Lady Advice

[IlliniM1ke]

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Wow, things sure have changed since my dating days. I suggest you ditch the technology -E-mails, Texting, and actually call her and ask her out to a nice lunch or dinner so you can actually converse like two Humans.

Calling is definitely the way to go, texting leaves too much up in the air, did she get the message? If she did is she not replying because shes busy or is she not interested, did she get sidetracked and forget about it? Texting drives me crazy early on because sometimes you'll be having a conversation getting a response instantly then all of a sudden you'll send something and no response for hours, you know they had to check it but for whatever reason they opted to not reply or at least let you know why they stopped responding (something came up etc) and then you're trying to figure out what the heck happened until you eventually do get a message again.

That said some girls just don't like talking on the phone now it seems, even in this thread a couple people have mentioned they called a girl like 1 or 2 times at the start of things and its been strictly texting since then. In this day and age it seems a lot of girls are starting to prefer it that way.

[Cusefan]

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I'm calling a girl I met online tonight, she has a kid so that will be new for me but from I can tell so far she seems cool. I don't like talking on the phone(to anyone) so the faster the relationship moves past talking on the phone the better.

[TMagic]

How is it talking to women with kids?

Im 25, I just started talking to a girl that has a kid. I've never talked to a girl that's had one before and I just came to the realization that I'm getting older now. So a girl having a kid is going to start becoming the norm.

I remember in high and college when I'd find out a girl had a kid, I'd be all like....

[Blzer]

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I got a phone number from a cute DirecTV rep in a Best Buy who had a kid, but she was around my age (the rep, not the kid haha) and although I talked to her a few times merely to talk to her, I was kind of afraid of getting involved with someone who already has a child.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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How is it talking to women with kids?

Im 25, I just started talking to a girl that has a kid. I've never talked to a girl that's had one before and I just came to the realization that I'm getting older now. So a girl having a kid is going to start becoming the norm.

I remember in high and college when I'd find out a girl had a kid, I'd be all like....

I'm 25 and still holding out for the girl without a kid. The way I see it, if I can go through life without having a kid by now, then there should be a girl out there who has done the same. Of course you never know. I've tried syncing up with some girls with kids, but after plans have fallen through or things just didn't click, I didn't exactly feel heart broken after we parted ways.

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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And that's where you f***ed up. Lot of chicks dont want what most describe as a "good guy".

Sometimes the world in which we live makes zero sense.

This right here absolutely killed me when I was in high school. I got hit with the friend zone by like half the freakin' school lol.

But once I got to college, girls started taking notice. You gotta start out with a sarcastic personality and then slowly start being nicer to them. Works like a charm.

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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Oh, well I'm at it, have any of you guys had to deal with a long-distance relationship? My girlfriend is studying abroad in Turkey next semester, so it's gonna be killer for us being apart for like 4.5 months, but our plan is to skype each night at least.

[Jr.]

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Oh, well I'm at it, have any of you guys had to deal with a long-distance relationship? My girlfriend is studying abroad in Turkey next semester, so it's gonna be killer for us being apart for like 4.5 months, but our plan is to skype each night at least.

I did long distance my freshman year of college (my girlfriend was a senior in high school) and while I didn't cheat, I definitely felt like I missed out on a lot of fun stuff that my roommate was doing. I ended up breaking up with her in the Spring and had a blast.

I would say that it's really difficult to do while you're in college. There is just so much going on and so many distractions. Then again, I'm the type of person that needs physical contact to maintain a close relationship, so just having phone/text/skype conversations isn't enough for me to keep interest.

[Mike Lowe]

I haven't even read this entire thread, but if she's interested she WILL get back to you. Let it simmer; I hate games but a girl will want what's suddenly complacent when it comes to her and will work for your attention as she won't understand why you seem uninterested. Insecurity and unconscious reactions will take over. Give her some work to do and stop giving her all the answers ahead of time

Again, I hate games but they're necessary at least to keep you (man) in check or else the window will close never to be reopened!

Source: Lots of experience, associated readings, experiences on both ends of the spectrum, and finally lots of success haha

Let it work for you...let it simmer. I know what you mean about "just another girl" AND her possibly being very special. The latter is why you have to chill. She's aware it's her turn...a girl always knows who's turn it is on the gameboard and whether she's aware of it or not, this is your first exam

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[kingkilla56]

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I'm calling a girl I met online tonight, she has a kid so that will be new for me but from I can tell so far she seems cool. I don't like talking on the phone(to anyone) so the faster the relationship moves past talking on the phone the better.

I got a girls number who was working the burger king on Syracuse's campus. I figured she was a student. Then she in passing mentions her son...then eventually I figured she was a townie. Tried my best to avoid her from then on but she worked the got damn cheapest food source on all of campus. After a while it was cool. Pretty cool chick in retrospect but she was a smoker...no thanks.

I dont think I can get into it for real with a girl with kids. At least not while Im 21.

[Buckeyes_Doc]

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Oh, well I'm at it, have any of you guys had to deal with a long-distance relationship? My girlfriend is studying abroad in Turkey next semester, so it's gonna be killer for us being apart for like 4.5 months, but our plan is to skype each night at least.

Yeah for the last 5 years.

I've been away from my wife anywhere from 3-9 months every year since joining the Military in 2007. I've missed every anniversary and I'm currently deployed for 9 months, 2 months down 7 to go.

It's definitely tough, but it's gotten easier for us. Communication and trust is key and staying committed to each other.

Leaving her always suck but I love coming back, it's like the honeymoon phase all over again.

[AUChase]

I know a lot of younger girls don't like "nice guys", but it doesn't help to try to be something that you're not... hate seeing that.

There are too many people in this world to get Hung up pretending to be someone else to make them happy. You have to he happy with yourself too

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[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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Yeah for the last 5 years.

I've been away from my wife anywhere from 3-9 months every year since joining the Military in 2007. I've missed every anniversary and I'm currently deployed for 9 months, 2 months down 7 to go.

It's definitely tough, but it's gotten easier for us. Communication and trust is key and staying committed to each other.

Leaving her always suck but I love coming back, it's like the honeymoon phase all over again.

Nice to hear man. Yeah, we've only been together like half a year so far, but I can already tell that she's an extremely special person and I definitely want to wait the couple months that she'll be overseas to be able to be together again when she gets back, but I know it's going to suck while she's gone. Nice to hear it can be done.

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

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I got a girls number who was working the burger king on Syracuse's campus. I figured she was a student. Then she in passing mentions her son...then eventually I figured she was a townie. Tried my best to avoid her from then on but she worked the got damn cheapest food source on all of campus. After a while it was cool. Pretty cool chick in retrospect but she was a smoker...no thanks.

I dont think I can get into it for real with a girl with kids. At least not while Im 21.

The BK in Kimmel? Every time I went there this year there was a bald dude working there lol

[TarHeelMan]

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This right here absolutely killed me when I was in high school. I got hit with the friend zone by like half the freakin' school lol.

But once I got to college, girls started taking notice. You gotta start out with a sarcastic personality and then slowly start being nicer to them. Works like a charm.

Same here. My freshman year of high school and the first 3/4 of sophomore year, I was the perfect gentleman. Holding doors for broads, all that... Got me nowhere when I tried to lay down my rap. My epiphany came when we had this farce called "Flower Day" in my school. Basically you could buy flowers (red was love, pink was secret admirer, white or yellow was friendship). So I had this one hot little Asian number in mind, named Rosana. We had kicked it, I was a perfect gentleman and I was sure that Flower Day would be the coup de grace, my finishing move. I dug into my meager allowance and used $4 on four red flowers. (I know, pops was kinda tightfisted with the allowance) Flowers were delivered to homeroom, which was between 2nd and 3rd period. So I leave early expecting some made for TV moment where she sees me and falls madly in love, due to my splurging on the red flowers... I see this broad walking up the hall, and she's holding a veritable bouquet of at least 20 flowers, all red. I learned my lesson after that.

My junior and senior years I exacted my revenge upon the collective of the female species of Brooklyn Technical High School. I was much harsher, more direct in my treatment of them. I would hold nothing back, and I found often that the more feelings I hurt, the more disinterest I showed, the more they would want to sniff around. Afterwards I would make a determination of who was more deserving of my time and affection. I made up for my lack of success my first two years by enjoying a Kurt Warner like renaissance afterwards, which would serve me well up to the time I met my wife.