Lady Advice

[Altimus]

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Oh and you leave us hanging for three days before you tell us? Pot meet kettle.

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I agree...

[Marino]

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Atta kid Altimus. Now don't you feel dumb for overreacting.

Good luck on your date.

[djordan]

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Good luck.

Having no kids myself I cannot settle for pursuing something serious with a female that does have a child. Too many times have plans changed in regards to hanging out with a chick with kids due to not having a baby sitter, child being sick, etc.... I'll smash em but anything more is a no go.

[ANDROMADA 1]

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How is it talking to women with kids?

Im 25, I just started talking to a girl that has a kid. I've never talked to a girl that's had one before and I just came to the realization that I'm getting older now. So a girl having a kid is going to start becoming the norm.

I remember in high and college when I'd find out a girl had a kid, I'd be all like....

Depends. How is the daddy? Is he jealous? a good shot? Still in love with her etc? Watch your back. It can work but it is not easy. If you have no kids of your own and want something serious tread lightly.

peace

[ANDROMADA 1]

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Well, update time:

She got back to me Saturday and we're going out sometime this weekend. Win!

Cool. if you're really into her take your time. Even a year if needed. If its just for fun then you should have a bullpen. Wink, wink.:wink:

[Altimus]

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So no date. I called Thursday to verify the plans for Sunday, no answer. Left VM. Never responded until Sunday evening. I didn't answer either. At this point any interest has dropped because of her disappearing act.

[Mike Lowe]

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Just trying to help bud, but you're back burner material and her flattery right now and nothing more.

Get out and be glad you didn't waste any money.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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That bites man. For those all you can do is just move on and if she does honestly like you and want to go out then she'll contact you.

I had set up a date a couple months ago with a girl for dinner on a Friday after work. The morning of she texts me and says she has to go to a different town/city for work and wouldn't make it back in time. I replied back "Ok" and that was the last time I talked to her.

My thought process for these situations is that girly obviously had me on as a back burner plan. Homie don't play that ****.

[Altimus]

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Yep, I'm done.

[CMH]

Yep, I'm done.

Probably the best move though I realize it sucks too.


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[kenn5373]

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I liked tarheelman's post before I read it.

[DaveDQ]

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Stick to your guns on this. If you guys made plans and you called to make sure you were still on...and she didn't reply at all, her behavior shows a maturity deficiency. I'm not saying she's a bad apple or not good for you, but if the relationship has any future, this is an opportunity for you to show where you stand. That doesn't mean you get in her face an say, "WTF!" It just means you show her that you take relationships seriously and communication is key.

I read this somewhere before, "Never awaken love until it so desires." Sometimes we want to expedite things and maybe give love an innocent boost, but things need to happen to where you and the one involved get an idea of things. You were good to not chase her around, always giving her the idea that you are needy.

[Rocky]

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I dont know, Altimus. I wouldn't give up on her just yet. Just be patient. Maybe shoot her a text telling her that you hope everything is ok. Just keep that connection because you never know when she'll finally give in. Let her know that you are interested in potentially dating her (subtlely), but don't be too over anxious. I would let her know that it wasn't too cool what she did to you, but be understanding.

[kingkilla56]

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I agree, Altimus. I wouldn't give up on her either. Just be patient. Maybe shoot her a text telling her that you hope everything is ok. Just keep that connection because you never know when she'll finally give in. Let her know that you are interested in potentially dating her (subtlely), but don't be too over anxious.

He could hang on for dear life and never have his effort reciprocated.

Or he can go find a new girl. A few million available ones out there!

[Rocky]

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He could hang on for dear life and never have his effort reciprocated.

Or he can go find a new girl. A few million available ones out there!

True but I'm not saying cling to this girl and not meet new females. That is exactly what he should be doing, but I would still keep ties with this one. I know from experience that girls can just sense confidence and you gain that by talking to other girls. I think if you move on somewhat and make yourself unavailable a bit, then it could work wonders. But you will never get that chance if you shun her.