Tips On Getting A Girlfriend

[NewscasterNews4]

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The reason I posted this thread was not because I didn't know how to talk to girls, but some advice on how to avoid rejection in my situation. I'm very capable of talking to girls, but my ways of talking to them haven't worked. I've faced rejection before, heck I got rejected at my Homecoming Dance freshman year when I asked this girl to dance with me (fun fact: we're pretty good friends now). Also, I've even been stood up when this girl told me she would go out with me, only to leave me alone at the movie theater on that day. In the end, the reason I posted this thread was not how to learn how to talk to girls (I'm friends with the 2nd hottest girl in the school rn plus plenty of other girls who I don't want to get serious with), but the best course of action to avoid rejection in my situation (which, of course, seems inevitable).

[TheShizNo1]

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You're gonna get rejected. Unavoidable. I think what Phobia said, which I agree with, is that nothing in this thread can help you with that. Things like this you just have to live and learn.

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[kingkilla56]

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Only way to avoid rejection is to avoid girls. Get used to rejection, embrace it, bathe in it. Once you mentally get past the possibility of rejection, things just naturally become so much easier.

[wwharton]

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I get your point behind it and agree with you but I think some things can't be learned reading or watching a video over the Internet. We could all tell him how to handle the situation and what to do but that still won't give him the life lessons learn through ....well living life. In this case, walking up and talking to women revolve completely around self confidence and the only way to gain that is believing in yourself plus getting out there attempting what makes you nervous.

So I agree asking questions there is nothing wrong but in this case I think tough love is best route. Kind of like throwing someone in the deep end so they learn to swim or take of the training wheels and let a couple bruises happen. He needs to just bite the bullet and do things that scares him, only then will he learn those fears or not as scary as what he has fabricated in his head.


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I'll repeat my last post, everything you said here is good advice and goes along with exactly what he (and probably others) need to hear. People learn in different ways. Even if the answer is "there is no answer" that's good advice to hear from someone you trust. Then you add to that "chances of a relationship lasting at that age are too slim to worry about it" and "you'll be better in the long run getting yourself set up for college" etc. and this seems like a pretty helpful thread for the OP and the many other HS kids probably watching this thread quietly for fear of being criticized for asking a similar question.

Ultimately, yeah you just have to dive in the deep end and believe that you will be able to swim. But there are lots of things that can be said to help you feel confident in that belief. I was scared to swim as a kid (literally) and my brother pushed me in... others just jumped in. End of the day, same result. This thread can be a helpful push.

[Mabster]

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Ignore all the guys saying having a girlfriend isn't a big deal.

It's fricken sweet (as long as you've got the right one).

You just can't force the issue of having one just to have one. That how you end up with the wrong one.

[Jr.]

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The reason I posted this thread was not because I didn't know how to talk to girls, but some advice on how to avoid rejection in my situation. I'm very capable of talking to girls, but my ways of talking to them haven't worked. I've faced rejection before, heck I got rejected at my Homecoming Dance freshman year when I asked this girl to dance with me (fun fact: we're pretty good friends now). Also, I've even been stood up when this girl told me she would go out with me, only to leave me alone at the movie theater on that day. In the end, the reason I posted this thread was not how to learn how to talk to girls (I'm friends with the 2nd hottest girl in the school rn plus plenty of other girls who I don't want to get serious with), but the best course of action to avoid rejection in my situation (which, of course, seems inevitable).

No one shoots 100%. Rejection is a part of life and you need to learn from it, not avoid it.

Either way, why would you want to ask this girl out again if she already stood you up once? That should be a huge sign that this girl doesn't want to date you.

[PVarck31]

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Brad Paisley sang a song called "Me Neither" that's the perfect way to deal with rejection.

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[NewscasterNews4]

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No one shoots 100%. Rejection is a part of life and you need to learn from it, not avoid it.

Either way, why would you want to ask this girl out again if she already stood you up once? That should be a huge sign that this girl doesn't want to date you.

That was a different girl.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Learn how to network. It will help you the rest of your life.

[SoAwesome]

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The lol is all at you if you think OS is just a buncha video game nerds.

If you're posting on video game forum, then you're video game nerd. It's not an insult, its the truth man.

[shugknight]

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From the great words of Tyrion Lannister

“Let me give you some advice, bastard: Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.”

In other words, don't fear rejection.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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If you're posting on video game forum, then you're video game nerd. It's not an insult, its the truth man.

Hilarious point aside - what does that have to do with asking for advice?

[Darkleaf]

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Completely agree. I'm 21 and don't have/have never had a girlfriend. I'm not sweating it too badly. Some days it can seem like everyone around me is in relationships and I get kind of down, but I always take a step back and think "This is stupid" because, simply put, it'll happen when it happens. No need to press and worry about it, plus you've got plenty of time. You're only a sophomore in HS. You have a ton of time and there are, as they say, plenty of fish in the sea.

I commend you for not caring, having said that don't be that guy who wakes up at 30 and has never been with a woman before.. I have friends one in particular who left high school thinking the same thing..
He's 29 now and basically wasted the years where you figure out who you are with someone and what you would like in a partner and trying out all the things you can't do with a wifey..
To each his own but waiting around for something to happen doesnt work..

[AdamJones113]

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Tips on how to make a classic OS thread:

1. Either be in high school or a relationship.
2. Have something extremely funny happen to you at least twice.
3. Need advice on something.
4. Be named Evan (I think.)
5. Mash these into one.

6. Post thread in OS Neighborhood with title: "Need Some Advice. (Blank) Problem (Blank) (Blank) Help."

Wait for posts to pile up.

Only get a girlfriend if you want, don't feel the need to rush it.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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I commend you for not caring, having said that don't be that guy who wakes up at 30 and has never been with a woman before.. I have friends one in particular who left high school thinking the same thing..
He's 29 now and basically wasted the years where you figure out who you are with someone and what you would like in a partner and trying out all the things you can't do with a wifey..
To each his own but waiting around for something to happen doesnt work..

AC Green was 39 before he ever was with a woman.