Do You Buy Females Drinks In The Club?

[aholbert32]

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Going over 20 bucks is pulling out the "big guns"?

I am not saying you have to lay out a fortune, but I can't imagine taking a girl out and telling her, uh yeah this is going to be a free date.

My wife would have laughed me out of town. I'd still be single.

I guess I come from a different perspective. I come from a family full of women. None of them are golddiggers but Ive heard them call a ton of guys cheap because they tried to pull what DC pulls. None of the guys get second dates.

[DC]

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See what DC doesnt understand or care about is that they way he looks at girls....some girls will look at him the same way. They see him as a cheap *** guy who isnt willing to spend 20 bucks and isnt worth their time.

Oh I do understand that. I know some will view it as me being CHEAP; but in the same breathe some will understand that, "Oh I see I have to work hard to get with this dude."

Remember women like the challenge and presenting them with behavior that isn't "normal" or isn't essentially crowning their worth before they even PROVE they are worth is a turn on to some women.

[bkrich83]

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Thats not the case. DCallamerican just has a small pool of women he can date. I know some girls that will accept a man being cheap on the first date. Most of them are fat and/or ugly but they are out there. Most girls wont give you a second date if you refuse to even spend the smallest amount on them.

See what DC doesnt understand or care about is that they way he looks at girls....some girls will look at him the same way. They see him as a cheap *** guy who isnt willing to spend 20 bucks and isnt worth their time.

Gotcha.

Back to the original topic. If some girl walked up and asked me to buy her a drink, I'd say no thank you. But when I go out to the bars, I buy people drinks all the time. I am what you would term a happy drunk when I am out (which is a rarity these days.). I buy drinks for my friends, people I just met, I buy rounds for the group of people I am with all the time. Most of my friends do the same thing.

[Nivek]

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Oh man, DC I agree with you a lot of points, but I think you're way off on how you handle the dating scene. I think your stubborn selfish pride and approach to women stems from a past filled with issues with the opposite sex. (I'm just guessing here, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)

I understand that people treat the dating scene differently or in your case...very differently, but ultimately it's an open market.

[DC]

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Gotcha.

Back to the original topic. If some girl walked up and asked me to buy her a drink, I'd say no thank you. But when I go out to the bars, I buy people drinks all the time. I am what you would term a happy drunk when I am out (which is a rarity these days.). I buy drinks for my friends, people I just met, I buy rounds for the group of people I am with all the time. Most of my friends do the same thing.

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[DC]

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I think your stubborn selfish pride and approach to women stems from a past filled with issues with the opposite sex. (I'm just guessing here, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)

Yea you are wrong. Thats definitely not the case.

It can be related to your whole, "Buy me a drink" logic. You can use that as a way to stand out as I said. To put a challenge to these females. It isn't about ego per-se but it is about not doing what everyone is doing that "appears" to be the "right sure fire" thing to do.

[bkrich83]

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Yes I am sure you do want to be a baller.

[aholbert32]

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Oh I do understand that. I know some will view it as me being CHEAP; but in the same breathe some will understand that, "Oh I see I have to work hard to get with this dude."

Remember women like the challenge and presenting them with behavior that isn't "normal" or isn't essentially crowning their worth before they even PROVE they are worth is a turn on to some women.

I guess I'm similar in a way. I recently realized that I dont compliment women much. Where some guys immediately say that a girl is beautiful or looks nice tonight, I dont. Girls Ive dated said they like that because its a challenge and when i do compliment them...they know i mean it. The difference between me and DC is I dont even realize I'm presenting them with a challenge. He purposely does that.

[Nivek]

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The difference between me and DC is I dont even realize I'm presenting them with a challenge. He purposely does that.

Exactly, that's what makes me think he's got female issues. It's one thing to just subconsciously do it, it's another thing to forcefully establish the challenge.

[DC]

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I won't say I PURPOSELY do it, because it is 2nd nature to me. I don't do the compliments all the time like you. If anything I compliment something that I know most dudes won't even bother to compliment. Why? Again to stand out from the crowd.

Hell I know this dude that does the exact opposite. Instead of complimenting a woman, he meets and girl and points out a flaw. And it works a lot of the time. The women often appreciate his honesty and straightfowardness. Of course some of them cuss him out but he has a good success rate with it. I am not that bold though LOL

[bkrich83]

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Exactly, that's what makes me think he's got female issues. It's one thing to just subconsciously do it, it's another thing to forcefully establish the challenge.

Agreed.

This and the other threads make me happy about one thing. I don't have worry about dating and all this other stuff anymore.

[Nivek]

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Instead of complimenting a woman, he meets and girl and points out a flaw. And it works a lot of the time. The women often appreciate his honesty and straightfowardness. Of course some of them cuss him out but he has a good success rate with it. I am not that bold though LOL

Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnn, that ain't right. That's emotional abuse, that's not cool at all.

[The 24th Letter]

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I think those "Hitch", "Two Can Play That Game" movies got some a little mixed up.....male\female interaction isnt the chess match your making it...lol

[bkrich83]

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I think those "Hitch", "Two Can Play That Game" movies got some a little mixed up.....male\female interaction isnt the chess match your making it...lol

This is quite possibly the best post of this ridiculous thread.

[Brandwin]

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When I said i wouldn't buy a woman a drink that was a random woman with the "for me to talk to her I am going to ask her what she is drinking and buy her one" if I am talking to someone and we have good conversation or if I am there with people I know I might buy them a drink. But I have seen too many guys get played by buying a random girl a drink thinking it's the path to her panties just for the girl to stand there long enough to get more or walk away when she is done.

But like I said, the bar/club scene was never my style really. I would rather meet a woman somewhere else then at a club/bar. But I am not into random sex either so...

BTW about Nivek's line. I take it as a something funny to break the ice. i don't even think he meant it as, buy me a drink if you want to talk to me bitch, not the other way around. It's something different to spark interest and some would find it pretty funny (depending on how you say it) and could spark conversation.