In Need Of Some Serious Advice (Yes. Relationship Issues)
I was thinking a lot about what you guys said about how if she did it before, whats to stop her from doing it again. That made a ton of sense. So I asked her that very question.
I woke up this morning and received this email from my ex...
What do you guys make of that?
Does that change anything in your opinion?
Be honest with me. Im still trying to figure out what I want to do man.
I was thinking a lot about what you guys said about how if she did it before, whats to stop her from doing it again. That made a ton of sense. So I asked her that very question.
I woke up this morning and received this email from my ex...
Originally posted by Ex Girlfriend
You have to understand that the last time we talked in person, I thought I was starting to love someone else. That put me in a very difficult situation because it wouldn't have made sense for me to tell you that I still loved you when I was breaking up with you. If I would have, you would have just asked "then why are you leaving?" I feel that I did have love for my ex but over time it became more and more apparent that we had too many differences that would probably not work in the long run.
When I started thinking of you again while I was with him, I felt very confused and torn. I had many dreams, at one point, that you and I were getting back together and I was so happy. Then at the end of the dream I would remember that I was still with Spencer and I couldn't do that. Every time I woke up I felt so guilty. I actually even told him once that I kept dreaming about you just because it felt so wrong. You know I'm so honest..maybe too much sometimes.
I can confidently say that I think we were meant to be apart while we were. Although I may change the way that it happened, I wouldn't undo what happened. I think we were meant to experience everything we've experienced in between and it has made us more mature, stronger, and wiser. Honestly, one of my biggest issues about us when we were together was the fact that we were so young and had only known each other. While that may work for a select few, I don't think I would have been completely happy had we stayed together from the age of 16 & 17. I think it would have ended at some point, one way or another. But I also remember telling you that I thought we were so good for each other and it would have been perfect if we had met later in life. I can't help but to think of that now. I can assure you that, despite what I told you when we broke up, my love for you has never completely gone away. I don't think I would still think of you after all this time if it had. Do you?
I have learned a lot about myself and about what is important in life. I think our relationships and experiences are really what make life worth living. I have learned characteristics of a partner that I would like and some that I won't tolerate. I appreciate and value the love, care, dedication and honesty that a partner can share with you, more than ever before. I am more mature, less jealous, and don't sweat the small stuff. I know what it's like to be taken advantage of and I certainly don't deserve it. I also realize that I'm a bit of a romantic and can daydream 'til the cows come home, but at the end of the day I think I am pretty realistic when it comes to relationships. It took me probably about a year to finally break up with Spencer. I think that I went through and gave up SO much to be with him, that I felt like I just had to make it work. I think he felt the same way. I tried..and tried and realized that things just weren't going to change. He would've stayed with me but I felt wise enough to look at it from a different perspective and see that it would not work. (Apparently, I was right because he's already engaged..lol)
Yes, I still think a lot. I can't say that will ever change. I tend to over-analyze..but I guess I'd rather think too much than not think at all. So yes, I have thought a lot about our situation and all the possibilities.
Soooo....whether it's from you or someone else, I know I deserve a special kind of love and it will come when the time is right. And I believe you do too.
I am not offended or hurt by your ambivalence towards me.. It is expected. I understand if you need some time to respond...think..meditate..whatever you need to do. I want there to be ZERO pressure in this situation- I believe our true thoughts and emotions have tremendous power as vibrations that move through the universe. If we both truly feel a longing for one another, doors will open and we will be brought together. If not...our paths will continue in different directions.
p.s. These are some reasons it may be different for us now. There is no guarantee though. I wouldn't make any promises... if anything.. I would want to start by just being your friend again.
When I started thinking of you again while I was with him, I felt very confused and torn. I had many dreams, at one point, that you and I were getting back together and I was so happy. Then at the end of the dream I would remember that I was still with Spencer and I couldn't do that. Every time I woke up I felt so guilty. I actually even told him once that I kept dreaming about you just because it felt so wrong. You know I'm so honest..maybe too much sometimes.
I can confidently say that I think we were meant to be apart while we were. Although I may change the way that it happened, I wouldn't undo what happened. I think we were meant to experience everything we've experienced in between and it has made us more mature, stronger, and wiser. Honestly, one of my biggest issues about us when we were together was the fact that we were so young and had only known each other. While that may work for a select few, I don't think I would have been completely happy had we stayed together from the age of 16 & 17. I think it would have ended at some point, one way or another. But I also remember telling you that I thought we were so good for each other and it would have been perfect if we had met later in life. I can't help but to think of that now. I can assure you that, despite what I told you when we broke up, my love for you has never completely gone away. I don't think I would still think of you after all this time if it had. Do you?
I have learned a lot about myself and about what is important in life. I think our relationships and experiences are really what make life worth living. I have learned characteristics of a partner that I would like and some that I won't tolerate. I appreciate and value the love, care, dedication and honesty that a partner can share with you, more than ever before. I am more mature, less jealous, and don't sweat the small stuff. I know what it's like to be taken advantage of and I certainly don't deserve it. I also realize that I'm a bit of a romantic and can daydream 'til the cows come home, but at the end of the day I think I am pretty realistic when it comes to relationships. It took me probably about a year to finally break up with Spencer. I think that I went through and gave up SO much to be with him, that I felt like I just had to make it work. I think he felt the same way. I tried..and tried and realized that things just weren't going to change. He would've stayed with me but I felt wise enough to look at it from a different perspective and see that it would not work. (Apparently, I was right because he's already engaged..lol)
Yes, I still think a lot. I can't say that will ever change. I tend to over-analyze..but I guess I'd rather think too much than not think at all. So yes, I have thought a lot about our situation and all the possibilities.
Soooo....whether it's from you or someone else, I know I deserve a special kind of love and it will come when the time is right. And I believe you do too.
I am not offended or hurt by your ambivalence towards me.. It is expected. I understand if you need some time to respond...think..meditate..whatever you need to do. I want there to be ZERO pressure in this situation- I believe our true thoughts and emotions have tremendous power as vibrations that move through the universe. If we both truly feel a longing for one another, doors will open and we will be brought together. If not...our paths will continue in different directions.
p.s. These are some reasons it may be different for us now. There is no guarantee though. I wouldn't make any promises... if anything.. I would want to start by just being your friend again.
Does that change anything in your opinion?
Be honest with me. Im still trying to figure out what I want to do man.
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