Lady Advice

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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All good points in this thread... I just wish I could drop it but it just lingers. Not sure why I sold myself on this girl to the point where I just can't drop it. Either way, we'll see what happens this weekend. I can deal with rejection, I just hate being in the middle of no where.

I feel you man. I'm only 20, but to this point in my life, I've felt a connection with two girls that seemed special. I was with girl #1 when I felt the connection with girl #2. It's really tough to get over that. I ended up breaking up with girl #1 because I couldn't get girl #2 off my mind and thought it was unfair to girl #1.

[Marino]

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Just keep yourself busy, find some **** you enjoy doing, and you will either forget about her, or she will respond to you. That's what works for me. I use to get bent up over things like that, but after years of trial and error and learning from past mistakes (as well as people on OS giving me **** and helping me out lol), I have learned that its better not to stress it. If it's meant to be, something will happen. Don't become the weak one. You're better than that.

[kingkilla56]

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The ball is not in your court so you really shouldnt be worrying about this anymore. Just keep on moving and find a girl who isn't a flake

[Bdubb]

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Well I got a question myself here. Is there a reason to be good friends with a chick who doesn't hook you up with her friends? I've been friends with this girl Ally for a good 2 years. She has done favors for me and my best friend Brett, whether picking us up from bars, telling us about parties. But she never really asks some of her good looking friends what they think about me or Brett.

Like anytime I've asked her she just gives me "Yeah I'll try" but I know in reality she doesn't because any scenario whether it be a date setup or a scenario in where I actually meet a friend happens. She just seems like she doesn't care if were trying to find a hookup. So is there a reason to be good friends with a chick that doesn't hook you up? Am I blowing it out of proportion by getting upset at something like that when it comes to a friendship?

[Gotmadskillzson]

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Hook yourself up. Don't rely on others for hook ups. You just reinforcing the stereotype women have of men. That men only have women as friends for hook ups with their friends.

Nobody likes to be used. That is just as bad as being friends with people because they are rich or have a lot of powerful connections.

[Bdubb]

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Hook yourself up. Don't rely on others for hook ups. You just reinforcing the stereotype women have of men. That men only have women as friends for hook ups with their friends.

Nobody likes to be used. That is just as bad as being friends with people because they are rich or have a lot of powerful connections.

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Ok but I do get your point though I thought about that a bit when I was typing that stuff out.

[XFactah416]

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Well I got a question myself here. Is there a reason to be good friends with a chick who doesn't hook you up with her friends? I've been friends with this girl Ally for a good 2 years. She has done favors for me and my best friend Brett, whether picking us up from bars, telling us about parties. But she never really asks some of her good looking friends what they think about me or Brett.

Like anytime I've asked her she just gives me "Yeah I'll try" but I know in reality she doesn't because any scenario whether it be a date setup or a scenario in where I actually meet a friend happens. She just seems like she doesn't care if were trying to find a hookup. So is there a reason to be good friends with a chick that doesn't hook you up? Am I blowing it out of proportion by getting upset at something like that when it comes to a friendship?

It depends. I think there is value in being friends with girls but for the most part, I also see it very, very difficult for a male and a female to be "just friends" without one side having feelings for the other. You may not have any inclination to want to be with your female friend, but she might (or vice versa), and that is a sticky situation.

For instance, if your friend is really attractive, then just being with her and hanging out with her will increase your social value in public places even if she doesn't know it nor if you intentionally mean for it.

Usually though, I would suspect that a friend would help out a friend unless there's something about her friends that she may not want you to get involved with (since I'm assuming that you're a good dude). It's that or she wants you to be focusing on her.

[Bellsprout]

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Kill her.

/Dayman'sAdvice

*single tear*

You guys... you guys get me.

Now then, do you have access to a wood chipper?

[Bdubb]

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For instance, if your friend is really attractive, then just being with her and hanging out with her will increase your social value in public places even if she doesn't know it nor if you intentionally mean for it.

Yeah it does to an extent I have talked to people in our group of friends while being around her (them just not being friends with her though lol) It does suck she is attractive looking but I don't think neither of us would you know date each other or what have you.

Usually though, I would suspect that a friend would help out a friend unless there's something about her friends that she may not want you to get involved with (since I'm assuming that you're a good dude). It's that or she wants you to be focusing on her.

Yeah I know that's what has me a bit confused. Like she just wants me to view her as "one of the guys" when I don't entirely see it like that. Just a hard to explain scenario I guess. And I hope I'm a good dude I'm always respectful to ladies even if other people describe them with nasty words.

[bichettehappens]

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I'll probably wait till Sunday and if nothing I'll send her a email with the haven't heard from you in a while, hopefully everything is ok.. etc. If nothing after that, I'll delete her number.

If you don't hear from her by then, I would not bother with the email.

[TMagic]

Yeah I know that's what has me a bit confused. Like she just wants me to view her as "one of the guys" when I don't entirely see it like that. Just a hard to explain scenario I guess. And I hope I'm a good dude I'm always respectful to ladies even if other people describe them with nasty words.

And that's where you f***ed up. Lot of chicks dont want what most describe as a "good guy".

Sometimes the world in which we live makes zero sense.

[bichettehappens]

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Sometimes the world in which we live makes zero sense.

That about sums up any scenario with any woman sometimes lol

[legendkiller5]

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And that's where you f***ed up. Lot of chicks dont want what most describe as a "good guy".

Sometimes the world in which we live makes zero sense.

Another thing (about women, really) that doesn't make sense and grinds my gears, that's kinda, sorta along the same lines?

When girls get mad at girls they don't know calling them a b****, they get so offended and bent outta shape, but at the same time, have no problem with their girlfriend's calling them a bad ***** or *****.

Or when some random guy calls them a *****, they get mad, but it's okay when their bf or favorite rapper refers to them as a *****.

[JMD]

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I'm in a little situation which might require some fine OS tuning. I started talking through this girl via a mutual person. Email last week, started texting over the weekend, texted ALL day Monday and talked to her on the phone that night. A little bit on Tuesday as we were both busy and sent a text yesterday morning and no reply since. Usually I'd be like eh but I just felt things flowing so well Monday and now nothing...

Now mentally I might be blowing this thing over. Usually I take whatever approach, replace and not chase but this one I don't know. At the end of the day I know I should be thinking it's just one girl, and I shouldn't be wasting this much time and effort into it but... I just feel a connection with this one which I don't want to think back later like what if I didn't do that extra step.

So at this point should I just wait? Text again this evening or what? Any advice appreciated.

Wow, things sure have changed since my dating days. I suggest you ditch the technology -E-mails, Texting, and actually call her and ask her out to a nice lunch or dinner so you can actually converse like two Humans.

[IlliniM1ke]

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If you don't hear from her by then, I would not bother with the email.

Definitely this.

At this point you've sent a text and left a voicemail, if she doesn't respond then for whatever reason she must have lost interest.

I'd move on and maybe she'll change her mind and contact you but I wouldn't reach out to her again.