[youvalss]

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I read people posting "I could care less" all the time and it gets me confused...